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Kuch Rang Pyar Ke Aise Bhi : What Is More Important - Being A Good Man Or A Good Human?

by Saheli Goswami

about 2 hours ago

This article on Kuch Rang Pyar Ke Aise Bhi is necessarily not on the current track of the show but surely it has my own thoughts regarding the upcoming track of the show.

The current track that is at present dealing with Ishwari's competition with Sonakshi has nothing much to write about, but still will give my two cents on it.

At the age of retirement, when one should seat back and relax especially when you have an understanding son and daughter in law, you still tend to compete with your 26 years old daughter in law.

It's like a school's pass out student getting jealous of the same school's current topper. And with a weird logic the pass out student wants to enroll back in the same class out of ego to again compete with the current student. As much as the pass out student is illogical in this example, Ishwari is in the same way appearing brainless in the current episodes.

Yes, she is a wonderful mother. A mother who cares more about her being right or wrong rather than her own daughter's (Riya) future. It's painful to watch how a mother in law's egoistic sentiments are ruining the judgment of a mother for her own daughter.

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However, today's article is about Dev and also we will dwell about the question of whether it is at all important enough for a man to be a good husband in our society and to understand that we will take examples from a lot of mythologies.

The foundation of our society dates back to thousands of years ago. The principles, rules, customs, rituals of this society is based on the beliefs and teachings of the mythological era. It is said that the first time a girl was given the right in her father and husband's property was during Ram's era after Sita's death. It was something that Lord Ram did to empower the women of Ayodhya as he realised how much wrong he did to his pregnant wife when he sent her to exile in the forest denying her the right to enter Ayodhya's palace. A realisation that dawned quite late on him.

Anyway, as Ishwari few days gave a big lecture on Ram, Kaushalya and Vanvaas, a very curious thought crossed my mind. The Hindu mythologies that surely is the primary source of our modern society's foundation, do they have any example of a good husband?

We have Lord Ram as the perfect son who gave vanvaas to her newly wedded wife (along with himself) for his step mother (Kaikeyi), we have Lakshman who also left his newly wedded wife to be with his elder brother, Lord Ram again sent his wife to exile after returning back to Ayodhya to please his prajaa . Then we have from Mahabharat 5 excellent brothers (Pandavas), the elder of whom (Yudhishthir) didn't think twice before putting his own wife to bet in a game of dice. His 4 other brothers stayed as mute spectators while watching their cousins trying to disrobe their wife.

Everytime in every epic or mythology a woman is insulted, humiliated and looked down upon within her own family and by her own family members while the husbands, who promised them security, respect and love by taking the saat pheres remained silent owing to their other more prioritized duties.

If Ram is a perfect example of a son, Lakshman is a perfect example of a brother, the Pandavas are also great sons and brothers, then why the Hindu mythology can't give us one single perfect example of an ideal husband? Why from mythology to reality to present societal beliefs, everywhere fulfilling a husband's duty becomes secondary in front of all other relations considering the big talks, lavish customs and the grand manner through which we make two people come together for a lifetime? It's weird, the so called saat janmo ka rishta' becomes secondary in front of all other ek janam ka rishta'.

That's where the fault lies. People might think why I am dragging the mythologies here. But we can't deny that the way we lead our lives, our thoughts, our society, our teachings are all a fruit of our history. And our history didn't consider that a man needs to become an ideal husband or that should be his priority in any way.

A good son is a good man. A good brother is a good man. A good father is a good man. But who said you need to be a good husband to be a good man? The great man' Yudhishthir still went to heaven with his dog even after putting his wife as a bet in the game of dice in the name of dharma. Do we consider it as adharma' ? No.

I guess, we dwell too much on the thought of how to become a good man instead of a human. From that era till now, if only people thought of what will make a good human instead of a good son, good brother or good man, things would not have become so confusing.

Anyway, enough of mythology. Coming to the show now. Sonakshi is very soon going to be humiliated and insulted at the Dixit house. The lady will be insulted by the other ladies only. Now the ball will be in her husband's court whether to stand firmly with his wife or just be another mother's son this time as well.

I have a question to ask you Dev. Being a good son to your mother is obviously necessary to any child. But does that give you the license to treat your wife as trash? I am sure you don't think so. But you know for me who is a good man or let's say a good human? A man who is with the right' and has the guts to stand against the wrong' is the best man and the most honourable human. Don't think that you are with your wife or against your mother or vice versa, instead just ask your own judgment about who is right and stand for what you believe is the right' thing.

Or else, you will become like another of those mythological heroes, who just focused too much on becoming a good brother and son, and sent their wives to exile or let them suffer in the hands of their own family.

Indian society is weird and the issue of infertility is all the more complicated. Did you know that in some parts of Bihar and Jharkhand, the ladies who give birth to only one child in their entire lifetime are subjected to more humiliation than women who can't give birth to children at all? They say, bearing only one child brings bad omen to the family and the women is the bearer of bad women. And hence, with this logic India suffers from overload of population and increased malnutrition.

