Sona, a spoilsport in the empathy game!

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Posted: 8 years ago

Every women in The Dixits' need to be empathized and understood... After all they are so much in love with Dev as a mother, sister and aunty... They have no problem with his love for his own women... See, how they had no problem with Dev showering love and dedication for his mother, lovely gifts on his sisters, undying gratification for his aunt... Are they complaining? No...

It's only Sona that brings up unwanted insecurity into their family! And that's why they crib about everything around her... Because Sona is taking lessons from her life and getting to live her life unlike them... Why be inspired by her... Instead take the attention from her and be empathetic towards the women who are unable to take any lesson and live their life beautifully on their own...

So moral of the story is, people should continue to empathize with the weak ones because they have a reason to be sorry for... And not be inspired by Sona... Because she has no reason to be feel sorry about.. It's her problem if she chooses to be strong in her life.. 😆

Dare she cries when she gets to know about her infertility... It should be Ishu who can cry more for not getting to carry he bachcha's bachcha... It should be Neha who can cry more for not getting to play with her niece/nephew... It should be Radharani who can cry more for not getting to taunt Sona for not being a good mother like her...🤣

After all being weak and insecure has its own advantage of getting the sympathy from every fellow human beings because in turn they would love to be sympathized... You pity me and I pity you.. Let's all dwell in our own misery!!! 😆

Ok.. I learnt my lesson today 🤪.. Let's not blame poor Ishu anymore... We should give a character name for Ishwari's insecurity and blame only that! Anyway Dev is out of my focus area anytime...😆

So let's call Ishu's INSECURITY as Ishity!

Ishity can make a little girl feel smaller and incapable in front of Ishwari, can make her son feel guilty and devoted to Ishwari with loud drama, can be full of herself and not give any space for others, can compete with anyone coming into Ishwari's son's life and fight for Ishwari's rights...

Ishity will not allow Ishwari to move an inch from her space without making her show a sulking face... So what... Ishwari has a reason to do all this - Ishity that is.. So empathize with her...

And many TRP audience can relate themselves to Ishity thus empathize with Ishwari... Because they see a reflection of themselves in Ishity... Thus not feeling like the villain that they are made out to be in their real life by someone or the other... After all the TRP audience in the form of Nehas and Ishwaris and Radharanis want some consolation that they are not alone in the world, being this bad and affected by good people.. There are lot many in their group and they are justified to be what they are... So that they can continue to be that...

Why choose an INSPIRATION in the story as a spoilsport... And blame Sona for being one! 😆

All Ishu's behavior and actions are done by that INSECURITY, and none are her doing but her alter-ego Ishity doing! Because there's an aparachit (outsider) inside her... No wonder Ishu treats Sona as an outsider... In that case she sure needs a medical help!!! 😉

Ok... Enough of my lessons learnt for the day... Unlearning my learning now 😆...

Ishu is a very good human being... But whatever she does because of her insecurity cannot be justified just because that's the reality and many mothers are out there feeling it in real... And do we need to empathize with them and let them be that way? Everyone has a reason for their wrongdoings... And everyone can be justified... Just because I have a reason, I can go on and hurt others? My reason could be my anger, my irritation, my worry, my jealous, my possessiveness, my greed, my insecurity..

It's because of such dramas that started portraying the greys and blacks in bright light, making everyone feel fine to be bad, we all have forgotten what an inspiration could do to us, to change our lives... What a role model could affect us in good way...

It's just to show empathy, people started being compassionate towards the negative traits of each other... Just to help them deal with it and come out of it... Not to glorify it and justify that trait to continue them having it... And that too proudly... All wrong messages being passed on in the name of projecting grey and black characters as heroic!!!🥱

Missing all those days when white characters were shown onscreen, making the audience being inspired by such characters... And at least try and follow their inspiration... And not glorify their own negative traits in the name of reality...

Now in the name of reality, showcasing the greys, everyone is getting to justify what they are... Thus having them continue to be as is, because that's what they are.. There's nothing to change about them because we have a heroic representation of our own flaws and negatives!!! To be inspired about ourselves for our negatives... Calling ourselves as "After all human"... And make more and more emotional connect with such people because they would love to see only that.. And by giving them just that we can feed them more to stay wherever they are...

