I don't understand women who stay with partners who have cheated them. For me, once a cheater in a relationship, forever a cheater. People can work on issues but once love is gone and the connection is gone, what holds these people together? I know of one woman who chose to stay with her husband after finding out that he had cheated her and another woman by telling the latter that he was single. The wife didn't know where to go, and the husband was playing the sympathy card. I don't know what happened afterwards but I always wondered why she stayed with the husband. Same for Viaan's mother. She is blaming the other woman but holding on to a false image of her husband. She has successfully managed to poison her son by forever playing the victim card. Viaan's biggest fear is that he is just like his father. He has spent his life listening to his mother, and being the parent in that relationship. I wonder whether Viaan himself knows how dysfunctional his life his. He has been led to believe that most women of middle class background are gold-diggers, and he has spent his life hating his father....a father who wanted to leave a legacy for his son. Viaan has to fall in love to finally understand his father's actions. I wish I could go back to the ep where Viaan was having a monologue and expressed the wish for Katha to save him from himself. But that did not happen as Katha accepted the ONS at that time. Relationships and people are complicated.
I remember this conversation from a kdrama forum where we were trying to understand why some of the relationships continue while others didn't in the drama. as we dissected and discussed, as long as both partners are getting something out of the relationship, it will continue in some form.
fruitbae mentioned financial constraints as well as children. while that is true for women, what about the men? why are they still staying after cheating? in some cases, the same reasons apply for them. maybe they like the life they are leading in society and prefer to save face. the image of family is too important to let go. for some, they do want to keep access to their children. so both husband and wife might choose to live separate lives in the same house. or another option is to really reconcile and make a go for it.
another reason might be loneliness. for some, they want companionship and prefer someone there rather than be alone. so they have gotten used to each other and are able to cobble together some sort of life. there are many who live like housemates because they don't want to do this alone. so when we say, "why is the women staying?", we also have to ask the question -- "why is the man staying?" basically it is a two way street and there is something both are getting that they think is worthwhile enough to stay for.
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