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friends..i was thinking sumthing..and i thought that i should share it with yu guyz..

if we get emotionally dependent on someone and it begins to look like that you can not live without that person, as if he holds the strings of your emotions and thoughts..The seed of falling in love is the insufficiency and incompletion one experiences in oneself. On the contrary, rising in love happens between people who are self sufficient and complete in themselves. In such a state love simply becomes an expression of overflowing with life, which is so blissful to share with someone...

tell me Does the bondage of emotional dependence makes you frustrated at times? Have you experienced those moments of melting in the deep bliss of love, where neither past nor future exists? Please send in your experiences, comments, questions..

angel..do'nt get me wrong 😉 ..

honey

Sorry hun, i can't help you in that department. That is because I don't believe in love. Love in my opinion just causes pain n it's a good waste of time. Plz don't get offened by my opinion, it's just that I'm not a lovey dovey type of person. Besides, I've never been in love.

i think i asked a tuff question..but definately it will shake yur heart once...

honey

Originally posted by: honey11

friends..i was thinking sumthing..and i thought that i should share it with yu guyz..

if we get emotionally dependent on someone and it begins to look like that you can not live without that person, as if he holds the strings of your emotions and thoughts..The seed of falling in love is the insufficiency and incompletion one experiences in oneself. On the contrary, rising in love happens between people who are self sufficient and complete in themselves. In such a state love simply becomes an expression of overflowing with life, which is so blissful to share with someone...

tell me Does the bondage of emotional dependence makes you frustrated at times? Have you experienced those moments of melting in the deep bliss of love, where neither past nor future exists? Please send in your experiences, comments, questions..

angel..do'nt get me wrong 😉 ..

honey

Angel i could never take you wrong i get what you mean 😊 you obviously know me to well to say that though😆 i did open it thinking oh what she gonna say ...

It is annoying when you get dependent on a person when you was perfectly self sufficent before ..i have 😳 in the answer to the last question but away from that dependancy its made me stronger 😃i think you know more what i am on about than anyone..but i do think its annoying but at the same time that dependancy could change you for the good...with bani and jai ..bani was sufficent before but now cannot imagine life without him but shes still strong and i think its made her think about her self slightly more than she never use to for jai it was good having bani as that person to be dependent on has it changed for the good.

Originally posted by: divya74

Sorry hun, i can't help you in that department. That is because I don't believe in love. Love in my opinion just causes pain n it's a good waste of time. Plz don't get offened by my opinion, it's just that I'm not a lovey dovey type of person. Besides, I've never been in love.

first of all thankx for the reply divya..and i believe that not even single person is untouched from love..Love is a very natural state and as we relax into ourselves, it is easy to dive deep into such divine experiance...

Originally posted by: Misangelic

Angel i could never take you wrong i get what you mean 😊you obviously know me to well to say that though😆i did open it thinking oh what she gonna say ...

It is annoying when you get dependent on a person when you was perfectly self sufficent before ..i have 😳in the answer to the last question but away from that dependancy its made me stronger 😃i think you know more what i am on about than anyone..but i do think its annoying but at the same time that dependancy could change you for the good...with bani and jai ..bani was sufficent before but now cannot imagine life without him but shes still strong and i think its made her think about her self slightly more than she never use to for jai it was good having bani as that person to be dependent on has it changed for the good.

thankx for yur kind words angel..i know yu can understand and read my mind..and i luv yur thoghts jaan..if people are complete in themselves, they are no more trying to bind the other into chains. Fear of loosing the other gives way to sharing and support for the other to grow. Whole energy gets invested in diving deep into the mysteries of life and unfolding of new sources of intelligence. Any person in such a relationship will experience the world with a totally different perspective, as the survival issues of life gives way to celebrations. There is no more pain and bondage but only the joy and freedom. Such a deep love awakens the ultimate source of creativity and hidden talents begin to flower. One begins to trust life and enjoy it's uncertainty...i hope yu get my point..

Originally posted by: honey11

friends..i was thinking sumthing..and i thought that i should share it with yu guyz..

if we get emotionally dependent on someone and it begins to look like that you can not live without that person, as if he holds the strings of your emotions and thoughts..The seed of falling in love is the insufficiency and incompletion one experiences in oneself. On the contrary, rising in love happens between people who are self sufficient and complete in themselves. In such a state love simply becomes an expression of overflowing with life, which is so blissful to share with someone...

tell me Does the bondage of emotional dependence makes you frustrated at times? Have you experienced those moments of melting in the deep bliss of love, where neither past nor future exists? Please send in your experiences, comments, questions..

angel..do'nt get me wrong 😉 ..

honey

This post has made sound even more terrifying than I originally thought it was!

Of course, being a good friend of mine, you already know my take on this issue. 😊 I still think that people of a certain mind frame can be immune to it (for example, the good guy - ME! 😃 😆 ).

I can't speak for everyone, but I think that some people seem to be made for it, some people just aren't. Nearly all of my friends (especially female friends) are all true believers in 'love'.

At first my belief was that this 'love' thing didn't exist and that it was only a sort of delusional state of mind. The number of break ups that I have seen of people that claimed to have undying love for each other seemed to only support my initial view. But since roughly about 2 years ago, I changed this view because I have seen a few of my friends become very happy because of 'love'.

