Prerna: The Woman, The Myth, The ...? - Page 3

She should take the course that is best for her baby and her future without having to compromise her self respect, her free will and her dreams. She should set her priorities right, ask herself what she wants from life. And develop some self love, very imp in her case.

I will mention Anurag and Bajaj if its necessary such if it’s needed to be said for her life, not because I want her to be with them.

So here: I want her to go to doctor to check on her pregnancy first. Check out what’s happening. Then I want her to divorce Bajaj and take half of his property if it is possible as I don’t know India’s laws on how long the marriage should be for a wife to get half. I want her to realize and get her into thick brain that she can’t neglect herself, her child and her family over others. She can’t stay in marriage just because of Kuku. That’s insanity. She needs to have self-esteem, self-respect, self-love and knowing what her priorities in life are and should be. She has neglected her own happiness, her future and her family over a child. Is she with Bajaj because of anurag still? Because Anurag is out of jail and is there any prove even that he will go back to jail, so why is she with bajaj still? Is it loyalty and Kuku? That’s insane. She needs to realize the wrongs in her thoughts and actions.

After the divorce, I want her to finish her education. Taking the 50% as settlement from Bajaj, I want her to secure her future financially from it for herself, her child and her mother/family. She can invest, start a business, etc so she’s never ever dependent on anyone. Finish her education too. And during this time, again work on her self- esteem, self-love, etc and correct her wrong, toxic and insane thought process to practical thought process because it wouldn’t matter if she has money. If she’s again the same Prena who neglect herself and her family because of strangers, her life will be in constant mess. She needs to reflect upon why her life is a mess? May be then she will realize. Ones life is in their own control. Of course, evil people will interfere and do as much to ruin one’s life, but one can’t just give in and be weak like Prena to keep her life in mess. Because yes, she’s weak and not smart. She’s not strong as it’s been said sometimes in the forum. She’s strong in enduring pain, injustices, etc. But that doesn’t mean she’s strong and smart in choosing the correct decisions for herself and her loved ones, standing up for herself, etc. These are the most important to have. No one deserve pain and injustices.I want her to have strength mentally and emotionally by working on her own self to fix the inner her so she can fix her life and then physically by divorcing Bajaj, fixing her financial situation and completing her education.

Once she’s done all that, then if she’s still in love with Anurag, I want her to get back with him. Love is important. This will bring her more happiness, and most importantly a child needs a father and always want his/her parents to be together and have stable family life. And I don’t want her to again take any insults or anything from her in-law. If she has truly worked on herself, she won’t. She can even move out from the house and live somewhere else with Anurag and her child. If she’s not in love with Anurag anymore, then she can find another positive man for herself and her child if she wants. Anurag and her can have the custody of the half-half, so the child can spend time with father too. And if she doesn’t want any other man, then she can remain single with her child and enjoy her life.

Pre only look at college education as a means to support her father in providing for their family as he was getting older. Her impulsive nature has been her biggest shortcoming. She takes short cuts the sacrificial way without discussing or taking the time to find solution.

Pre needs to work on her self confidence. She was relieved Anu bailed her out of situation sometimes trying to impress upon her, her lack of thought and looking at the big picture.

She preggies spa checkup and thinking of herself and her baby’s well being must be her top priority.

Taking baby steps in doing what makes her happy outside the confined walls of the Baj family is the first step. She can help Veena by helping find new clients.

As Baj’s wife getting caught in his mind games and the web of kitchen politics and drama, averting one disaster after another is no way to live. It’s obvious Kuki was used as a bait to hook her into staying with him. Theirmarriage is a toxic relationship every way you look at it. First she needs to get out of it and take some time to figure out what she would like to do with her life.

If it’s helping Veena drum up new clients or design parties then she should pursue that. She can also work with a few inspiring women that make her feel good being of service to others in a productive way, that will build her self confidence. With self confidence her self esteem will also grow.

Once she has self esteem she will have the courage to stop dancing to everyone else’s tunes and learn to say NO to anything that isn’t in her and her baby’s best interest. Pre should ask herself “if she wasn’t in the picture what would Baj have done to care for Kuki. She is not indispensable, he can care for his daughter. Learning to say NO to Baj’s demands is important even if she cares for Kuki.

Pre has tolerated mental and emotional abuse. Once she learns to love herself she will stand up for herself. Pre should realize people take cues on how to treat someone from the way they see a person herself. Nobody messes with someone who stands up for what they believe in that’s right for them.

Pre and Munna should be her top priority and if after all the self reflection and action she takes, once she is in a good place within herself she can decide who she wants to share her life with in the future.

She should talk to herself instead of listening to others.

Practically, she should switch off her phone, go back to her mom's house, get a check up done, get a job, finish education and then start dating (when she wants to).

On a side note, I dare Ekta to show Pre rolling her eyes at the daily sermons and accusations thrown at her. I want her to mentally say EFF OFF to all and underhandedly destroy everything and everyone obstructing her happiness. Kasauti finish!

I would like her to actually think about what she wants from her life, for herself, be selfish. Stop thinking about anyone else by her, no thinking about ex lovers, current husbands, psycho almost MILs, leeching family members. Girl, do you! If you wanna go back to college, go back to college, figure how you can stand on your own 2 feet with out being dependent on anyone, regardless of it is a man or a woman. Learn who you are and what you want. When you are young and you fall in love, you see everything as blue skies and roses and we tend to forget to smell the actual roses and figure out who we are. Our whole existence rotates around this feeling of love and desire. I am not saying young love isn’t real and extraordinary, it is, but when in love figure out first what and who we are so that we can profess self-love and then love someone else. In love if we forget whom we are, then all is lost. If after you figure out who you, are and what you want in life and you want “rock” Bajaj’s world, then by all means do it. 😇 Or if you really want to go back to a boy, do that too.

Wow, I was so happy to see a post like this in the forum. So often, we define women, particularly Prerna in this context, by the men in their lives when that's so unfair to them. Kudos to you for bringing this up because a lot of us in this forum are women and it's entirely possible that we watch this show and see in Prerna's characterization, her values and her situation either some woman in our lives or ourselves. Sure, we don't give up and sacrifice so much of our lives in marriage deals or kidnappings, but we do fall in love, we do love our families and would likely do anything for them and sometimes we're expected to give and give and receive nothing in return. So, from that point of view, I'd like for Prerna to listen to her intuition, to give herself a good hard look and to channel her inner badass which we saw in today's episode. I mean I'm so glad that sternness and confidence came from her projection of her self rather than from any outsider. She got herself to stop crying and start fighting for what matters to her. She needs to keep this up whenever she's put in similar tough situations, it'll be empowering for the audience to watch too. Beyond that, she needs to seriously start thinking about her baby which the CVs conveniently forget and make some well-thought choices regarding her next steps in terms of raising the child. She needs to financially secure herself and confess what she did to either her own family or one of the Basu women so they can cut her some slack.