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Posted: 9 years ago
#21

Originally posted by: jaanetu


i still wonder how she fell for him after putting up with that... you would think that he would change a bit but he is so controlling... dev just cant accept that she can be happy without him and she can fight her own battles.. she doesnt need him. his protective instinct is such that he turns controlling and this is why he broke up with her in the first place... he thought by breaking up he would protect his mom and she wont kill herself.. he couldnt leave his mom to work out her own demons nor he attempted to sit down and talk to her to sort out the issues.. as per usual he went for extreme solution in his controlling manner..


Clearly you have completely missed the point here. He is not being controlling but rather trying to protect her. He may have said let's break up it doesn't mean he is mentally able to and you love a person with their faults. U don't fall for someone based on them not being controlling blah blah. I hate how people really abuse this whole women power and equality rights. Only bcos Sona is a girl she shudnt 'tolerate' Dev doing something for her.

And Dev caring for his mother so much is not wrong. The first and foremost importance in your life should be of your parents. That's our culture and I hate how the 'modern' society deems everything to now be about 'stand up for yourself' doesn't matter if you hurt your parents in the process.

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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: purva

One would think a guy who worked his way up the ladder from rags to riches would be more humble and compassionate towards other people but he is simply rude. The way he treated Tina because she lost his audio file 😕



THIS has been seriously irking me about Dev. Where's the generous Dev who wanted to give a lion's share of profit-sharing to his employees? His assistant promptly got a new phone for him and transferred most of his data. He did not have the grace to utter a simple thanks.

About the comparison of Dev to Tatas in wondering if he thought he was one of them to get away with rudeness. Not true!! Tatas are KNOWN for their compassion towards employees. They pioneered employee provident fund decades before the government implemented it as a law. Let me quote an anecdote Sudha Murthy narrated in her autobiography about the great JRD:

One day I was waiting for Murthy, my husband, to pick me up after office hours. To my surprise I saw JRD standing next to me. I did not know how to react.
'Young lady, why are you here?' he asked. 'Office time is over.'
I said, 'Sir, I'm waiting for my husband to come and pick me up.'
JRD said, 'It is getting dark and there's no one in the corridor. I'll wait with you till your husband comes.'
I was thinking, 'Look at this person. He is a chairman, a well-respected man in our country and he is waiting for the sake of an ordinary employee.'
Then I saw Murthy and I rushed out. JRD called and said, 'Young lady, tell your husband never to make his wife wait again.'


This is a hot-button issue for me because in real-life I cannot stand people mistreating hired help, employees and the less-privileged - basically anyone abusing their position to humiliate someone who does not have the power to hit back. I hate it because it reflects the huge lack of egalitarianism in India and is an extremely classist attitude.

It's pathetic to see Dev's character being butchered so much in every aspect.
Edited by skye - 9 years ago
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: skye



THIS has been seriously irking me about Dev. Where's the generous Dev who wanted to give a lion's share of profit-sharing to his employees? His assistant promptly got a new phone for him and transferred most of his data. He did not have the grace to utter a simple thanks.

About the comparison of Dev to Tatas in wondering if he thought he was one of them to get away with rudeness. Not true!! Tatas are KNOWN for their compassion towards employees. They pioneered employee provident fund decades before the government implemented it as a law. Let me quote an anecdote Sudha Murthy narrated in her autobiography about the great JRD:

One day I was waiting for Murthy, my husband, to pick me up after office hours. To my surprise I saw JRD standing next to me. I did not know how to react.
'Young lady, why are you here?' he asked. 'Office time is over.'
I said, 'Sir, I'm waiting for my husband to come and pick me up.' JRD said, 'It is getting dark and there's no one in the corridor.
I'll wait with you till your husband comes.'
I was thinking, 'Look at this person. He is a chairman, a well-respected man in our country and he is waiting for the sake of an ordinary employee.'
Then I saw Murthy and I rushed out. JRD called and said, 'Young lady, tell your husband never to make his wife wait again.'


This is a hot-button issue for me because in real-life I cannot stand people mistreating hired help, employees and the less-privileged - basically anyone abusing their position to humiliate someone who does not have the power to hit back. I hate it because it reflects the huge lack of egalitarianism in India and is an extremely classist attitude.

It's pathetic to see Dev's character being butchered so much in every aspect.


