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Was thinking a lot whether to write or avoid writing as much has been said about the 2 characters since Friday i guess... The last episode of last week left the forum jumping into conclusions even before watching Monday's episode and even Monday's episode didn't do much good to it.
These days i prefer avoid writing in the forum. There's a lot of Moral Policing been done here.
Now coming to my post, I have read a lot of adjectives being used for both Dev and Shruti last night. I actually wanted to be a bit sarcastic here, but some really sensitive words are been used, i actually don't get it how some of us don't even think and just write anything and everything we feel like.
I know... I know, its an open forum and anybody can write anything. Everybody has the right to share their POV. It has been said a lot of time and i am aware of it, that's the reason, even i pen down my thoughts and write whatever is in my mind. But again i feel use of words should not go overboard. May be because while writing i just cannot even think of using some words which are truly harsh.. Degrading... Disrespectful or may hurt someone.
Lets Talk About Dev First: Dev - The Moster
I think this is what a lot of people say.
I'll never support manhandling... But lets look into the scenario, when did Dev grabbed Shruti's arm?? It was when all his old woulds started bleeding again. And he got angry... Yes, even anger cannot justify for you to hold someone like that.
But while i think of anger, irrespective of it being a Man or a Woman, we do some of the wrong things like these. If at all Dev has gone beyond that hurting Shruti even more, i would have definitely criticized him...!!! Once again i would say, normal human beings are tend to do stupidity in anger. We do some regretful things while angry. And later will have to apologize for our behavior.
If you want somebody to act sane while his/her 7 years old never healing wounds starts bleeding again, than it sounds a lot more theoretical to me... It is very easy to advise and difficult to face the same situation on yourself.. We can very easily say, if i would have been in his place/her place... But when we actually are in the situation, we don't know what we would have done... And anyways, each and every individual is different and don't act the same way in the same situation and that's why we are humans.
Just because you wanted someone to think before reacting in a situation, doesn't make you correct and the person wrong.
BTW i have seen the word Rapist being used for Dev. Like seriously... This is called being insensitive. Think before using such words dear. It's not something we can use casually. It is related to a really very sensitive topic and we call ourselves responsible people. Responsible man and woman don't just use these words anywhere...!! And yes it is also been said that the guy was having Sex with the girl. Height of assumptions. Also, he has been called an Escort, a Male prostitute here.
People really think that if they have gone to such an extent in the relationship, the girl would have forgiven him just like that. She would have gone leaving him just by saying you are mad. If that was the case, Shruti would not have required Sona to tell her what is to be done. Girls of modern age are that strong that they themselves can fight back and can punish the man who would use them. Think before making those claims as nothing of that sort was shown or hinted upon. It is a fictional show after all, will never have a hidden meaning to anything. If that would have been the case, it would have been hinted in their conversation atleast.
Now Shruti - An Innocent Soul
Yes, she's for a lot of us... A pure and innocent soul.. Dev did wrong to throw her out of his room... But she's been used and a lot of things has been said as of now. Making her the victim... But is she really the victim.
BTW she seemed quite mature to me... Atleast by the look of it... And whatever decision she must have taken, she must have thought about it. Obviously, its her life after all.
Now after coming out she had a conversation with Sona... And Sona said you don't love him... You loved his money and his charm and the girl was quite... Frankly speaking before that i felt bad for her... But than, i was surprised.. She didn't answer back, she didn't retaliated... So the girl was with him for his money... Because if there was some other girl, who actually loved the guy and was not after his money, she would have shouted at Sona.. But she kept quite. I don't find her the victim here.
Then Sona had to tell her what she should tell Dev... Come on, he has hurt you and you are asking someone else that what should i say, how to give it back to him.
And why was that for because you have stated that it was you in your earlier relationships who have dumped the guys and this is the first time a guy dumped you. 👏👏👏
And here, your ego was hurt... 👏👏👏 Wow, i mean because it is the first time you didn't dump a guy and it is the other way out, you are pissed with that and not because he has thrown you out of his room or whatever he said to you. I was surprised.
So here we talk about Modern age woman... She should fight back and should not take any injustice happening to her. But guys, it should be actually in a genuine case. I am today's girl and i know how to fight for myself.
Here, we talk about the society, Modern Women... Modern Men... We should not always keep our mind on one track... Think from both the sides... We talk about equality and all... But we don't apply it in our thought process. While writing we should think of both the perspectives, whether of a Man or a Woman and just should not overlook the mistakes a woman did...!!! When we talk about equal rights and Man - Woman treated equally, it is applicable to our thought process too. We should think from both the sides.
This again is solely my POV and just wanted to share it here.
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I have seen a lot of people saying why are people criticizing Shruti.. Calling her Chipkali and all... But here in the same space Dev was called an Escort, Rapist, Moron, Male Prostitute and what not... Is it fine to call a Man by any name? Are there different rules for a man and a woman? Name calling is absolutely fine for a man but it'll be an issue in case of a Woman, when the words used in the other case were making fun off (and they we re not meant to her anybody) and not anywhere even near to the words being used for Dev.
I actually don't believe in name calling... But if it is wrong for a woman, it is applicable for a man too.
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