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Today I had to write a post to thank the CVs for such an enlightening episode. What I learned from this show, I didn't think it was possible to learn in 21st century.
1. A woman stepping into her new life as a married woman should be welcomed with taunts and humiliation (because tradition, you see) while the man who promised to protect her honour and respect her for the rest of her life just less than a couple of hours ago should watch silently because he respects elders (of his family only, elders of other family, more specifically his wife's family is fair game)
2. A good daughter-in-law should keep her mouth shut, blend in with the wallpaper, show up in her husband's bed when she is summoned, perform in bed on demand whether less than an hour ago she was treated like crap or not and basically accept whatever decision her husband decide to make on her behalf without finding it necessary to consult with her whether that decision impacts her life or not.
3. If her husband constantly lies, she still can't call him a lier. Because lier are people who lies and are women. If a husband is a pathological lier, you should always see his intention to see if there is anyway you can find anything to justify his lies every single time.
4. A wife complaints that a man can never understand how it feels to leave her whole life back and live with strangers. The husband comes back an excellent comparison. He says that a woman can never understand how it feels when a man falls in love with a stranger and devoted her life to her. What a comparison, no? As if the woman didn't also fall in love with a stranger and had to devote her life to him. Now that's comparing apples with oranges.
5. But not to worry. The husband holds the wife, the wife looks at the handsome face of the husband, cue in romantic background music and *ta da* all fight over because who wastes opportunity to have sex with meaningless conversation and communicate.
6. And since sex fries brain cells, the wife decides to thank her mother-in-law for arranging their excellent honeymoon where every step of the way she was reminded what is her purpose in life and how she is falling short. Excellent CVs. You really know how to show a woman her place.
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http://www.hindustantimes.com/world/bollywood-bad-influence-helps-indian-man-escape-conviction-for-stalking-aus-women/story-iuoSfczLoZKSbPJKkz6NeK.html
Congratulations!!!
However, farther lesson continues of "an ideal man"
The husband and wife reach home where his in-laws are being humiliated by his family. He very calmly tries to explain that it was NOT a big deal (it would have been a big deal if his mother was being insulted like when he made his mother-in-law take away his father-in-law because he pointed out the truth of his mother, but because his wife's parents were being insulted, it was definitely not a big deal).
Then his mother asks him to tell the truth. The voice that raises so loud when someone points finger at his family, the voice that doesn't falter when he tells lies, that voice was so quiet and apologetic to speak the truth today that I had to increase my volume to hear him.
The "ideal daughter" tries to speak in equally weak voice to spare her parents (I don't know about you, but I'd have teared apart anyone who speaks to my parents like that. But then I love my family).
His mother sat down shocked that her son, the puppet, dared to hand over his hard-earned money for his wife, to his wife's brother without consulting with her. So the man got concerned because his mother sat down (No, she was not sick or fainted. She just sat down). Not at all concerned for the extensive humiliation his own family member put his in-laws through, just because his mother sat down on the plush couch (not on the floor either).
His father-in-law who is by now angry as heck because you know daughter and wife, none has the loyalty he has to his family (he was by this time called a cheat, a lier, a fraud, a trickster, his wife has been insulted, his son has been insulted, his integrity and honour questioned), so he is still shouting. Now the ideal son who was trying to make his mother talk to him (because after all priorities), turned around with his arms swinging and slaps his father-in-law.
Now I'd like to know who turns around with their arms swinging?
I am 5'3 and a quarter, my husband is 6'2" of massively built man. Even at the ugliest fight, even if I was standing right behind him, I never had to once wonder or be scared that this massive man might "accidentally" swing his arms and hit me. I know one hit of his would break my face. But I can stand in front of him eyes to chest and fight with all my strength, I am that secured in the knowledge that he can crush someone for me, but never can raise even a finger in aggression towards me.
I wonder, if Dev's Mama or his mother was standing behind him, he would still turn with his arms swinging regardless how mad he is or how drunk he is. I don't think so.
Why? Have any of you heard someone swinging their arms like that and hit their boss? Or their own father? Or their own mother?
Because no matter how angry we get, when we know the person who is standing close to our arms length is someone we respect, we don't swing our arms like that.
The husband runs after his father-in-law to say sorry. But that mistake just tipped the pot that he has been filling with his lies.
The father-in-law refuses to forgive him because by now he realised that his son-in-law has the capability of a gnat to form relationship with anyone beyond his own family. So being the guy he is, he'd rather not waste his time calling him his son.
The wife goes after her father (thank God, I thought she'd be the understanding wife, again). She tells her husband that she has to go with him because he is her father.
I'd have thought a girl would go with her father in this circumstances because the thought of living with the family who insulted hers is abhorrent to her. But well, I guess it's just me.
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