Everyone need not be ideal but on seeing some idealism onscreen, there is a positive message spread... Just because some people find it difficult and hard to be inspired and to try being that or feel inferior in front of such characters, they make a mock out of it and want to justify their own grey shades calling that as reality... Because that's the easy way out instead of trying hard on inspiration based living, let's go mock the ones trying to be inspired by idealism...🤓

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sona_naksh

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Posted: 8 years ago

Awesum post PP

I liked d humour n sarvasm in post ...Ishity 🤣

Well even if there is a reason to murder someone ..dat does not mean u go on and do it and u ll b justified

Same here ishwari may have all reasons to b insecure although thats a differemt story i dont understand anyone of it but den its not OK to make everyone suffer at tge hands of it ...

U r ryt dear ...ishwari ll cry more and people ll sympathise more wid her in infertility issue after all she ll not b able to hold dev's child and its all sona's fault ...sona ne ye khushi bhi cheen li usse

Dis is a very sensitive topic and a raw nerve ..i know exactly wat family's support can do in such cases ...

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Tia.0

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Posted: 8 years ago

You are so right. Sonakshi is totally spoiling the nice little set up Ishwari had going for so long with her devotes where whatever she did was unquestioned and accepted with utmost gratitude. And here not only Sonakshi bringing her double standards out in the open but also putting a mirror in front of her where her reality is showing up in full technicolor. No wonder Ishwari is so worried. The woman she brought in to cement her Goddess status is becoming the biggest threat to the same.

Lies always fear truth like darkness fears lights. They can only exist as long as the other doesn't show up beside them. The moment truth stands beside lies and light stands beside darkness, they are finished. They can no longer exist.

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JShukla

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Posted: 8 years ago

"Everyone need not be ideal but on seeing some idealism onscreen, there is a positive message spread... Just because some people find it difficult and hard to be inspired and to try being that or feel inferior in front of such characters, they make a mock out of it and want to justify their own grey shades calling that as reality... Because that's the easy way out instead of trying hard on inspiration based living, let's go mock the ones trying to be inspired by idealism.."

Yup

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Pehchaan.Kaun

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Posted: 8 years ago

This is a wonderful post. I lately had the same feelings about Dixit Insecurity increasing each passing day 😆.

Because Sona is taunted to hell and she doesn't cry, it pisses them off.

Because Sona is accused to death yet she doesn't lose her cool, it angers them even more.

Because Sona is deprived of all her rights and all her plans are made flop, yet she survives through it with a chirpy happy face and mood, it irritates them more.

I have a feeling that if Sona had been a typical Gopi Bahu (finally I have come to the conclusion that she is not 😆) and cried in front of them feeling helpless and guilty of all their accusations, Dixits would put her on pedestal and cherish her forever not to try to make her cry. This is how the system works. More like if Sona surrenders and decides to live at the mercy of the powerful by letting them feel the power of impacting her emotional stability on a daily basis, she would be hailed as queen. But this woman with all her happy-go-lucky, mature and strong approach is freaking them out, it's like an Alien to the Dixits 🤣 Dev has been a Mountain in front of the weak Dixits, Sona is not seeking for the protection of the same mountain - this is unacceptable and impossible to them 🤣. The whole Dixit clans are getting shit-scared on how a WOMAN in this world can live without the MAN's mercy and doesn't give a two hoots about his support 😆. So far, Dev has been the provider which has tied the whole clan to him and they are scared of letting Dev go. Now Sona being the provider in the relationship has the power to entice Dev to her for ever. And this is causing them lose all hell 🤣

I must say I am absolutely LOVING this approach of Sona. She has stopped getting hurt and has taken the steering 🥳. Way to go girl ! 🥳

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Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: sona_naksh
Awesum post PP
I liked d humour n sarvasm in post ...Ishity 🤣
Well even if there is a reason to murder someone ..dat does not mean u go on and do it and u ll b justified
Same here ishwari may have all reasons to b insecure although thats a differemt story i dont understand anyone of it but den its not OK to make everyone suffer at tge hands of it ...
U r ryt dear ...ishwari ll cry more and people ll sympathise more wid her in infertility issue after all she ll not b able to hold dev's child and its all sona's fault ...sona ne ye khushi bhi cheen li usse
Dis is a very sensitive topic and a raw nerve ..i know exactly wat family's support can do in such cases ...

