Dev & Neha - Why can't they share??

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Posted: 9 years ago
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So Dev figured out that his mother didn't appreciate the fact that he'd shared things about Neha & Ranveer to Sona. He saw that displeasure on her face. Sona was an ourtsider in Ishwari's eyes. And the next day when Sona asked him if anything was troubling him, he said he would tackle it & if need be he would speak to her about it. He avoided telling her about what was bothering him, thinking that it might hurt her. But why hide things?? You've got to face the inevitable any which way. 😕

In a similar scenario, we saw Ranveer tell Neha about Dev wanting to gift them a flat. It was troubling him & he couldn't keep it within himself so he had to share it with her. And Neha knew exactly why Dev offered them the gift, because she'd asked Dev to help her. She knew it but she didn't share it with Ranveer then.

What's holding up the Dixit siblings in sharing things?? Let go of your worries. You don't have to carry them all by yourselves wherever you go. You've done your bit in the past; in fact more than what was required. Both Dev & Neha have such amazing & understanding partners & yet they hesitate..!!! Learn to share because, sharing is caring. And Dev would never intentionally hurt Ishwari, but today he had a good chance to tell Ishwari about his & Sona's relationship. And he didn't! This is going to hurt her very badly. The more you delay, the more things will get out of hand.

I loved how he addressed Sona by her name, when he told Ishwari, "Ms. Bose...Sonakshi ko..usse bhi lagtha hai ki main galat hoon." ❤️

That boy Dev, stole my heart today when he said to Sona, "Jab main aapko dektha hoon na, aisa lagtha hai duniya mein problems hai hi nahi!!" He deserved a hug then. Sona you should've given him a nice tight hug... ❤️ ❤️

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Posted: 9 years ago
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Both the siblings got this genetic disorder from their mom 😒 , when now Ishwari have doubts(few incidents) about dev and sona ,why don't she ask directly to dev ?that what's between him and sona? what is she waiting for ?
"This is going to hurt her very badly. The more you delay, the more things will get out of hand" this applies for Ishwari too
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Yaar I just feel Dev feels a constant need to be the best and upright and correct in his mom's eyes. Ishwari expects that out of him. She is ready to toil herself along with him to achieve this. Come to think of it it's such a big burden where u cannot falter. Anything less than perfect is not acceptable, it does not exist in this mom son equation sadly! I guess this too stems from the fact that he never ever got to share his set of problems... What all it took for him to reach where he is... How he managed to overcome all obstacles etc... If there has not been any discussion on this why is there an incessant need to disclose the personal part of himself ASAP to the same person?? ..it's not that he will not disclose it... Is it or he is not serious about Sona...he is. The thing is Dev will never be able to come to terms with this weird possessive side of his mom... I don't think it was the right time for him to tell Ishwari about their relationship if she is saying on his face that the girl whom she calls... Meri Nutrition is an outsider... Hasn't he seen his mom happy in Sona's company. The bubble he is living in will Burst soon and it will create havoc all around.
It's going to hit him real bad when someone whom he thinks supportd in all his decisions will back off from supporting in the most imp decision of his life.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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I agree! Ishwari is way too uptight about him. I am so glad Dev has found some relief in Sona. Nice post by the way 😊
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Agree that both siblings are complex people and is tough for them share even to their closed ones . but regarding these two incidents I could understand why they didn't want to share . Neha-Dev talk regarding Ranveer's financial status was before Neha-Ranveer fight , now that she got married and beginning to build a life together , she is understanding him better and about his pride and self-respect , she would not want to hurt him further by revealing she is the one requested Dev . She is an honest person and is not afraid to voice her opinion but she certainly would have felt that was not the right time , as she is getting to know Ranveer better . Come on cut her some slacks , who in their honeymoon period purposefully reveal something , which you are sure will be the reason for a fight , I wouldn't 😉 .
About Dev , recently Sona had shared her concern of his family disapproving her , he knows she is a lil insecure about the same , so obviously he doesn't want to hurt her saying that his mom is not happy that he discussed family matter with her as she thinks she is an outsider, moreover he didn't lie to her , he is confident that he can tackle the situation. If your parents said something that might hurt your bf/gf /spouse u wouldn't be in a hurry to run behind them to tell the truth .

Regarding both the incidents there is only justification , as Dev said "Love can be a lil selfish right".
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Holding on to their past and not wanting to let it go.. It must be a trait which they want to possess to have a sense of their achievement or loss without which they might feel empty..🤔 Something to constantly remind them that they have gone through so much thus relishing or slogging in it.. They may not want to simplify things.. Instead repeat doing things the same hard way and keep it complicated.. Because if they remove the complication in their life they might think there is nothing else to look forward to😕..

Why else Neha indulged only in cribbing and complaining about what she was deprived of instead of thinking let bygones be bygones.. Why not thinking "What's next or at least what's now?! " someone decided her track of life in the past.. She didn't have control then.. And now she's not ready to take any control because she finds the easy way out of blaming and putting the load on them who directed her life course... Like in arranged marriages the girl/boy just turn the plate towards the parents telling "this is what you put me through.." And not taking charge of their life!! As if there is no way out of it... And I am glad that Neha sees situations differently now.. Hope to see her continue in that mode for while before deciding otherwise...😊

Dev has been taking charge and want to be in control of everything because if things are not in his control, it could cost them heavily thus he may not want to forget whatever had happened to them in the past..

Go take charge.. Make mistakes.. Only thing I would empathize with them is the fear in them to make mistakes.. It's something which they might not have been afforded to do... No luxury to make mistakes!!! One small mistake would have affected the entire household... 🤔

In all this I would have applauded them if they have become too close and tightly bound to each other because they had no one else to go to.. And because they did it all together.. And I would have understood if they repel if someone tries to intrude into this tightly knit flock disturbing their territory!!! But alas, that's not the case here... They are separate individuals fighting together...
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