DIL AND DAARU- what a connection!

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Posted: 11 years ago
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hi .my dear ifs and buts...😊

i sincerely thank each one of you 🤗 for your wide range replies to my earlier posts... thank you... each reply made me wiser..

but , now i was just thinking... ki , what an amazing connection all these words have...

Dil , Daaru, Daya, Dard, Doom, Death... if you guys can add more...😊

Also.. it has become very common i guess to cling onto some vices when we suffer from a broken heart...😲

definitely there should be some tried and tested way to overcome this..

well , here i must admit, hats off to Saachi for handling heart💔 break so amazingly... she found a way to deal with it...by getting totally involved in her work...

but, my question is... yeh toh serial hai.. is it possible to mimic Saachi in real life...when we face with a similar problem...🤔... let us all know...

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Posted: 11 years ago
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It is possible, di...I used to listen to soulful music all the time when I used to feel bad. And, the most important thing to be done is surround the person in pain with lots of love & care...that's exactly what my parents did...
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Yes actually people generally use a method, which best suits them, to distract themselves from the situation. So that they dont feel the pain. This is called addiction, it can be of different form work addiction, substance abuse, watching TV or movies etc etc.
But personally speaking I would like to go thru the emotion rather than run away from it. It will be a long process and might lead to complete disruption in practical life. But frankly distraction doesnt work in long run. One should work on themselves at this crucial juncture. Spend as much time with themselves and reslove the issce internally by giving reasoning and logic.
Our mind only listens to logic. Running away from the situation and getting oneself addicted will have harmful effects later on. May be in the form of a disease or anything else. The funda is to be loveful towards yourself, be soft on yourself😊
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Posted: 11 years ago
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veena di as usual nyc post.
Yes its posible to handle mind i hv experienced it so cn confidently say yes we cn do it in real life also. Agar aap apne heart se loyal ho to aap aisi situation handle kr sakte ho
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Yes, it is possible to handle heartbreak like Saachi . I have seen my best friend (we are friends from KG) ,who is a doctor like you, recently have divorced . 15yrs marriage & 20 yrs relationship comes to an end. I was so upset but she handled it so bravely by making herself busy in work. I salute her & proud of her.

Daru is the option for cowards and so I don't like to see DV's Devdas avtar. I want to see him strong.




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Posted: 11 years ago
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Like always a very though provoking post...
I am strong and I feel daaru is no solution to problems but it does numbs the mind for a while and any happiness of any suffering doesn't effects till it's intoxication lasts.
I think its a form of stress buster and many people take it to get a good nights sleep. Many film actors and actresses do it.
But I don't justify using any artificial way to numb ones emotions only because they are not able to handle it.
Also heart break can be handled or not depends on person to person. It can be handled is for sure as there is nothing which humans are incapable of doing but here I think the impact of heartbreak varies from person to person.
I know myself...I was shattered by heart break but it remained within me and never did I let it out on friends and family...I used to work much more then and keeping myself buzy was the only way out.
But I admit I was not able to ever come to normal and the pain of heartbreak always remained until I united with my partner...
I have seen two of my closest friends almost broken after a heart break. One got her love back after years and other got lost in oblivion.
So I know heer ranjha type people exist and it's not a joke.
I think it also depends on the attachment one has as every person lives a relationship differently.
I have although seen boys coming out of this heartbreak quickly and I saw it in three of my male friends. They get involved with another girl easily and come out of that grief...whereas none of the girls could forget first love.

It's actually right...a woman cannot forget her first love and a man cannot forget his last love.

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Posted: 11 years ago
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Yes.. I admit too.. Sanchi is so great that she is handling breaking heart 💔 with smile on face..
I hope its really very very difficult to hide the pain and smile,😭 Not impossible either..
Giving up love for family really hurts may be..
She is so stubborn that she is handling it with out letting smile on face..😲
In real If we face a similar problem, dont know how can one handle that.. Hum ladies Daaru tho pee nahi sakte.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: drveena



hi .my dear ifs and buts...😊

i sincerely thank each one of you 🤗 for your wide range replies to my earlier posts... thank you... each reply made me wiser..

but , now i was just thinking... ki , what an amazing connection all these words have...

Dil , Daaru, Daya, Dard, Doom, Death... if you guys can add more...😊

Also.. it has become very common i guess to cling onto some vices when we suffer from a broken heart...😲

definitely there should be some tried and tested way to overcome this..

well , here i must admit, hats off to Saachi for handling heart💔 break so amazingly... she found a way to deal with it...by getting totally involved in her work...

but, my question is... yeh toh serial hai.. is it possible to mimic Saachi in real life...when we face with a similar problem...🤔... let us all know...



I think it is a thing to do with if you are a man or a woman... I think women handle break ups in a more mature way... generally speaking... Men, if they are truly in love, which they rarely are, do not know who to handle break ups... they go beserk... like DV taking to wine..

Yes, one of the ways to handle heart breaks is to get to work and not to wine.. like saachi.

It also depends on spiritual inclination. if one is more spiritually inclined, they handle break ups better...

I like the contrast shown in today;s episode... both are heart broken.. one visible, and the other not visible... I liked the way sangeeta portrayed saachi's pain... very expressive with very little words.




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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: moderator1961



I think it is a thing to do with if you are a man or a woman... I think women handle break ups in a more mature way... generally speaking... Men, if they are truly in love, which they rarely are, do not know who to handle break ups... they go beserk... like DV taking to wine..

Yes, one of the ways to handle heart breaks is to get to work and not to wine.. like saachi.

It also depends on spiritual inclination. if one is more spiritually inclined, they handle break ups better...

I like the contrast shown in today;s episode... both are heart broken.. one visible, and the other not visible... I liked the way sangeeta portrayed saachi's pain... very expressive with very little words.




Agree with you.. Getting involved in work helps..
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Posted: 11 years ago
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OKAY... i totally agree with all of you that heart break can be handled albeit a little differently by each individual .

Thank you sudip, priyanka, koyel, shonali ,sindhu ,vinnie, moderator... for your replies ... some of you quoted personal experiences ...this is really very sweet and kind on your part because when we share ,as to how we handled a real life situation , then i personally feel that the suggestion or advise carries more weight and becomes more acceptable to the person in grief.

The worst form of hurt is when marriages fall apart especially after a decade or so...more so when children are involved. By virtue of my profession i am a family friend to quite a few of my patients..two cases in particular continue to haunt me...

1. the children of this educated couple were literally begging me and asking me to advise their parents against separating.i was being requested because i was close to both the husband and the wife and they both would normally take my suggestions and opinions on almost all matters. but sadly i was helpless.

2. she was around 17 years old and her mom who was my neighbour and friend passed away (at 38 years of age).This child was very close to her mom and an only child.She came to my house requesting me to advise her dad against marrying for the second time.

in the first instance the kids are coping up...and in the second case i am not in touch with her now, but she too has coped up is what i heard.

After seeing this , i understood one thing very clearly..i.e. no matter what happens we can cope up.. only thing needed is the will to accept the fact and the courage to move on without falling prey to any of the vices.

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