So now my personal view is that 'love' does exist - for those who want it to exist. 'Love' can (and often does happen) to people who are willing to let it happen. The notion that 'love' can happen to any person at any time is still something that I find impossible to believe! But yeah, I'm sure that it can happen to those who don't mind it happening.

But hey, like everything else I post on this forum, this is just my personal opinion and nothing more than that 😊 .

God bless.

Originally posted by: RaviMalhotra69

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<P>Of course, being a good friend of mine, you already know my take on this issue. 😊 I still think that people of a certain mind frame can be immune to it (for example, the good guy - ME! <SPAN></SPAN>😃 😆).
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<P>I can't speak for everyone, butI think that some people seem to be made for it, some people just aren't. Nearly all of my friends (especially female friends) are all true believers in 'love'.
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<P>At first my belief was that this 'love' thing didn't exist and that it was only a sort of delusional state of mind. The number of break ups that I have seen of people that claimed to have undying love for each other seemed to only support my initial view. But since roughly about 2 years ago, I changed this view because I have seen a few of my friends become very happy because of 'love'.
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<P>So now my personal view is that 'love' does exist - for those who want it to exist. 'Love' can (and often does happen) to people who are willing to let it happen. The notion that 'love' can happen to any person at any time is still something that I find impossible to believe! But yeah, I'm sure that it can happen to those who don't mind it happening.
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<P>But hey, like everything else I post on this forum, this is just my personal opinion and nothing more than that <SPAN></SPAN>😊 .
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<P>God bless.

j..yur answer is exactly what i expected from yu....my stubborn friend... 😉 😆 i respect yur opinion..but yu agreed with me on one thing that 'love' can happen to any person at any time...so yu never know....for me "Any time not spent in love is wasted."

Love isn't a one way street. It is something that needs to be maintained. If you find yourself that yu r not made for this bliss it does'nt mean'that it doesn't exist inside you....specially those people who r hopeless in love... encounters this emotion even earlier from those who believe in love...may be this phenomenon works for yu also...


honey11

the love or being in love doesn't have any relevance with being self sufficient or complete... relationships exists when we start to love someone unconditionally accepting the other one as he/she is and as another individual... the love doesn't relate whether we are self-sufficient or complete.. if someone love because if he feels incomplete or not self sufficient then it can't be called love... it become a burden when the dependancy put into tests in real life... there will demanding... your question about love didn't shake me, but this demanding will shake the love... 😉

love is not joke or imagination... love make one strong , not weak... one become strong to do anything for the one we loves... love is most experienced when it is giving than it is receiving... and love without pain is not imaginable... it is not so in some very rare lucky cases... but still pain is always nearby.. the most important thing that love doesn't make us the owner of the lover.. as pia think... it is not love at all.. it is just a fantacy... the person who is being loved is not a slave to us... we accept him as he is, we feel along with him.. we understands him .. with his negative or positive points..

our selfsufficiency is a completely a different thing... when we love someone there is no need we have to mentally depend on him... we live loving him doing things in our capacity to make our heart satisfied according to our love... sometime it may even hurt, but it will do good... we feel difficult to accept bani's view point just because of this... her love towards them around is real and she do things accordingly without a mental dependancy...

Rose

Originally posted by: rose467

the love or being in love doesn't have any relevance with being self sufficient or complete... relationships exists when we start to love someone unconditionally accepting the other one as he/she is and as another individual... the love doesn't relate whether we are self-sufficient or complete.. if someone love because if he feels incomplete or not self sufficient then it can't be called love... it become a burden when the dependancy put into tests in real life... there will demanding... your question about love didn't shake me, but this demanding will shake the love... 😉

love is not joke or imagination... love make one strong , not weak... one become strong to do anything for the one we loves... love is most experienced when it is giving than it is receiving... and love without pain is not imaginable... it is not so in some very rare lucky cases... but still pain is always nearby.. the most important thing that love doesn't make us the owner of the lover.. as pia think... it is not love at all.. it is just a fantacy... the person who is being loved is not a slave to us... we accept him as he is, we feel along with him.. we understands him .. with his negative or positive points..

our selfsufficiency is a completely a different thing... when we love someone there is no need we have to mentally depend on him... we live loving him doing things in our capacity to make our heart satisfied according to our love... sometime it may even hurt, but it will do good... we feel difficult to accept bani's view point just because of this... her love towards them around is real and she do things accordingly without a mental dependancy...

Rose

rose thankx for yur comment...i think yu get me wrong,i was discussing about the diffrence of falling and rising in love..Everyone admits that love is wonderful and necessary, yet no one agrees on just what it is.

i also believe that He / she is the one who can help you to move on to the journey of your own completion and not the one who tries to make you dependent on him. Such a relationship can only lead to freedom, where you love each other as a free choice and not as a compulsion to survive. There is no fear in such love that the other will move away, as both are complete in themselves. However, every moment they choose to live with each other, so as to share and celebrate their lives.....This is how the adventures to that world of bliss begins, which are truly ecstatic....