Pippaji and I were discussing Milsi's and Prachi's stand on ONS based on what has been shown so far in the show. Our views are expressed below (by the way I have still not received Pippa's consent to post her views. Hope she does not mind. If she does, I'm sorry Pippaji).
Kindly feel free to add your own take on it.
1.Milsi's stand
Pippa
Milind's attitude towards the fake ONS the first time around. Then, and even now, he seems to feel guilty about it because he'd compromised Ayesha and hurt her. This time too, he gave her the justification for not going through with it. Admittedly, that's very credible and honourable of him. But the issue I have with it is.....not once did he say, the last time or now, that he believed in his marriage vows and honoured them even if Prachi didn't. That it went against his principles to be adultrous, that he felt guilty not only on account of Ayesha, who's also married but also that he broke his vows, whatever the provocation.
For a person who's inherently decent, this aspect hasn't occurred to him nor the fact that Ayesha doesn't really need or deserve his concern as she's a married woman herself and has no qualms about breaking her vows. I also found it odd that there was no introspection on his part over his supposed indiscretion especially after he thinks that Prachi has betrayed him...shouldn't he be thinking, " Isn't this the case of the pot calling the kettle black? Haven't I done the same thing Prachi has? So, who am I to point a finger at her?" I just feel that he doesn't seem to feel enough or any guilt for his actions in relation to his marriage...I mean, he doesn't connect the guilt over the Ons with his own marriage...only reagarding Ayesha.
Opti
ONS has two effects. One on the person one has had it with and the other on oneself. In this case since both the parties are also married, it also has two additional effects, ie., on their respective marriages. Now let us see how the ONS (fake one and the non-starter) between Milsi and Ayesha has been addressed by Milsi. When he expressed guilt, it was for playing with her feelings because he very well knew that what she wanted (love) is not something he was in a position give, either then or now. The reason for that was his heart was not with him to give. It was already captured by Prachi although he did not tell Ayesha explicitly that it was the reason. The act also belittled his friendship with her. Milsi is one person who respects all relationships. Although Ayesha and he shared a relationship that extended beyond friendship, that relationship underwent a change the minute he accepted Prachi into his heart. If he had committed that act he had sullied that friendship.
Yes, coming to Pippa's point about the effect on their marriages. Why did he not tell her that they had spoilt the sanctity of their marriages? Because he knew that to her marriage means nothing, neither hers nor his. So there is no point placing that argument before her. In fact if he tells that he does not want to be with her because he is married to Prachi, that would only infuriate her more and make her more determined to entice him since she hates Prachi and would do anything to take away what is hers. He knew her unstable state and the only way he can make her see reason is by empathizing with her and make her feel that it is not good for her.
How do we know that he feels guilty for being adulterous to Prachi? The only time this matter was brought up was at the waterfall scene when Prachi tells Milsi that a wife can forgive her husband going astray once. The minute she uttered that Milsi's expression showed his guilt. So does that mean he felt guilty only at that time and not before that? We really do not know. This is why when the truth comes out, I want Prachi to confront him about the ONS which she may believe took place in Panchmeshwar. And I want Milsi to make his stand on adultery clear once and for all. He should tell her that he made that mistake once before but stopped himself from making it again because he values his commitment to their marriage even though he believed that she did not care for him at the time. Only then will Milsi be fully exonerated.
2. Prachi's stand
Pippa
According to the episode aired the day before, Prachi's under the impression that Milind and Ayesha have shared a room and quite possibly even a bed. But when she came face to face with him yesterday, there was only relief and happiness on her face. I could be fatuous and say that her emotions then were due to extreme hunger and thirst! but, then again, knowing the BT writers, it could that she was being the pativrata patni.The point I'm trying to make here is this...shouldn't she have been a little distant and stiff towards him after having heard him reply to Ayesha's call like loyal pet over the phone? Shouldn't she be thinking, " How could he be/sleep with her, esply on a KC night etc?" I'm not sure whether the writers even plan to go there.
Opti
Again a very valid point. But what I hope was playing on Prachi's mind is how to complete the fast because Milsi's life is on the line (after all the vrath is for his long life). So although she would have been indignant when she heard about the supposed escapade, her priority would have been to complete the fast. Hence, her relief and happiness in seeing him. Moreover, both in the case of Prachi and Milsi, the first reaction to each other is love and concern, no matter what they think the other person has done to them. Yesterday too although Milsi swore that he will not give in to Prachi, the minute he saw he faint, the first reaction was concern. He quickly masked it with indifference, but the initial concern was there for all to see. So too with Prachi (I think), her love just overcame her jealousy.
Moreover, she is right now on a weak wicket. She has not revealed the truth and cleared herself. So she cannot question him just yet. But I do hope she does, once everything is cleared as I had mentioned earlier.
Pooja, hope this post addresses your concerns. And sorry about this looooong post.
Ishaani
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