cultural differences

Since the release of information regarding ishwari attempted suicide the forum has been buzzing with various opinions some explaining that is how it is in real life and there are those like myself can't relate to such a story...where the mother blackmails the son by means of hurting herself...I am Indian living in the west indies...my great grand parents were from India...and all through the history of our country such drastic steps were not taken...we as Indians in the west indies tried to maintain what our ancestors brought and over time things change and people change...arrange marriages were done but that did not last it stopped with my grandparents and a surge of love marriages was rampant..and even though mothers did not always like daughter in laws they never tried to kill themselves... To date mothers tell themselves if that makes u happy I will not step in your way...they don't show their dislike for the girl they firmly speak to there sons

".but now parents have matured they don't get themselves involve all they care about is the sons and daughters happiness. ""

That's true. But you cannot generalize that every mil in india is such. In my family, on maternal and paternal side both, my grand parents treated their dil as their daughter itself. Even in 70's , when my mother was just married and my mother had to serve the guests the things which she didn't eat, my grandfather immediately refused to bring those things from then onwards.

If some one don't know about this kind of situations that doesn't mean they don't happen. It happens in some places when a mother ya father don't like their son /Daughter choosing life partner themselves they protest they blackmail still the children don't listen them they even attempt suicide to scare their children and some one lost their life some one will be saved. But I am not generalizing there is some people out who will accept their children choosing life partners whole heartedly. If we saw in the show we are watching both situation other side bose family who is whole heartedly accepted their daughter choosen life partner and other side dixit who can't accept her son happiness.

I think both DIL and MIL evolve with time. Again it depends on each ones background and upbringing.

I was the youngest DIL, so being a MIL was not new to her. She was a war widow (she lost her husband within 10 years), so was a working woman and had independently brought her 5 children up, with education and marrying her 2 daughters too without any help. 👏

When I got married, we (MIL and me) lived together, as my husband used to work at different places. She was blind due to an unsuccessful eye operation. Inspite of that I learnt a lot from her, to be independent, strong and confident. We had a beautiful relationship, specially towards the end.

Initially, It did begin with a lot of assumptions and disagreements, since she trusted others over me, and I was new. Those times were tough, and my SILs and BILs used to play havoc. 😡 😡 I used to walk around with a heavy heart, wondering if ever this would end. One day taking up courage, I talked to her, and said if she had a problem with me, she will tell me directly and If I had something to say to her, I would tell her directly. That was the last day to my problems.

After that day, her trust in me slowly increased, and she looked forward to spending time with me, sharing her stories, confiding her anguishes, feeling comfortable to be with me. I learnt structure discipline, where I did not change the way things were arranged in the room, so that she could move about smoothly, without falling over. I mentioned she was independent and yes she was in every way, even though she was blind. She did not need any help from me.

We watched her favourite Serial - CID together, and in times when they just play music and it was silent, she was impatient for me to tell her what was happening... We had good times together.

On her deathbed, when she was very sick in hospital, the nurse asked her if I was her daughter, and she introduced her daughters and DILs and me as more than a daughter. I was so touched. 😳 This was the biggest compliment I had received.

I am not saying that ishwari behavior doesn't exist I am saying I cannot relate to it as it doesn't not happen in my country...hence the title cultural differences...

hahahaa...😊 . I see so many posts and comments here about Eshwari's attempt at killing herself.. i guess most of us got emotional . to all the people out there who feel that Eshwari is trying to forbade her son from getting closer to Sona, see the promo again. SHE IS NOT AGAINST SONA.