Every person would feel a spark when their significant other becomes a little jealous and likes to calm them down and build trust. Sometimes people get so hurt and start questioning you and that kind of nagging makes you question their trust.
Be possessive to the extent of being protective but don't ruin their freedom and lone time as it's very important to any person.
Having a possessive feeling for someone in a relationship is a good sign, it means you're getting really attached to the person, the bond is getting tighter and closer.
But over possessiveness is bad, it will make you over think and negative thoughts arise. Eventually it will separate you from your love ones and leave you with guilt and regret.
One needs to control your feelings, and keep the trust. It will all go well with time. And think for a moment do you really want to loose the person your love that much for some stupid thoughts that come to your mind? Key thing here is "Time"
Relationship is like a butterfly, you have to hold it firm enough to not let it go away and delicate enough to not harm it.
Fathers sometimes consider their daughters their "little princess" and fail to accept that they are not her "prince". This leads to all sorts of problems as the little princess turns into a woman, and other rivals come as suitors. Men in this vein have a tendency to reject their teenage daughters, belittle them, infantilise and block their development. The daughter becomes a hostage to their Father's needs and expectations, and when she tries to break free, her attempts are resisted increasingly strongly, and resented if she succeeds. Here Mr. Bose was possessive in a good way, sensitive to her wishes yet cautious about her choice if it rests well for her life.
Mothers sometimes consider their sons their "little man", often disappointed in the men in their lives (in this case, her husband died too early), this new little man can easily become the carrier of all their unmet dreams and aspirations, their reparation fantasy of the perfect man they have sought all their lives and never found. Investing in this relationship from this standpoint is a bit like working hard to keep a hostage too. They may also excuse and even ignore their son's abuse of others by blaming the victims, sometimes accepting abusive behaviour from him themselves making themselves wrong for it. Mothers in this situation often over-demonstrate their care and keep their sons dependent upon it, portraying them as deeply needy, misunderstood, and only truly able to be nurtured by her.
It can be a painful process for mothers to let go of their children - they have to be willing to fill the yawning gap left behind when they become truly independent. When they are enmeshed across gender - fathers with daughters, mothers with sons, it can be especially painful.
In this case, Ishwari is overly and meanly possessive to the extent that she is totally indifferent and insensitive to her son's happiness and on the other hand, Mr. Bose who's intolerant possessiveness brought him to Dev's home looked intervening but it was eventful. He was able to really hear it out that Ishwari is wonderfully masking her real self with Dev and has no interest or respect for Sonakshi even as a person, forget a daughter in law being accepted whole heatedly as a daughter, a life partner for her most beloved son, Dev.
I really wish we all know how to differentiate the fine line of possessiveness which is protective and which are harmful ones. And all the best to Ishwari n Bose.
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