I ws staying away from replying in the topic, but since you mentioned Tatas with such wonderful example, couldn't help but flaunt that I work for Tata How much ever bad the current situation has become, JRD and Ratan Tata's humility and humble personality is one of the reasons I am still stuck with Tata 😊

@ Smallwonder - I can feel what you're trying to say.. If Dev was a middle-class guy and Sonakshi was a rich tycoon, and after Sona initiates the breakup, if she still tried to interfere in Dev's life, doesnt matter if out of guilt or out of compassion etc, we would have called her names 😆 Anyways, I despised Dev earlier when he arm-twisted Sona into getting his job, and when he went behind her back to drive the possible grooms from Sona's life away, and I disliked it now.. But like I said, my disliking for such incidents have come down now provided the situation Dev is in right now.. We all have our family and friends to share our grief with, to channelize our anger and to guide/help us to come out of the love of our lives after a breakup.. But Dev has cocooned himself inside a shell and doesn't want to move on.. His whole heart is with her and he just wants to remain associated with Sona anyhow, at any cost.. That is what's called stalking and it's a criminal offense in India now.. However, looking at his current condition, a guy who keeps on thinking about someone whole day and night would do something like this, there is no surprise there, so I give him the benefit of doubt NOW, not for the previous incidents.. Although I agree being in the receiving end of it is damn insulting for a girl.. Also, the line when he says even if Sona commits a mistake, you will not take it seriously.. In medical profession, 1 mistake might lead to losing 1 life.. Neither the tone was good nor the content.. If Sona's mistake causes harm to someone, the Manager HAS to take action against her.. Flaunting power is so disgusting

P.S. - The personal member bashing does not look cool

Edit - But glad to see some dignified replies from some hardcore Devakshi fans and that's majority that's nice since we can comment on the topic, but commenting on member is not cool😊
Edited by Pehchaan.Kaun - 9 years ago
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: dlavanya



all i can say to you people is that you have not read all the posts on this forum...
There are several post on bashing Dev, Sona , ishwari equally-- if you see the history of the forums.
Also if you see today's posts - you will see majority of posts saying ritvick was nice and his family is very deserving of Sona...
There are lot of devakshians who are happy if Sona moves on if Dev doesnt redeem himself soon...

So given all these post, i dont understand why you make this judgements that there is no bashing of leads and no appreciation of the new entry Jay..

They just call him chikna/cheela hua aaloo - only because he shaved for this show (just in comic sense)... nothing else... I believe there are very sensible people of this forum who do not bash people or characters with out a reason just because they love the lead pair...

majority of the people on this forum know the difference between good and bad...and we do not support if the leads do a mean thing. we pretty much judge everyone based on their actions..

Thats my pov


@bold: neither purva nor I said "there is no bashing of leads and no appreciation of the new entry Jay" it is you who said that in your post... we were simply talking about chikna chipku posts and yes i have read other posts as well...
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Good for forum activity 😉

Sometimes posts like these generate lot of activity, so all is good, carry on with your POV 😃 😆
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: Pehchaan.Kaun



I ws staying away from replying in the topic, but since you mentioned Tatas with such wonderful example, couldn't help but flaunt that I work for Tata How much ever bad the current situation has become, JRD and Ratan Tata's humility and humble personality is one of the reasons I am still stuck with Tata 😊

Flaunting power is so disgusting



That's so awesome, you working with them! JRD and Ratan Tata are swoon-worthy. Real-life heroes. Just JRD's aviation stories are enough to make him so incredible .

I have heard stories from friends about the great culture at Tatas although I hear the jury is still out on Cyrus Mistry as a leader.

@bold: 100% agree!
Edited by skye - 9 years ago
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: KK84


Clearly you have completely missed the point here. He is not being controlling but rather trying to protect her. He may have said let's break up it doesn't mean he is mentally able to and you love a person with their faults. U don't fall for someone based on them not being controlling blah blah. I hate how people really abuse this whole women power and equality rights. Only bcos Sona is a girl she shudnt 'tolerate' Dev doing something for her.

