Anurag's Moral Compass - Page 4

Just saw the snippets of the magical sindoor and Mangalsutra ceremony😆 it was dramatic to say the least and totally unnecessary

Originally posted by: vandana21

Dude, i don't get why you think his moral compass is screwed? He did what he did in front of an entire audience - his heart is pure and clear - and for some reason unknown to him he is attracted to prerna and says and does things based on that ..he has not crossed any limits IMO - as long as prerna is OK with what he is doing - nothing wrong in what he did - they both are adults and if Prerna found his actions morally incorrect - she would have told him so - her not telling him, makes him feel that he has a deep connection with her. He doesn't feel that connection with Sona and so doesn't act on anything with her - and rightly so!

also it's perfectly normal for a married person to find someone else attractive and comment on their looks - just cos you are married your hormones don't stop acting :))

and why on earth should Anurag think about what the eff prerna's husband will think?? in his opinion that dude is not even around Prerna when she probably needs him the most! ..also if prerna is OK with anurag fixing her MS ..who is her husband to question that?! Prerna is an individual who has her own sense of right/wrong and knows what she is ok with and what she isn't ..so hypothetically even if her husband was different from Anurag ..and she was OK with Anurag fixing her MS, I don't see anything wrong in that - the husband can't control what a wife does! if he doesn't like it - too bad for him but each person can do what they want!

What is this limit you're talking about ?😆 If they are husband wife, there should be no limit..if they arent, then also for the ema there is no limit.. if it's "that " limit which I am guessing , school kids also cross it ,without any relation or love ..big deal haan? Why was he giving eerrmm ridiculous explanations for his act if he didnt think it's wrong? Obviously his memory didnt came down to a kg kid? Nothing wrong with the ema also as long as adults are involved,is that what u mean? If a woman is ok with another man fixing her ms, her wish , usko kisi ne kya bola? It's entirely their wish to sleep with each other too, and ms sindoor is not required for that..either dont do it or dont feel guilty and give justifications for it..

Instead of him thinking and boring us endlessly with his" why why why" am I getting attracted ,just accept that he loves prerna and not sona ..men who have ema admit that they dont love their wives , they love another woman..i just want some action instead of bs talks which lead to nowhere..bec I have been hearing the soulmate talk since eternity 🥱

Edit..if it was anurag doing it , tying ms on her , putting sindoor , accompany her to thr gynaecologist, there was nothing wrong in it..but hE is not doing it..its happening..by chance.. so there lies the difference ..one doesnt "think" why so and so thing is happening..its mother nature..why make him spout this ridiculous dialogue everyday?

Why is it that he tells his mom that he promised prerna that he will take care of her? If he didnt promise , will he let her rot in pain?

Originally posted by: vandana21

Dude, i don't get why you think his moral compass is screwed? He did what he did in front of an entire audience - his heart is pure and clear - and for some reason unknown to him he is attracted to prerna and says and does things based on that ..he has not crossed any limits IMO - as long as prerna is OK with what he is doing - nothing wrong in what he did - they both are adults and if Prerna found his actions morally incorrect - she would have told him so - her not telling him, makes him feel that he has a deep connection with her. He doesn't feel that connection with Sona and so doesn't act on anything with her - and rightly so!

also it's perfectly normal for a married person to find someone else attractive and comment on their looks - just cos you are married your hormones don't stop acting :))

and why on earth should Anurag think about what the eff prerna's husband will think?? in his opinion that dude is not even around Prerna when she probably needs him the most! ..also if prerna is OK with anurag fixing her MS ..who is her husband to question that?! Prerna is an individual who has her own sense of right/wrong and knows what she is ok with and what she isn't ..so hypothetically even if her husband was different from Anurag ..and she was OK with Anurag fixing her MS, I don't see anything wrong in that - the husband can't control what a wife does! if he doesn't like it - too bad for him but each person can do what they want!

Wow. 😆

Yes,Prerna toh hain morality ki murti that she will stop Anurag. 😆

And if two adults think something is right... That automatically does not make it right. 😆 Ethics and moral code come into place. Adultery or EMA is committed by two consenting adults..is it right then?!😆

Prerna would be okay with anything Anurag does..literally anything if we go by history..so that makes it morally and ethically right?! In which world? 😆

@Charu and @allthatcritique -

all I want to say is my definition of EMA and probably threshold is perhaps very different from you guys. I'm married but I don't believe in wearing MS or sindoor - I occasionally wear a Bindi when I attend indian functions and wear indian clothes because I think it looks fabulous with indian clothes not because i'm married!

Maybe my being a non-believer in customs that are made for women alone makes me feel nothing about the MS thing that happened -

In my reasoning, I feel why should I walk around with a necklace on my neck that reads "I'm married" - and OK I will do it IF and only IF the man in my life has some equivalent!! .. Why should I be proud to flaunt my marriage by wearing a MS and sindoor while the guy has nothing to show that he is married!

So both my husband and I wear a ring - equal! ..Some elders in my family find me obnoxious for being a stickler to equality but i'm proud of it ..as a woman I feel I am no less than a man and I don't feel I need to act in particular way or have special rules just because i'm married!

Also, we have a daughter and her last name is a combination of the last names of me and my husbands last names! This was actually my husbands idea because he feels it is the woman who actually goes through maximum stress physically and emotionally during labor ..and finally the kid gets named after the father! how lame is that! ..and who decided that it should be the fathers name!

both my husband and I love to find such rules that were made ages ago when the societies were highly patriarchal and then change them to be equal! ..and a lot of our friends have taken inspiration :)

anyway coming back to this lousy Kzk ..for me the definition of EMA is if my husband went and had sex with another woman behind my back! ..if he is just helping out a female friend and doing whatever it is that Anurag is doing - I would trust him to know that there is good reason!

@vandana, I never wore a ms ..on my wedding day my mil "forgot" it 🤣 So my wedding was done without ms. From that day ,yes I got one made for me but I never wear it..nor sindoor..just a little on karvachauth day ..I am not bounded by any of these things ..i only wear my ring...not the bangles also bec I have to exercise everyday n its tedious to remove it....everyone knows ms sindoor etc were long forgotten , ek brought it bk with ksbkbt..only the lower class women I have seen wear them and value them ..

I appreciate ur view ..even if I dont wear it , I wouldn't want any of my friends to make me wear it casually..its not a normal piece of jewellery ..

Ema is not only about sleeping behind your partners back,its about emotional infidelity too...here nobody is bothered about sona but if sona was actually a nice girl who anurag married accidentally, there would be a huge uproar reg this..like it happened in ye rishta (not sure you watch it or not but makers were heavily criticized for showing the man giving all his attention to his ex wife and not the girl who he agreed to marry by choice thinking his first wife is dead ) so cvs must be careful with this n they have made a joke out of marriage love and everything related to it..