Blessing for a special bond - Page 5

@beautiful advise pragalbha...one that i can say works...

@rk fan, soo true yaar thats what i do too and i find it really does work. treat his family like yours...excellent advise rk.

sonali my humble piece of advise is know what battles are important to win and which ones are worth letting go of. so really just knowing when to fold and when to push ahead.and also after 8 yrs of marriage i can say that my husband still manges to throw me a curve ball and i'll be like how am i suppose to handle this one..😕😆

robina (i hope i didnt just confuse you)

Robzs, that was awesome point! 👏 Without compromise I dont think any marriage works! Just dont pull too hard!

@Sonali: U r welcome always 🤗.

@Pragalba: Hey really great idea👏

@Pragalba,Robina & Rk-fan: Very nicely put.👏

Okay my turn:

1. If u have any disagreement with ur in-laws try to sort it out yourself as far as possible, cos the moment u bring ur hubby into it, Most of the time the situation ends up getting worse. (My mom told me this and trust me i have followed it and works wonders).

2. Do not compare ur marriage with ur parents' or friends. In ur parent's case it has taken them years to achieve what they have and in ur friend's case chances they too have their set of problems, u just might not be aware of them.

3.All marriages face some sort of teething problems, everyone undergoes it, but over a period of time only the good memories remain, the fights are forgotten.

4. All relationships have their ups & downs. So capitalise on the ups & be patient and be calm through the downs.

5. Like Robina said, learn to pick ur battles. U neednt fight for every single thing, fight for the ones which are really important to u and ignore/compromise on the ones which arent that important.

6. Like RK fan said, treat his family like ur own and u will find him doing exactly the same with ur family too.

7. Like Pragalba said,if u can get ur point across with smile/humor rather than an argument do it.(it takes practice, but once u get the hang of it, u will find it has amazing results).

8. All relationships to succeed take time, trust, patience, some compromise as well. After few years u & ur hubby will not be the people u guys are now. As years pass, u realise that u both are changing constantly. Issue which were big in the initial stages would seem very trivial now.

9. Always pose a united face at functions, get togethers in general to the outside world even if u have had a huge fight an hour before. NEVER let a third person sort ur problems. Do it urself.

10. Most important, there is a thin line between ego & self respect. Learn to let go off ur ego but fight like hell for ur self-respect cos only when u respect urself can u expect others to do the same.

Sorry baba, kuch zyaada hi ho gaya, but i just realised i would probably say the same things to my daughter/sister too.

Do try to remember fantastic advices of all ur friends here, comes from experience (some their own, some their near & dear ones).

shwetha

Hey Sonali🤗🤗🤗

Congrats dear 4 ur engagement 👏

God Bless u

U get whtever u dream of in ur life😛

Wishin u a happy martial life.........

B happy n smile in ur life n u will c life will gve u happiness n smile always in ur face😃 . a huge smile.....

Hearty congrulation 2 u my dear frndz sonali n my jeju😉....

Wow all r gvin tips 2 u r keepin healthy marraige....

shwetha I m just reading wht u post 4 sonali. n it's really amazning. n quite true.... n all hve also hve gven nice idea....

but Sonali as u knw I m nt married or engage or nt buk also.... so I don't hve any advice 2 gve u.. but a till shero ....

Time is too slow for those who wait,
Too swift for those who fear,
Too long for those who grieve,
Too short for those who rejoice,

but for those who love, Time is eternity. ( so always luv ur hubby n family n in return u will get d same bck )

you showed me the way
the way that no one else could
when you wishper my name
I new that I should
I wish you would tell me
the hurt you are going through
but even if you dont no matter
what
I'll always be here for you!
that is the promise that im makeing
to you
now and forever this promise
is true !!! ( dis is wht u need 2 follow in ur life... n d same goes 2 ur hubby.. tell him ur saali said 2 follow dis😆)

Hey Shona....

Congrats!!!....Wish u a happy married life... 😆 😆 lol...not now...later... 😆 for now...enjoy being single...tho u have a fiance...but ur stl considered single coz ur not married yet...ryt?... 😆 😆

ok..so ive seen ppl giving u sum advise.. 😆 which is gr8!...i dont have any advice coz i aint married n im not planing to... 😆 but i know ul be a wonderful daughter in law to ur in laws..n a wonderful wife too...👏 😳

congrats agen!... 👏

a song for u....lol....hey shona..hey shona... 😆 (just hear the song n ul remember me.. 😉 😆)

khushi u not planning to get married 😲 haw 😆 🤣 i kno why that is 😆 😆 😆

i was all ready to come to ur wedding 🤣 😛

👏 woila... amazing sharing by all..

I m just aweeeeee to read it...so enjoy sonu dear with all ..

okee...dokee don't worry M rite now in full mood of party.. 🥳🥳🥳 every party is in-complete without food & ice-cream .... 😉 🥳🥳

chloooo hum aaj wo layee hai app ke liyee.. 😛

enjoyyyyyyyyyyyyyy...... 😆 😊

hellow all wonderfull married women thanx for giving great advices 👏 .. ..u people are helping a lot of people here along with SONALI..they are all really awesome..keep posting more 😃

WOW Ladies....awesome, awesome advice!!!!!!! 👏 👏 Sonali ko chodo, I myself might pick up some pointers!!! 😉 😆 😆

What Robina said about knowing to pick your fights is SOOOOOOOOOOO important, that I cannot stress enough.
I want to share a tip on how to differentiate which is an important fight vs an unimportant one. Before you start off, just give a few seconds of thought to the situation. Try to judge the situation and say to yourself........"Will I care about this issue or this concern in an year's time? Will this issue be still as important to me then as it is now?".
Your answer will show you the path. I have personally used this method several times and it has given me so much insight into what step I need to take and helped me maintain a lot of peace in my life! 😃

Another very important piece of advice I want to give is learn to take part in the activities that interest your husband. Join him and you will have an amazing time together!! This again is from personal experience.

Next thing, learn to be independent as well as dependent. I know that is confusing 😛 but let me explain it. Show it to him that you are very capable to handle things on your own. If a situation arises for you to take a deciscion, take it and prove yourself. But don't try to be too independent and do everything on your own without consulting or checking with him. This will lead to 2 kinds of problems.....either he will feel let out or he will not make any efforts knowing fully well that you will handle the situation. Both situations are not good.
Husbands have a lot of respect for women in general and wives in particular who are capable of handling situations. Though they might not express it.

So......learn to be both dependent and independent 😃

Ok..that's enough advice to Sonali, I think its time Niraj gets some advice too 😆 ........but its a pity that he will not visit this thread to hear it from us!

And Sindhu.......tu bhi kuch seekh le.....aage jaake madad aayega! 😉 😆

@ pragalbha : wahi kar rahi hoo..ithna kuch seekna padtha hai kya? 😕