Meera is so stupid

Meera is really irritating some times.
Being a strong independent women is different from being stupid, egoistic and judgemental.
First she needs to learn how to speak. she shows attitude in wrong place and where she really needs to show attitude and take a stand she keeps mum.
Except she is beautiful neither she have any proper education, manners or patience. Okay she is good at some sports like kabadi apart from that she is full of false ego and attitude.
Everyone should accept her like how she is, what abt her accepting others how they are. No then madam have problem she either shouts or barks on them or find them faulty. as if she is right and whatever she does is right.

What is wrong in learning new things whether its new languages or different cuisines or any art.
what is wrong in that. I see many ppl learn different languages like french, spanish etc. what is meeras problem to learn english or get educated. isnt education and manners important.
okay she is not interested to learn anything new and want everyone to accept her as she is. fine lets suppose after marriage if her husband wants her to cook some other cuisine or special dish. what would be her reply no i wont accept me as im. even she would do the same for her children. what is wrong in learning new things which could be helpful in future. what is wrong to get updated and try to adapt with time.

Good Topic. and I like your POV.

I don't think so she or her family for that matter are against gals of soni kudi for learning international languages and cuisines etc...It is about how simplicity, dreams and their innate , natural self being killed by making them love only rich boys and not their present boyfriends, to be in a makeup 24/7,not respecting sports like kabbadi,not talking loud being a gal,stupid diets to follow and throw parathas in trash...which is acceptable if a gal really wants this and likes being trained this way , good for them ,but meera doesn't accept this , and i think she is not wrong being vocal about it when she is being judged and insulted for no good reason...soni kudi is conditioning small town , middle class gals as if they are brought up only to marry a rich guy and cannot earn for themselves!! On the other hand meera wants a job and wants to marry a guy who accepts her as she is , she never said that she doesn't want to learn new things in life..its just that she doesn't want to learn this way... wasting lakhs of rs when clearly her family doesn't have it and so she is frustrated ...

Originally posted by: varshr

I don't think so she or her family for that matter are against gals of soni kudi for learning international languages and cuisines etc...It is about how simplicity, dreams and their innate , natural self being killed by making them love only rich boys and not their present boyfriends, to be in a makeup 24/7,not respecting sports like kabbadi,not talking loud being a gal,stupid diets to follow and throw parathas in trash...which is acceptable if a gal really wants this and likes being trained this way , good for them ,but meera doesn't accept this , and i think she is not wrong being vocal about it when she is being judged and insulted for no good reason...soni kudi is conditioning small town , middle class gals as if they are brought up only to marry a rich guy and cannot earn for themselves!! On the other hand meera wants a job and wants to marry a guy who accepts her as she is , she never said that she doesn't want to learn new things in life..its just that she doesn't want to learn this way... wasting lakhs of rs when clearly her family doesn't have it and so she is frustrated ...

Originally posted by: anjani-pagli

Good Topic. and I like your POV.

But here the main problem i do not think is learning new thngs, Meera today has problem because her mother was insulted. Just being educated, or knowing english etc does not give any ppl right to insult another person.

Being a strong woman, Meera s trying her best to accept Sumeir and his family, although she is not liking their behavior.

But seeing ppl having problem just because she does nt know how to server High Tea, or how wear high heels, is somethng she cannot accept.

I agree, that she needs to learn manners in few scenarios, but phikar not, our NRI Munda is going to teach her😆

Hi,
I didnt create the post to bash her but sometimes it gets irritating to watch her behaviour.
I wasnt talking particularly abt todays episode. Standing for ur parents isnt wrong but shez wrong in many other stuff.
In starting episodes itself she clearly mentioned shez not gonna learn english or any other language.
She even said something like she is not gonna learn anything new for her inlaws or something like that.
Meera is not taking any stand infront of her inlaws / fiance, she just let them insult her and her family.
The main thing today i noticed in todays episode was how she insulted and made fun of those girls.
On one side u talk abt Exploitation of women and other side u mock them just bcz they want to be modern.
Its all fake and nakli acc to her but why should others follow her words and opinion, dont they have there own thoughts and opinions. who is she to mock them just bcz they joined that institute and following the rules of it. Isnt it there choice.

