Originally posted by: gmgi
I know everyone is entitled to his/hers opinion. But I was pretty surprised when I read this since you wrote that you watched it after reading both the positive and the not so positive reviews.
But I beg to differ and cannot disagree more😃 Sorry it is a very long one.😆
Ishwari was upset because Dev listened to his wife on a matter which according to her was already decided between them and changed it. This is her fear isn't it that Sona will take everything what is hers now. Her asking Dev to give a position for Vikki in Dev's company was not wrong in her view point because she was returning a favour that her brother did when they were in dire need of it.
When RR did an emotional drama in front of her and named Sona the culprit behind this changed decision, Ishwari immediately went and asked Sona. She in her insecurity was allowing questioning her son and her DIL. So her message is loud and clear which gave RR and Vicki to come between their relationships. Because, the truth is that when she questions Sona's right she is also questioning Dev.
When she went to Sona, her reasoning was Sona as an outsider doesn't understand the weight of the Ehsaan the family feels so her decision in this case is not right even if logical. But as her MIL shouldn't she have tried to explain to her what she really felt and why she thinks Sona was wrong? Do you think Sona would not have tried to understand her viewpoint and listen to her? If it was not about Sona then why did she make it all about her?
The moment Dev reached home he was ambushed by the trio. Ishwari sided with RR and Vicki in humiliating him for listening to his wife despite his attempts to make them understand his intention. She taunted Sona and belittled her in front of him and he kept mum. I will not judge him based on this because he saw his mother behaving in an altogether different manner and nothing was making sense to him since everything was blown out of proportion.
He followed her when she returned to her room after her parting ultimatum that he should not forget old relationship because of new ones again pointing towards Sona. In the room what followed was a very painful trip down the memory lane. Dev got a wakeup call. He felt guilty of not using the chance he got to return the favour that his mamaji did. He was again reminded that the old relationships are not only his past but his present and future too and not to be forgotten in his new found love.
Sona came to their room when he was frustrated, on a guilt trip and suffocating under his past burdens. If she had taken out her anger and hurt on being repeatedly insulted and taunted as an outsider on him I would have agreed on your point that she was insensitive and inconsiderate. But she was trying her level best to ensure that he got the message no matter whoever says what she will support him in this decision because he was right. She never let her ego or her dislike of Vikki enter into the decision that they took together. It was only a suggestion from someone who wished him well and as a wife it was her duty too.
What Dev really needed was some space and not the reminding that his decision was the right one. He knew that but that decision of his let his Maa down. He shouldn't have forgotten the past debts and Sona who didn't know the depth of his responsibilities was at the receiving end of his family's taunts and ill will and he was the one who put her in that position. He knew how much she was trying to be a part of their family and this action have put all that in the drain. He could have explained to her without lashing at her and she could have lent her support without pushing it down his throat. These things one learns by trial and error and with time not 4 days after marriage.
He was right when he said that she won't be able to understand what his child hood was like. But it was her right to know, the reason behind the man he is now and his duty to the one who promised to share his love and pain for 7 births. Pushing her away when she was already feeling like an outsider and that too by him was really painful to watch and my heart went out to both of them. Still she was not angry or disappointed in him while waiting for him with his family. She was surprised by his change in decision would be an understatement. By agreeing that he was wrong and apologizing to Vikki didn't he indirectly showed her that by listening to her he did wrong. Before taking the decision did he even bother to make her understand why he had to take it? Did he even try to understand what she would have felt when along with others, he too made it clear that she has no say in their family matters? And it was very clear the message his extended family took from his stance. Vikki taunted and humiliated her further because the Dixit Bahu's value and position in that house was questionable. And still you find her questioning and reasoning with her husband in the precap because of her ego?
Kabhi Neem Neem Kabhi Shahad Shahad
Bigg Boss 19
Writers Corner: Books, Stories & Poems
Anupamaa
