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I have been watching this serial for sometime now.
If she marries him all life she will be caught between mother and son emotional dramas and not have a peaceful life if Dev does not leave his mom(which is unlikely)
If she is marrying for his money and status fine but if she is marrying him for love that is wrong choice
Even Devs kids will not be normal as they live with him and Ishwari and Sona will have tough time. And dormant nature of an human never changes it remains through out life may be hidden but never change.
In that sense Bijoy is right in his fear of marrying sona to dev -- that comes from experience of what may happen later after marriage rather than a love based emotional one minute decision. No father in his right sense will marry his daughter to Dev whether in india or anywhere else.
Sonakshi should be ready to bear this emotions day in and day out 30 years from Ishwari and maybe 60 years off Devs and with her her family too
In todays world a son only cares about his career his life his wife and future. Any man will want to start a seperate family and move out of house as soon as he gets economically independent. That is reality of 21st century. Any other man in Devs situation would have just got a new house for Sona and married her and left Ishwari kind of mother, no matter her sacrifices for him.
Nowadays humans are too busy to think of any gratitude towards parents or siblings etc for their contribution in bringing up a mans life. like how devs sister sacrificied her study for him and her younger sisters, dev would have never done that sacrified his study for his sisters? will he or ishwari do that never because Dev is a boy and even in todays world when choice is between brother and sister a brother wins hands down and a daughters desires are scarificied
Dev is not one of those rare cases that are caught between mother and wife, all men in todays world have to decide they want parent or wife simple even before marriage. Ok here i am not talking of rural india because there economically all are dependent on each other hence have joint family, but given an option even there a son and his wife will want to live indepent of his parents and siblings.
But Dev is a man who cannot take a firm decision and wallows in self pity always, he cannot make any decision on his life himself. I wonder how such a man became a successful business man, he is an emotional kind of man and business is for machivellian and authoritative men. Anyways that debate for another day.
Now instead of Dev telling his mom "i love sonakshi and want to marry her" is using other route like stalking her and her fiance, making a tamasha in her engagement etc what would all relatives of sona and her fiance think after what happened in ceremony it will be hot gossip for rest of their life. If sona did not want rithwik just say no politely and not cause him humiliation by calling dev to make drama in engagement party. Why keep party, make drama as if you like rithwik till last minute and then just leave him in diar starits, anyways who cares for a abondoned fiance? a side heros emotion
Dev is two extremes - all despots and stalkers come in his category if you have read psychology
They are extremly ruthless to get what they want - like dev brought sonakshi to serve his mother as house dietician(or maid?) by ensuring she does not get a job anywhere
the stalking of her and her fiance and booking full hotel and asking to dance with her(psychopathic behaviour)
and other extreme is crying and making tamasha when he could not get sonakshi in her party.
But dev not alone - his mother is also a psychopath who will try and commit suicide if son marries any girl or like any girl(any not sonakshi alone)
Now which sensible girl will marry in a family where husband is a emotional psychopath and mother a manipulator none in today's world(no girls family will agree)
Sonakshi is making the perinnial mistake a girls in love make - to marry the man she loves who truly only wants her at any cost not for love but to mother his emotional open wounds left by his mothers posessiveness and duties thrust on his from a young age(but remember his sister also became a mother for her siblings, but she is normal)
If she marries him all life she will be caught between mother and son emotional dramas and not have a peaceful life if Dev does not leave his mom(which is unlikely)
If she is marrying for his money and status fine but if she is marrying him for love that is wrong choice
Even Devs kids will not be normal as they live with him and Ishwari and Sona will have tough time. And dormant nature of an human never changes it remains through out life may be hidden but never change.
In that sense Bijoy is right in his fear of marrying sona to dev -- that comes from experience of what may happen later after marriage rather than a love based emotional one minute decision. No father in his right sense will marry his daughter to Dev whether in india or anywhere else.
Sonakshi should be ready to bear this emotions day in and day out 30 years from Ishwari and maybe 60 years off Devs and with her her family too
Kyunki Saas Bhi Kabhi Bahu Thi 2
Iss Pyaar Ko Kya Naam Doon
