Is Saachi doing the right thing?

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bird_fly_ca

@bird_fly_ca

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Posted: 12 years ago

#11

I couldn't agree more with above two posts. But, I do think to an extent, we do things to please others (not in terms of dowry but generally speaking). And, the fact that Sachi treats her sister like a child bothers me a lot. Prachi did her undergrad studies and now working full-time. And yet, she is dependant.But, I gotta admit ...What's being potrayed here, it is so common in real life! I have attended weddings where middle class families are inviting 1000 people at the wedding along with 3-4 other wedding related ceremonies. And guess what? The groom and bride couldn't even afford such wedding themselves. Even in this case, I don't think Sunil can afford such a lavish wedding with his salary without parents' help !!!

Prachi potrays herself as someone modern but deep down, she is still traditional. She expects her family to pay for things...A typical indian girl who thinks she is a princess and deserves all the things she wants (not necessarily need). I don't think she is selfish...I actually do think there are lots of girls out there who are just like Prachi (want this and that for the wedding if it means means family borrowing money from friends/banks to prepare a dream wedding for their daughter). That's just my opnion :)

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pallavi25

@pallavi25

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Posted: 12 years ago

#12

Prachi will be Bridezilla, her in laws will be Vultures from Hell and Sanchi will run around trying to please all of them!

I hope Prachi suffers humiliation in her sasural everyday for not knowing any housework, for being a good for nothing!

Sanchi will be totally wrong if she gives in to the demands of those greedy upstarts!

She must stand firm and cancel the wedding. Doesnt she understand those people are no good and will never be satisfied?

Zulm jo karta hai, aur Zulm jo sehta hai (one who abuses, and one who puts up with abuse) both are equally to blame so I would blame both Sanchi and Prachi and of course those in- laws from Hell.

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Jesmin

@...Jes...

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Posted: 12 years ago

#13

NO she is NOT ! but yah she is shattered the way prachi behaved with her & also prachi clearly said that she should interfere in life & i agree with prachi .. plz saachi let that girl marry the moron & then he may burn her one day which she deserves coz girls who do not have self esteem shld be treated like this only!!

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Karri1555

@Karri1555

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Posted: 12 years ago

#14

Originally posted by Heema22

I find one problem with Sachis character is she is trying to please everyone specially her siblings . She needs to know that she isn't their parent specially father and she is a sister with limitation and has own life to live . She has given up her life for her fathers dream. She needs to know we are not super humans and cannot fillful anyone's dreams and keep everyone happy around her . She had limitations too .

She is giving in Prachi's selfish demands . Her own conscious not allowing it. So She should not do anything against conscience even if the situation demands it.

Loving a your sister doesn't mean giving in to all she whims; to love her is to bring out the best in her to teach her to love what is difficult. If can live with guilt if you don't care about being "good". Sachi needs to know that Success is not measured by what you accomplish, but by the opposition you have encountered, and the courage with which you have maintained the struggle against overwhelming odds.

Both grandmas will support her and she must stand up to Prachi's immaturity .Prachi needs to know that"It is not fair to ask of others what you are not willing to do yourself." And Sachi needs to know "Guilt isn't always a rational thing, Guilt is a weight that will crush you whether you deserve or not "

Loved your line highlighted in red. So true if Prachi had to sacrifice and work for her family would she have done even half of what Saachi has done. i wish Aji & Naani would give her a piece or two.

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HalkatJawaniJay

@HalkatJawaniJay

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Posted: 12 years ago

#15

Saachi is not doing the right thing, like everybody else pointed out if she gives into their demands now they will keep asking for more and more in the future. FINE she wants to give world to her sister, but I think Prachi should PAY for the wedding or at least help out with finances. She is a graduate and working already she must have saved up her money cuz I'm sure Saachi the great didn't let her help out with paying bills and stuff.

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pallavi25

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Posted: 12 years ago

#16

Sanchi shd tell Sunil and Prachi to pay for half the wedding costs. They shd be ashamed to put more burden on Sanchi when already the farm, Addu's education and care of the grandmas is on her shoulders! Its only fair that they shd pay their share of the costs. Thats how it is in the West and since India is copying everything from the West, they shd copy this too. Two grown up, educated, earning adults shd carry the burden of their own wedding. Parents/ guardians can pay for whatever portion they want to pay for or afford to pay for!

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luvera

@luvera

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Posted: 12 years ago

#17

Originally posted by: soapbubble
Going by the synopsis, Saachi is going to tell them she will meet their demands.
Is this right?

a) She is giving in to this system where the bride's family is pressured to overspend
b) She is weakening Prachi's stance in what looks like a confrontational marriage and family
c) She is not stopping or advising Prachi from marrying into a family which is going to put restrictions on her all the way - from working to clothes to jewellery.
d) Ajji and Nani are against this relationship - Saachi is not even giving them a decent hearing.

Is Saachi doing the right thing by giving in to this situation? I don't think so. I think her responsibilities are weakening Saachi's common sense.

What do you guys think?

Bubble

Saachi has discussed about the no nonsense ways of Sunil's family and the freedom Prachi will loose in this marriage. Also she has made clear to her that there will be a lot of adjustments that Prachi will have to make at her end. Saachi has done her part in trying to bring forth a picture of the future Prachi will have if she marries Sunil. Prachi is an adult and has made her decision. If now Saachi doesn't respect Prachi's decision Prachi will forever hold it against her for ruining her life. Whatever good or bad Prachi faces in the future will be a result of her decision and she will have to live with it.