And Dev caring for his mother so much is not wrong. The first and foremost importance in your life should be of your parents. That's our culture and I hate how the 'modern' society deems everything to now be about 'stand up for yourself' doesn't matter if you hurt your parents in the process.


clearly you have completely missed my point that others might find it protective, but i find it controlling...when you fall for someone you are aware of their positive and negative qualities... from what i have seen on the show Sona isn't a big fan of his "controlling/interfering ways" (yes she calls it that and doesn't find it "protective")...

it has nothing to do with being a woman. he broke up with her... its over and he needs to stop interfering/"protecting" whatever in her life... she is an adult. she spent 20+ years surviving on her own without him and fought her own battles. she doesnt need him... its insulting that he thinks he can "protect her" after breaking her heart...who exactly is he to "protect" her now that they broke up. sona rightfully called it interfering... you can love someone and give them their space... in some ways it is really condescending the way he spoke to her boss for her... its like sona cant fight her own battles and needs a saviour to speak to her boss... has she expressed that? no... so who is he to speak to her boss.. if he loves her he will have faith that she can survive on her own, as she has until now.. he is not some kind of demi God to "protect" her when their relationship is over... she is a smart and tough girl who can find her own way as she has until now and expressed in the past asking him not to interfere...

I never said you should hurt your parents, but there are mature ways to deal with the girl you fall for and your parents when you love both... in my own case a guy and I didnt get into a relationship because we both considered our backgrounds and how our parents wouldn't accept our relationship ...we didnt want to hurt our parents neither did we want to mislead the other.. in our case it was even more impossible and our first thought was considering our parents... in dev's case he took his mom lightly...
Edited by jaanetu - 9 years ago
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Everyone has the right to express their opinions as its a free forum but i don't appreciate the choice of words used by the topic maker .TM could have expressed her frustration/anger in a better way ...i guess Newton's third law applies here every action has equal and opposite reactions .Such posts will irk people to respond to the TM in the similar tone .

I am not defending or supporting anyone but just stating the fact .


Edited by yyyy - 9 years ago
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: skye



THIS has been seriously irking me about Dev. Where's the generous Dev who wanted to give a lion's share of profit-sharing to his employees? His assistant promptly got a new phone for him and transferred most of his data. He did not have the grace to utter a simple thanks.

About the comparison of Dev to Tatas in wondering if he thought he was one of them to get away with rudeness. Not true!! Tatas are KNOWN for their compassion towards employees. They pioneered employee provident fund decades before the government implemented it as a law. Let me quote an anecdote Sudha Murthy narrated in her autobiography about the great JRD:

One day I was waiting for Murthy, my husband, to pick me up after office hours. To my surprise I saw JRD standing next to me. I did not know how to react.
'Young lady, why are you here?' he asked. 'Office time is over.'
I said, 'Sir, I'm waiting for my husband to come and pick me up.'
JRD said, 'It is getting dark and there's no one in the corridor. I'll wait with you till your husband comes.'
I was thinking, 'Look at this person. He is a chairman, a well-respected man in our country and he is waiting for the sake of an ordinary employee.'
Then I saw Murthy and I rushed out. JRD called and said, 'Young lady, tell your husband never to make his wife wait again.'


This is a hot-button issue for me because in real-life I cannot stand people mistreating hired help, employees and the less-privileged - basically anyone abusing their position to humiliate someone who does not have the power to hit back. I hate it because it reflects the huge lack of egalitarianism in India and is an extremely classist attitude.

It's pathetic to see Dev's character being butchered so much in every aspect.


Well have to agree with you on this .Its sad to see his character being reduced to this level .

Coming to the real life example and this argument is totally not related to the serial/reel characters .I have worked in the company of one of the people you have mentioned above and trust me their company is not at all like what they claim to be .The company will suck the blood out of you and have unreasonable rules and regulations .The top management is aware of this yet they choose not to interfere .
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: jaanetu



@bold: neither purva nor I said "there is no bashing of leads and no appreciation of the new entry Jay" it is you who said that in your post... we were simply talking about chikna chipku posts and yes i have read other posts as well...



I was responding to "i would say dev deserves to be judged more than ishwari".
We judge dev too ...

I saw your reponse toone of posts in edkv forum where you said "from what i have seen and known people suffering lash out a lot ". Too bad you can justify ml's disgusting behavior where he think he owns fl even though he hasnot confessed yet and here dev cant lash out dev as he doesnt like to hear any thing negative about his love ( broken up or not he still loves her) .
Anyways dev has always been like this and protective towards ppl he care about - that is his character..

Anyways i see the purpose of this post . So i am going to stop responding to this thread now. Pla watch all the episodes you have missed to get to know the depth of thier friendship and love.

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