Mary takes: An analysis of the K-ekta Nari

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I have noticed a carelessness in Prerna today that was new from last week (out of character). She showed understanding last week and Bajaj gave her miles of leeway. She shows complete disregard for him this week and Bajaj is still giving her miles cause he’s falling for her.

She doesn’t quite see that he’s vulnerable to her even when he comes out and says that it hurts that she doesn’t believe him. She accused him at home and then chased him down in jail and accused him of drama (!) when he is just self-flagellating. Girl, he's not the drama queen, you are. She’s just banging on about how wrong he is, a 180 based on what Anurag said. Why? So she can feel really bad when she finds out Anurag planned the whole accident to test the extent of her love for him. Anu planned to egg on Bajaj to get that threat, made eye contact with the motorcyclist, and was like a "crybaby" strategically on the phone with Prerna telling her Bajaj’s car is coming when it all happened. Anupam clearly helped him in this plan. This will end badly for Anurag and in a lot of guilt for Prerna. Which will then push her in Bajaj's direction because she will see Anurag as manipulative. Anurag is right to feel hurt and rejected, but a man who cannot take a woman's no as a no is just gross to me personally. His sister was right, he needs to respect Prerna's choice and both women told him Prerna is not a toy. Bajaj was initially guilty of pawning Prerna too, but he has moved from that and let her be whereas Anurag is still trying to push her along the chessboard with this manipulative accident.

Also, I think she is a natural at dominating Bajaj from Day 1 cause he started on a bad note with her. Bajaj is taken with her precisely because she’s not falling on his lap like most women - he is used to rejection in life and that is the only thing he thinks is real. He’s one who has been burned by many rejections, namely his father’s, so he responds more to rejection. Someone starved of love/care gets very agitated when someone who rejects him suddenly shows care, hence Prerna plays him like a fiddle when she goes back and forth between the two emotions. Still, he just let's her do her thing.

She doesn’t give two figs about Bajaj right now and her act in the jail which at first got Bajaj’s hopes up really cut him deep when he saw she put it on for Anu. She doesn't see that while she started as the pawn, she had very much made Bajaj the pawn in how she controls her equation with Anurag. Using him to make Anurag jealous because she thinks Bajaj doesn’t care as long as Kukki is taken care of has serious repercussions for Bajaj. When he told her it changed and it does matter what she thinks, she didn’t listen, he made himself vulnerable over and over and requested that she get to know him, but she didn't hear any of it. All this makes me conclude that Prerna really is so far from thinking that Bajaj can actually fall for her that she doesn’t consider her impact on him at all.

She underestimates her importance everywhere and becomes the victim everywhere with her constant self-critique - the typical K-ekta nari. Bajaj was right about that part. In real life, I don't like women with such low esteem, but I am enjoying the push and pull of the Prerish equation because it seems like whichever direction it goes, they travel it parallel to each other. Bajaj is very much rooted in caretaker mode to her because he sees that as his duty as a husband and lover. He's her anchor, but she wants feel-good love of dancing around trees which Anurag gives her. She varies between attack and understanding modes for Bajaj. So what happens when one point is rooted while the other connected point runs between extremes? Always a perfect circle :) This is the same reason why why two fluctuating emotional people don’t work well together - they don't make a circle, they make a crinkle ;)

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Posted: 5 years ago
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Absolute perfect analysis👍🏼 Who knew ki Bajju's' Mai apko sirf kuki ki ma ke nazaria se dekhtahu is gonna bite him back someday! I believe after the truth reveal Prerna will start seeing Bajaj, actually seeing him.

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Originally posted by: MOnamy11

Absolute perfect analysis👍🏼 Who knew ki Bajju's' Mai apko sirf kuki ki ma ke nazaria se dekhtahu is gonna bite him back someday! I believe after the truth reveal Prerna will start seeing Bajaj, actually seeing him.

Thank you! I think she just thinks he's way up there as an older, more successful person. While she fights on equal footing with him, she doesn't even think that he can see her as a woman because of his words. He did say he can get any girl and ones that are better than her, so she really got put down at the beginning. His arrogance came from her outright rejection and it is surely biting him now. He thinks she doesn't see him and she thinks he never saw her.