P.S:- One small word to Ishwari. You said you are Kaushalya in that birthday speech of yours. Your son is Ram. And sometimes mother gets vanvaas in their own house as son gets busy with wife and friends. I will tell you otherwise. You are Kaikeyi' and not Kaushalya'. You, like Kaikeyi, giving the excuse of the rights of your other children defamed your son Dev to sign on papers that can send him in a kind of mental exile which might turn out to be something equal to that vanvaas you were referring to. It reminds me the way Kaikeyi' took away Ram's happiness from him in order to gift the same to her another son Bharat. Yes, as you said, every son is not like Ram. But your son definitely is. But you are not at all Kaushalya. You are simply being Kaikeyi.

P.P.S:- There is one God among the Hindus who is regarded as the most ideal husband and that is Lord Shiva. However, he is God. And we were considering examples of those Gods who resided on earth as humans.

Disclaimer - This article is not written to hurt anyone's sentiments. The content of the article is entirely based upon the writer's discretion.

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This is what i been discussing with my friend since ages.
Disrespecting your wife for ur family has been in our society since eternity. Women has always been considered a commodity in Indian society. Women is a thing meant for procreation a, household and rearing kids. Worst is in our society is woman is other woman's biggest enemy.

Our generation i think i most stricken. Now women have become educated they have a thinking mind, they compete with men at all levels and are doing equally gud in all spheres. But still when they enter ther household premesis, they expected to becum and act dumb and illiterate. They should just listen and follow orders.

Our society has long way to go as far as women liberation goes.

Originally posted by: dbrk

This is what i been discussing with my friend since ages.
Disrespecting your wife for ur family has been in our society since eternity. Women has always been considered a commodity in Indian society. Women is a thing meant for procreation a, household and rearing kids. Worst is in our society is woman is other woman's biggest enemy.

Our generation i think i most stricken. Now women have become educated they have a thinking mind, they compete with men at all levels and are doing equally gud in all spheres. But still when they enter ther household premesis, they expected to becum and act dumb and illiterate. They should just listen and follow orders.

Our society has long way to go as far as women liberation goes.

Very apt article
Must read fr d cv's

I agree with the article and kudos to the writer for pointing it out that in our society, it is praised when a man is a good son or a good brother but there is no appreciateion when he is a good husband and good human being too. Dev and Sona act as if giving respect to Sona at Dixit house is not her right but a privilege and depends on the whims of his mother. Sona is Dev's legally wedded wife and no one cares for her likes and dislikes in her own room decor, no one waits for her for the family functions, no one cares about including her in the pictures. Ishwari thinks it is her birth right to yell at her every day for one resaon or the other. For example, they never told her that chappals were not allowed in tulsi puja at their house and was yelling at her for wearing them on the first day of her marriage, she yelled at her for frying kachories which she did on her son's orders. I agree that Dev did not witness any of this but Sona should not be this polite and ask the mother and son duo to keep their emotional shit together and act rationally (Sorrry for my rude words here !)

Originally posted by: baijubavra

I agree with the article and kudos to the writer for pointing it out that in our society, it is praised when a man is a good son or a good brother but there is no appreciateion when he is a good husband and good human being too. Dev and Sona act as if giving respect to Sona at Dixit house is not her right but a privilege and depends on the whims of his mother. Sona is Dev's legally wedded wife and no one cares for her likes and dislikes in her own room decor, no one waits for her for the family functions, no one cares about including her in the pictures. Ishwari thinks it is her birth right to yell at her every day for one resaon or the other. For example, they never told her that chappals were not allowed in tulsi puja at their house and was yelling at her for wearing them on the first day of her marriage, she yelled at her for frying kachories which she did on her son's orders. I agree that Dev did not witness any of this but Sona should not be this polite and ask the mother and son duo to keep their emotional shit together and act rationally (Sorrry for my rude words here !)

Yes , Ishwari had a tough time raising 4 kids in extreme poverty as an uneducated single mother but Sona did not ask her to reproduce like a rabbit without any planning to raise them in the first place. Dev cant live without Sona so he got married to her but he is not ready to tolerate a single change in even his room decor! He ditches their plans at the last minute without even informing her. Why can't he tell his mother to postpone her plans for some 15-20 minutes so she can be included in her plans when she comes ?

I think the bottom line for all these situtaions is that a wife is still treated as a commodity in our society while all the other relationships are given much more respect. A person (both a man and woman) needs to learn to respect another human being first before getting married. Why do Dev and Sona feel guilty when they have a plan for themselves? Did Ishwari celebrate Dev's birthday the way Ranveer would have celebrated his birthday? Or would she celebrate Neha/Niki/Ria's birthday with that much fanfare? Then why would them going to the HM when Neha could not not go would be such a problem? I understand that Ishwari used that as an execuse but Dev and Sona could have told her to stop throwing such a big party too Right !

Sorry for my long rant but I dont agree when people say that this is what happens in real life too. It pains me to see the true status of our society and we should raise our voices against it otherwise it will keep happening. Although we may not be able to change people like Ishwari but the change needs to come within Sona and Dev that they should not take this crap anymore,

Just my POV !