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These are Ramblings of a concerned woman/mother and human being
The five types of human behavior, ( AT LEAST KNOWN WIDELY ) They are passive-aggressive, assertive, aggressive, passive and the lesser-known alternator, a pattern of behavior where an individual switches from one type of behavior to another. Unlike individuals who are passive-aggressive, alternators do not use two behavior styles at the same time.
People exhibiting passive-aggressive behavior are contradictory and unreliable because they are constantly acting in contradiction to their true intentions.
Aggressive behavior, on the other hand, is based on the desire to dominate and control others. However, aggression is typically the result of feeling helpless, and it is an attempt to regain feelings of being in control by trying to bully others. Aggression is only acceptable under a limited set of circumstances.
Passive behavior is the result of an irrational desire to please everyone, Individuals who exhibit this behavior are unreliable because they try to be everything to everyone. Like aggression, passive behavior is only useful in select circumstances.
Assertiveness as the ideal behavioral style because it is balanced and realistic. The behavior style is not domineering, and neither is it too giving. It is rooted on a healthy respect for self and others.
Human behavior changes over time in response to an interplay of factors including age, genetics, attitude and prevailing societal norms. that is why we have a plethora of formal and informal rules and regulations governing behavior. Response to these rules varies from one individual to the next.
In this show I think all the characters are displaying these behaviors.
A behavior becomes disturbing and invasive when it crosses boundaries .
Dev: 1.0 Passive- Aggressive
Sona 1.0 -Passive
Sona 2.0- Trying to be Assertive
Dev 2.0 Aggressive
We have seen patterns throughout the show of these behaviors but what is acceptable behavior is the million dollar question here because there is personal acceptance where each one of us accept some form of behavior which disturbs us due to various factors but in reality should recognize some red flag 's and SHOULD NOT accept certain behaviors as it breaks the real Code of Conduct..the self imposed one that we all should measure ourselves against
Invasion of Personal Space: When our personal space is invaded ( here the key word is Invaded) red flags should go up. Here legally Sona's office is her personal space that she has papers to prove she possesses..Just like Dev has every right to buy any property in the market she can but any property in the market..even if it his office because legally it was for sale.
Invasion of Privacy: Him snatching her phone - it is again an invasion of her privacy and private property- just like her snatching his phone ..just because he snatched she snatching is not acceptable..so what is the difference between the two of them?
Stalking: Is an offense whether it is cyber or otherwise that is why there is laws against it
Harassment - is a serious serous offense- it is defined as an aggressive pressure or intimidation. Locking someone in an office- even if that person says bring IT on is an offence..if she had died, suffocated etc it is manslaughter. And just because some one challenges you or you perceive it is a challenge your aggressive actions does not justify it. Say for example a woman dressed provocatively does not give Men rights to hit on her
Offensive Language: Just because someone calls you names in private does not make it OK if it offends.. the same applies to calling people names in public ..so in essence something which offends is OFFENSIVE there are no ifs buts about it. Offensive language does not have the same connotations very time ..If someone calls me classless versus someone calling me a SL**. Just like someone calls a Guy a Jerk versus calls him a Gigolo..Let us demarcate the difference.
What they are displaying on this show is a Toxic situation that cannot be sugar coated as simple fights between two people, or simple arguments..it is psychological games being played by an aggressor that though Sona is not a Victim yet in real life can be..
So for all the Young woman out there please recognize patterns of behavior..if something does not feel right it is not right..Go with your Gut
And for the young Men out there remember your boundaries because in reality they are called boundaries for a reason-a line that marks the limits of an area; a dividing line.
I know this is just a show but please be aware that in reality these are disturbing patterns of behavior that does not just need a tub of popcorn but an awareness
A concerned Mother
****adding Mr Das a concerned father*****And all the concerned parents