Exactly... I really don't know what are they trying to prove by increasing the insecurity day by day only to finally show Dev running to his Maa and reassuring her that nothing will come in between the mom-son duo.. All drama for nothing... Because I can't see any signs in Dev to even be daring enough to open his voice to say "Maa, what are you doing? And why are you doing all this? Don't you trust me? Do you need me to prove again and again whom I love more?"... May be he has to make friendship with alcohol again... Alas, what if Vicky has given it up for Elena... Nobody can understand the drunkard state then... 😆

Seriously... Where is the connection between Ishu's insecurity and Sona's infertility... What are the CVs trying to do with these two?!

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mena_k

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Posted: 8 years ago

Wonderful read 😊

I can say one thing, your post is not going to get numbers on trp race 😉😆

Now that we all have failed to understand the main leads Ishwari-Dev's love story, we have come to understand trp aunties.😃 looks like we are minorities who want logical and strong female leads. Character growth with time, non-repetitive tracks. We can call ourselves the expensive lot, after all lesser are always the most expensive ones.😉

Eagerly waiting for Vicky's marriage and GKB's face. Now only these two can save me from mata's non-stop torturous drama.

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Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: Pehchaan.Kaun
This is a wonderful post. I lately had the same feelings about Dixit Insecurity increasing each passing day 😆.
Because Sona is taunted to hell and she doesn't cry, it pisses them off.

Because Sona is accused to death yet she doesn't lose her cool, it angers them even more.

Because Sona is deprived of all her rights and all her plans are made flop, yet she survives through it with a chirpy happy face and mood, it irritates them more.

I have a feeling that if Sona had been a typical Gopi Bahu (finally I have come to the conclusion that she is not 😆) and cried in front of them feeling helpless and guilty of all their accusations, Dixits would put her on pedestal and cherish her forever not to try to make her cry. This is how the system works. More like if Sona surrenders and decides to live at the mercy of the powerful by letting them feel the power of impacting her emotional stability on a daily basis, she would be hailed as queen. But this woman with all her happy-go-lucky, mature and strong approach is freaking them out, it's like an Alien to the Dixits 🤣 Dev has been a Mountain in front of the weak Dixits, Sona is not seeking for the protection of the same mountain - this is unacceptable and impossible to them 🤣. The whole Dixit clans are getting shit-scared on how a WOMAN in this world can live without the MAN's mercy and doesn't give a two hoots about his support 😆. So far, Dev has been the provider which has tied the whole clan to him and they are scared of letting Dev go. Now Sona being the provider in the relationship has the power to entice Dev to her for ever. And this is causing them lose all hell 🤣

I must say I am absolutely LOVING this approach of Sona. She has stopped getting hurt and has taken the steering 🥳. Way to go girl ! 🥳

INSECURITY is THE Game and THE BUZZ word for our show... 😆

Everyone will start feeling insecure one after the other 🤪.. Slowly we as audience might get that insecure feeling that we are the odd ones out unable to bear all this brunt approach applied on the girls coming to live with a family, in the name of marriage...

And yeah.. If Sona can walk around unaffected by these bunch of drama artists, then nothing more than that I would want to read... May be call her as Zombie or Robot... But yeah at the end of the episode everyone will become battery operated toys showing the reality of our society.. And all we can do is be in the group as one among them and not feel like the odd ones out... 😆😆

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varsha

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Posted: 8 years ago

thats bcoz they treat her like an outsider

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Posted: 8 years ago

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Originally posted by: mena_k
Wonderful read 😊
I can say one thing, your post is not going to get numbers on trp race 😉😆

Now that we all have failed to understand the main leads Ishwari-Dev's love story, we have come to understand trp aunties.😃 looks like we are minorities who want logical and strong female leads. Character growth with time, non-repetitive tracks. We can call ourselves the expensive lot, after all lesser are always the most expensive ones.😉

Eagerly waiting for Vicky's marriage and GKB's face. Now only these two can save me from mata's non-stop torturous drama.

@bold: I know and I will be more than glad if my post fails to be noticed... 😆😆

Awww... Vicky-Elena... They sound like a breeze in the chaos... 😳