Regarding the demands, I condone such behaviour. Saachi is in a dilemma where at one end is her sister's happiness and on the other end is her principles. Both are equally important to her. But in the past, present and future her siblings needs and wants have always trumped her needs and wants so it was no shock to see her choose her sister's happiness..

What is left to see is if Prachi will be able to look past her love and see life as it will be married to Sunil. And if she will come to the realisation that Sunil's family have some really baseless demands..

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TBDRESS

@TBDRESS

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Posted: 12 years ago

#18

Saachi is completely wrong here.

Call it and label it what you may but she basically just agreed to give dowry...no wonder women/girls in India are considered a bhoj, are treated as trophies/objects, and are humiliated and abused by their in-laws!

I won't blame Prachi here because this girl doesen't know any better. I will completely blame Saachi here because she does know better and is still doing the wrong thing here! If Prachi wants to marry Sunil, sure, go ahead. Work and make money and then pay for your own wedding. This is what Saachi should have told Prachi.

So much for education and the working indepdent woman when all you're going to do is give away your sister in the form of a sick trade. Really pathetic!

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Heema22

@Heema22

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Posted: 12 years ago

#19

Dia . I totally agree with you

I think person who ask for dowry and person to gives dowry are both equally guilty .

When I think about Sunil's parents I feel insulted so I am not going to say any thing about them , except 2000 people for wedding plus people from brides side ? . Is this wedding or political rally ?

I do not understand DV.He supposed to be lawyer . he should know Indian Dowry law . I was very surprise to see that , he is supporting Sachi to break the law and praising her that " she is doing right thing " I think he should make sure that ,she doesn't break the law . I know that this character is written to support female lead but I was expecting him to oppose this and support her to stay firm. I was very surprise to to see he is supporting illegal dowry to grooms family .

Sachi knows that her sister is going in mismatched family with backward thinking where Bahu is judge by " what she brings in the family ? going along only because she thinks that this is her sisters happiness? She is applying for loans and want to sale her moms jewelry ? Is she buying Dulha for her sister?

Mina who was bragging about " America " she forgot that in US person who ask for dowry will be in jail ? she is telling her mother that's not enough?she is not following same customs her mom is asking Prachi to follow. hypocrite .

Now the greatest couple . Sunil and Prachi . I don't understand them .If love means everything to them then They should pay for their own wedding .They are working they should get loan if they want lavish wedding for status .

Up to this week , I thought Aaji and Nani were only side kick characters . This week I have lots of resect for them . They both know that this Marrige will not work They both know that Prachi will not be happy and Sunils family will keep on demanding more and more . They both know that we shouldn't spend beyond our ability for wedding but who care about what they think . So much for respecting your elders and learning from them . They both tried to tell Sachi but she has no parts it and today she is asking for mothers Jewelry ? Very hard for me to digest .If you don't stand up for yourself, your letting the bully win!

If indendent self made women doesn't fight against dowry system who will . Sunils mom ?

Edited by Heema22 - 12 years ago

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TBDRESS

@TBDRESS

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Posted: 12 years ago

#20

Originally posted by: Heema22
Dia . I totally agree with you
I think person who ask for dowry and person to gives dowry are both equally guilty . Heema, I have to slightly disagree😆 , I think the person giving the dowry is worse, especially when they know better. Kya fayda itni "education" aur "working-woman" hone ka, when you are going to give into the same sexist traditions that discriminate against women and perpetuate this culture of unequality and humiliation against women.

I can't believe this show is actually showing its heroine partaking in dowry!

When I think about Sunil's parents I feel insulted so I am not going to say any thing about them , except 2000 people for wedding plus people from brides side ? . Is this wedding or political rally ?

I do not understand DV.He supposed to be lawyer . he should know Indian Dowry law . I was very surprise to see that , he is supporting Sachi to break the law and praising her that " she is doing right thing " I think he should make sure that ,she doesn't break the law . I know that this character is written to support female lead but I was expecting him to oppose this and support her to stay firm. I was very surprise to to see he is supporting illegal dowry to grooms family . Good point! This guy is a lawyer and is condoning illegal behavior 😆

Sachi knows that her sister is going in mismatched family with backward thinking where Bahu is judge by " what she brings in the family ? going along only because she thinks that this is her sisters happiness? She is applying for loans and want to sale her moms jewelry ? Is she buying Dulha for her sister? Haha, wish that was the case, at least there the groom would then be bought- but India mein ladkiyo ki yeh aukat kahan? We have to plead and beg for the grooms' family to please please accept our daughters- and the daughters and their families like Saachi happily go along 😆

Mina who was bragging about " America " she forgot that in US person who ask for dowry will be in jail ? she is telling her mother that's not enough?she is not following same customs her mom is asking Prachi to follow. hypocrite .

Now the greatest couple . Sunil and Prachi . I don't understand them .If love means everything to them then They should pay for their own wedding .They are working they should get loan if they want lavish wedding for status .Someone else mentioned this in another comment that I really liked- since Prachi and Sunil and his amreeka wali sister and so into western culture, they should go ahead and follow western culture- stop asking your families to pay for your wedding- get a job, and do it yourself1
Up to this week , I thought Aaji and Nani were only side kick characters . This week I have lots of resect for them . They both know that this Marrige will not work They both know that Prachi will not be happy and Sunils family will keep on demanding more and more . They both know that we shouldn't spend beyond our ability for wedding but who care about what they think . So much for respecting your elders and learning from them . They both tried to tell Sachi but she has no parts it and today she is asking for mothers Jewelry ? Very hard for me to digest .If you don't stand up for yourself, your letting the bully win!

If indendent self made women doesn't fight against dowry system who will . Sunils mom ?

🤣🤣 no I think his amreeka wali sister will

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