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Originally posted by: Marybarton

Thank you! I think she just thinks he's way up there as an older, more successful person. While she fights on equal footing with him, she doesn't even think that he can see her as a woman because of his words. He did say he can get any girl and ones that are better than her, so she really got put down at the beginning. His arrogance came from her outright rejection and it is surely biting him now. He think she doesn't see him and she thinks he never saw her.

She hasn't started thinking about it ki why he's giving her so much importance! After getting addicted to his endless importance when she'll lose it,then she's gonna rack her brain
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I believe you are giving Prerna too much credit for self-analysis and an understanding of Bajaj and his emotions as they are playing out in real-time to us, the viewers.

Prerna does not have the insight or the capacity for such understanding. Prerna's character is behaving true to form, exactly how she was sketched from episode 1.

She is stubborn, not subtle, reactive, not proactive, emotional not practical. She under-values her very existence and believes her worth is to be a sacrificial lamb. She firmly believes she was born to make her loved ones' lives easier while she continues to live like an empty shell of a person. She suppresses all her emotions, desires and any notion of happiness. She is on earth to give, give and give some more.

She is hardly capable of understanding the subtleties of Bajaj's emotional turmoil. This is real life. She is too young to understand and react. Prerna is only well versed in the emotional "realities" of the fictional love stories she used to read out loud to Anurag, way back when.

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👏Beautifully written.

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Originally posted by: Pinot

I believe you are giving Prerna too much credit for self-analysis and an understanding of Bajaj and his emotions as they are playing out in real-time to us, the viewers.

Prerna does not have the insight or the capacity for such understanding. Prerna's character is behaving true to form, exactly how she was sketched from episode 1.

She is stubborn, not subtle, reactive, not proactive, emotional not practical. She under-values her very existence and believes her worth is to be a sacrificial lamb. She firmly believes she was born to make lives of her loved ones' easier while she continues to live like an empty shell of a person. She suppresses all her emotions, desires and any notion of happiness. She is on earth to give, give and give some more.

She is hardly capable of understanding the subtleties of Bajaj's emotional turmoil. This is real life. She is too young to understand and react. Prerna is only well versed in the emotional "realities" of the fictional love stories she used to read out loud to Anurag, way back when.

Yes, she is the typical Indian soap victim. I don't think she is really even a two-dimensional character. She doesn't get it until it is said out loud to her - loud like Anurag's expressions of love. Prerna is quite basic lol. Being young shouldn't be her excuse though. Bajaj was building an empire at her age.

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Originally posted by: Marybarton

Yes, she is the typical Indian soap victim. I don't think she is really even a two-dimensional character. She doesn't get it until it is said out loud to her - loud like Anurag's expressions of love. Prerna is quite basic lol. Being young shouldn't be her excuse though. Bajaj was building an empire at her age.

You become the sum-total of your experiences since the day you are born. For Bajaj, there have been hints to an unhappy past, emphasis on work, perhaps rejection by a parent. This could throw light on his relentless drive to succeed. Not everyone can be Bajaj. His past defines. Prerna's utter unselfish love for everyone she cares for defines her.

I was not capable of building any empires or even a house at Prerna's age. I too was reading fiction and dating and socializing. Didn't even know what an empire was! 😊

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I think the issue with Prerna is that she has always lacked emotional intelligence 😆. She's not well versed to the reality of her own emotions or those around her, she acts from a very impulsive and reactive nature from a motivation that is entirely deluded in being mahaan lol. Her range is very short-sighted when it comes to this stuff, she never thinks about the long game, always what can help her in the moment. She's done it time and time again.

I agree though that Bajaj's resolute and more balanced emotional capacity suits her. Frequently through their conversations he is able to pull her out of her own head a little bit and slow her down.

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Originally posted by: vena.cava.

I think the issue with Prerna is that she has always lacked emotional intelligence 😆. She's not well versed to the reality of her own emotions or those around her, she acts from a very impulsive and reactive nature from a motivation that is entirely deluded in being mahaan lol. Her range is very short-sighted when it comes to this stuff, she never thinks about the long game, always what can help her in the moment. She's done it time and time again.

I agree though that Bajaj's resolute and more balanced emotional capacity suits her. Frequently through their conversations he is able to pull her out of her own head a little bit and slow her down.

Agreed on every point. I think that's what make him prime husband material. I will have him if she doesn't want him!

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