Hey guys I really need help

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Posted: 18 years ago
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This post is not related to KZK but I really don't know where else to post it and truth is I really feel desperate for help. So hope you guys can help me out.

Ok well most of you must have gone through teasing in your life. I've a really big problem with these two friends who keep on teasing me, it may seem a bit stupid to get worked up on such a small thing, but I can't help it. I've always been sensitive, and I don't know if thats a good thing or a bad thing, but at this point, I seriously feel its a bad thing.

Well I've this group of 4 friends, who I always hang around with and do many things with. Anyways I've these two friends in this group and I'm always the butt of their jokes. The thing is we're a group of friends, so we always hang out in a group, and these two people just pick on me ALL the time. I'll say something and they'll make fun of it. Its gone to the point that I can't even talk properly around them and I just feel so restricted. Like today for instance I went to a mutual friends house, again it was a group thing, so these two friends were there along with my best friend, me and the mutual friend. We were playing a board game so basically one of the girls was sitting on some kinda token or card. So I just pointed it out to her and tried to remove it and she's all "DON'T TOUCH IT" like I was about to do some repulsive deed. Then I don't know how this started but both these two people started talking about how lame I was as a person and how I always cracked lame jokes. They went on and on about how my lame jokes were like killing them or giving them a heart attack and how I was so lame. I tried telling them to shut up but somehow that wouldn't come out, so instead I just said "Well look whose talking. I'm lame only cause I've such lame friends" and then that gave them more excuse to tell my mutual friend about how lame I am, and told the host (the mutual friend) to tell me to shut up cause I basically sucked and to not open my mouth and to never talk again cause I was a boring lame freako. I told them to Stop it, and one of the two teasers, was telling everybody (and me, I could hear her, I was right there) that she felt so annoyed with me and that she feel like slapping me and put her hand in this slapping gesture thing. And everybody laughed. And seriously they were going ON and ON about it. Everybody else there seemed to find it funny and were laughing like hell and they were agreeing, including my best friend. I felt horrible and I really felt like crying, but I didn't cry cause I didn't want to appear to be affected by their jokes. But I don't know what to do, I don't know why these two people always pick on me and make me feel like some insignificant twat who doesn't know anything and is just a dumb person. They don't pick on all the popular gals, or anybody else BUT just me, they'd make me feel terrible. They're pretty nice to everybody else. But only me, I'm like their punch bag. I mean I have never hurt them or teased them, but why do they have to make my life miserable? I can't even speak properly. These two friends were the cause of my misery in the last year (in 10th grade) because I used to sit next to them and my little group and I used to actually get really pathetic marks in my subjects. Now its much better since they're in a seperate class, and now I'm soo much better in my studies, infact I topped at about two subjects. I mean the difference in 10th and 11th standard was remarkable, I was able to be more confident as I didn't have those two people over there to criticize me on my every move, but I can't avoid them in social parties, or whenever our group decides to go out. I mean they really put my confidence down and make me feel as if I'm worthless, they CONSTANTLY make fun of me, and I don't have any smart-comebacks either so yeah. Its not only this time they've teased me. They've teased me and bullied me so many times that its hurting my confidence and self-esteem. I've always gone out of my way to help them. In Dubai, you can't drive until your about 18 so I had always go out of my way to help these two people, who'd always come to me with their transportation problem, and I'd usually help them out at my own expense and I'd print stuff for their project and help them out a lot, so its just sad that these same friends who so nicely said thanks when I helped them, tell me to "Shut up" or tell me that they're getting so annoyed with me and feel like slapping me, even when I didn't do anything, or just said something!

I've tried talking to them, but they just say stuff like "Sheesh Miss Oversensitive, can't you take a joke?" "Stop being such a crybaby" "Stop being so oversensitive". I don't know what to do. And I really can't avoid them, since they're a part of our group and everybody else thinks they are "fun" and "funny" people. I feel kind of dumb for being so oversensitive about such a thing. Worst thing is tommorow again I've plans where those two friends will be there. Anyone has any advice?

Sorry for such a long post. I really had to get that out. I don't mind if the Mods close this topic or shift it or something!

Edited by meteora_smt - 18 years ago

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Posted: 18 years ago
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Okay first things first you gotta start by not calling these jerks your "firneds" have'nt you ever heard of the saying: "who needs enemies when you got friends?" Dont stress to much everyone goes through this as annoying as that may sound but you gotta learn not to care about friends because if your "best friend" or your "mutual frinds" dont mind these two idiot saying shit about you maybe their not as good friends as you may have hoped. When you really ponder about it : what really is friendship it's nothing it's an excuse to have regular company so that a person would not be alone or forced to make attempts to be social at a global level. Most of the famous stars you see on t.v were all the target of bullying and teasing and look where they are today do you think that they care who bullied them when they were youths and even if they think about it it's only to think that they wish they could have done something to defend themselves. You hwever can do something cut your friends off stop hanging out with this "group" as you call it and make some half way decent friends who actually know how to be civl and besides those who face alot of problems in life are really just developing complex character they may have their so called humor but the tolerence and patience you have to stand these idots they'll never have because they need character and thats only developed when you'v faced problems and form what i understand these so called friends seem very happy go luck good for nothings! like i said once you stop going around with them and try to make friends( make sure their the complete opposite of these creaps) you'll realise that a person does'nt have problems unless he wants to ignore them. Anyways i think that the sooner you break out of this whle "need to fit in faze" the sooner you'll realise that it's time to get serious in life and do something for yourself because you can go to parties whenever but you only get one chance to do the right thing because their is a right moment for everything.

(sorry the post is so long but im just really starting to hate these frinds of your) you should really stop hanging with them altogether and make new friends some ppl who you would never see yourself with (not in a bad i just mean dont always go for the cool crowd)

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