Originally posted by: dewdrop~pearls
A Psychoanalysis of Anurag-Sam Relationship!!
I cant understand what does Anurag expect from Sam? I think compared to all of Anurag's 4 wives, including Prerna, Sam has been his most understanding wife. The limit to which she used to tolerate Anurag-Prerna's relationship, and still encouraged it by asking anu to go and support prerna when she needs it, inspite of the fact that everyone around her (including geeta kaaki) were telling her not to do so as he is her husband, still she used to say, 'Its ok, I trust AB'.
Whenever anurag says 'tum mere aur prerna ke rishthe pe shaq kar rahe ho', all she says is I don't doubt ur relation but i don't like the fact that u cant share ur sorrows with me, and she is right!! If you think from her perspective, you will understand. Remember the day when anurag was upset and prerna was consoling him, and the moment prerna got up and went and sam tried to console anurag, anurag just shouted at her saying 'Sam mujhe akeyla chod do'! And openly anurag is saying that 'I have only loved one woman in my life, and that is prerna'! She went on hearing all this with tears in her eyes and still this guy dint stop! And then he is asking her who is she to take the decision, and good she just gave it to him 'its my dad's money cos of which u are still in this house'! She is a human, this insecurity feeling is building inside her and on top of this harsh words from anurag, I think anurag deserved whatever she said that it was her dad to gave money! If anurag can say something as hurtful to such an understanding wife like sam 'I have only loved one woman till now and that is prerna', then wat she said to him 'its my dad's money cos of which u are still in this house' is nothing in front of wat he said, she just said it in a hurtful state! The only difference is that anurag doesn't regret saying something like that to sam, but sam regrets saying something like that to anurag!
Even now she never doubts the relationship which anurag and prerna shares and she knows that anurag is only prerna's friend and that prerna loves bajaj. But the only thing she has always said is he is sharing his feelings with prerna and not her, and tell me which wife would tolerate it if her hubby finds consolation with another woman and not his wife! Sam never stresses and tells anything to anurag, and the most saddest part is anurag always ignores sam's tears and even when she has tears in her eyes, he goes on with his stupid dialogues saying 'tumhare vajah se hamaare beech mein dooriyan hian' and all that. I think he deserves a wife like Prerna who never gives him a chance to say anything and goes on accusing him, cos that's wat he is doing to sam at the moment. Like you say, laatho ke bhoot baton se nahin maantha!
He is talking about spending 5 years with sam forgetting his past, as though he was sacrificing something by spending time with her. Wasn't he enjoying himself with sam these 5 years? Godd, y does he give so much imp to himself, as though he is god's gift on earth to sam or something. I feel he should be grateful that he got a wife like sam who readily became his 4th wife, and supported him whenever everyone else misunderstood him. In return to all this wat is she asking him? Just to share his sadness with her?
Arre she is teling him that she dint ask prerna to move out, it was prerna's decision, he cant understand or wat. He is like its because she came to know of our relationship's kadwahat..So? Now he wants sam to hide her feelings also or wat, so that 'prerna is not hurt', no matter how much sam might be hurt!
Sam overheard dialogues between anurag and prerna where anurag says he regrets the time he married komolika and all that stuff and how long can same tolerate all this crap. If anurag really saw prerna as a friend only and forgot his past, then why he has to keep on talking of his past and why did he say that dialogue to sam that he has only loved one woman till now and that is prerna. After saying something like this to sam, what does he expect?
When prem got lost, y he had to blame sam and say if anything happened to him, he will never forgive her?! She said na that she told his family to take care of prem, and its anurag's own family members, doesn't he trust them this much also or wat? And so many of them are there at his home. Now it is their responsibility and if prem got lost, he should call up and ask his own family members who couldn't take care of his son! What if he hadn't married sam? Who would have taken care of prem in that case? He was angry with sam so very conveniently he put the blame on sam! Both of his prems got kidnapped even when anurag was there, wat does he have to say about that?! So before blaming sam, he should realise that he is himself not a perfectly responsible person! And so wat if sam gave responsibility to his family members? They wont take care of prem or wat?
In most cases, sam just either stands and listen to wat he says, or she just says 2-3 lines back. And it is so difficult for her to talk out things with anurag. He just doesn't seem to understand. And if you have noticed, he is the one who always walks out after saying whatever he has to say, leaving sam standing behind crying. Arre I cant understand if he cant see prerna's tears, how is he able to see sam's tears every now and then, and still instead of wiping it, he goes on putting harsh words on her, and walks away! I really feel Anurag is a total loser as sam's husband!
He was like threatening her that their relationship will break and scaring her and increasing her insecurity instead of comforting in a nice manner saying nothing like that will happen. These things get piled up over a period of time and what impact can it have on any human. She dint come to panchmeshwar to keep an eye on him or anything, she just came there as his wife to be with him, and so rudely anurag was showing as though he dint want her there, prerna was enough! Godd if I had gone to my husband to console him, and if he treated me this way, I don't know what I would have said or done!!
Just cos sam started feeling bad that anurag is not sharing his feelings with her because of anurag's own actions and dialogues, he is now putting the blame on her that all the support that she had given prerna was a 'dikhava'!! CAN U BELIEVE!! THIS WOMAN SAM WAS ALWAYS ON PRERNA'S SIDE DURING THICK AND THIN, ESPECIALY DURING MUKTI RAPE CASE, ETC WHEN EVEN ANURAG WAS NOT THERE WITH HER, AND ALWAYS SUPPORTED PRERNA, AND HOW CAN ANURAG SAY SOMETHING LIKE THAT TO SAM!!
Godd in todays world, even if a small favour someone does for another person who has absolutely no relation with you, it is considered great, and poor sam, wat not she has done for prerna and this is wat anurag tells her?! Just think from your point of views…you have been there with someone who has no particular relation with you except that she is ur husband's friend, and one fine day just cos u have a fight with that person ur husband tells you whatever you did for her till now was 'dikhava', how would you feel?! If it was me, I will stop doing any kind of favours for anyone related to my husband! Or else, just think like this, you have a friend with whom u have been close for 2-3 years and lately you had a fight with her, WILL THAT MEAN THAT ALL THESE 2-3 YEARS WHATEVER YOU HAD DONE FOR HER WAS A DIKHAVA?! Godd Anurag is soo dumb!!
Its easy to sit back and watch the situation, but if you are a girl/woman, try think from your point of view, and u will realise how far u can take things. Every woman should be selfless with regard to certain things, at the same time selfish with relation to certain things. However, push over or sacrificing a woman may be towards her husband, her in-laws, etc, when it comes to the relationship with her husband, she will never be ready to sacrifice even a small portion of it! Nobody is or have to be that mahaan that she tolerates her hubby running to another woman for consolation during sad times.
I know anurag fans wont agree to what I am saying, but just try thinking from a wife's point of view who has not only always been there for her husband, but also for her husband's ex-lover. If it was you in her place, after all this your husband doesn't even care for your tears the way he cares for his ex-lover's or friend's tears, how would and how should you feel?!
Kabhi Neem Neem Kabhi Shahad Shahad