Originally posted by: varshr

I don't think so she or her family for that matter are against gals of soni kudi for learning international languages and cuisines etc...It is about how simplicity, dreams and their innate , natural self being killed by making them love only rich boys and not their present boyfriends, to be in a makeup 24/7,not respecting sports like kabbadi,not talking loud being a gal,stupid diets to follow and throw parathas in trash...which is acceptable if a gal really wants this and likes being trained this way , good for them ,but meera doesn't accept this , and i think she is not wrong being vocal about it when she is being judged and insulted for no good reason...soni kudi is conditioning small town , middle class gals as if they are brought up only to marry a rich guy and cannot earn for themselves!! On the other hand meera wants a job and wants to marry a guy who accepts her as she is , she never said that she doesn't want to learn new things in life..its just that she doesn't want to learn this way... wasting lakhs of rs when clearly her family doesn't have it and so she is frustrated ...

Meera dont accept all that fine, but she dont have any right to mock others for there choices of lifestyle.
She clearly said she wont learn any new things for marriage in starting episodes. Relationship doesnt work that way. U have to compromise. Ok atleast is she following her own words now. No, she is exactly going to do what she opposed.

Other thing what i dont like abt her is her hypocrisy and double standards.
until its for others all rules apply but when it comes to her and her family no they dont apply.
For eg her parents lied abt the house, so what she did went to sumair and told him truth. she expects if he knows truth its fine, no its not fine. why she hadnt told her inlaws, why she didnt confront her own parents / family for there lies. choose easy way out and throw all ur responsibility on others shoulders.isnt it her duty or responsibility to make things clear btwn 2 families. what will she do when truth comes out and her parents are insulted by her in laws. just by saying to sumair the issue isnot resolved or closed. its not his duty bcz it was her family who lied not his.
second instance abt the ring on the engagement day. instead of finding faults in vivan. she should take a stance on her parents. that they just cant lie everytime abt every damn thing and escape. just by saying sumair the issue wont get resolved. why dont she give her valuable lectures, thoughts to her family and announce abt there lies infront of society like she did with soni kudi institute or atleast she could have reveal truth to her inlaws right. but no she dont want her parents truth to come out. so she chose easy way again. see only the rules,values apply to outsiders not her family. saying i wont get engaged with that costly ring is a difft thing. making the truth known atleast to her inlaws and being transparent is difft thing. why she cant make it clear and take a stand when it comes to her parents. this is the thing is more irritating sab gyan bahar valo ke loye. khud ke ghar ke log kuch bhi kar sakte hain.
sorry for diverting from the topic. but her character contradicts herself in many places.

Meera and her family aren't against the Soni Kudi institution, they don't have enough money for her to join and she doesn't see the compulsion that everyone else (her friends and cousins) is facing to train themselves. Now that her marriage is fixed and the groom wants her to be a bit sophisticated they are ready to do it but not at the cost of anything. Its a quality to applaud that she honours herself and her self-respect more than having a better life.

Originally posted by: muktha_cute

Meera dont accept all that fine, but she dont have any right to mock others for there choices of lifestyle.
She clearly said she wont learn any new things for marriage in starting episodes. Relationship doesnt work that way. U have to compromise. Ok atleast is she following her own words now. No, she is exactly going to do what she opposed.

Other thing what i dont like abt her is her hypocrisy and double standards.
until its for others all rules apply but when it comes to her and her family no they dont apply.
For eg her parents lied abt the house, so what she did went to sumair and told him truth. she expects if he knows truth its fine, no its not fine. why she hadnt told her inlaws, why she didnt confront her own parents / family for there lies. choose easy way out and throw all ur responsibility on others shoulders.isnt it her duty or responsibility to make things clear btwn 2 families. what will she do when truth comes out and her parents are insulted by her in laws. just by saying to sumair the issue isnot resolved or closed. its not his duty bcz it was her family who lied not his.
second instance abt the ring on the engagement day. instead of finding faults in vivan. she should take a stance on her parents. that they just cant lie everytime abt every damn thing and escape. just by saying sumair the issue wont get resolved. why dont she give her valuable lectures, thoughts to her family and announce abt there lies infront of society like she did with soni kudi institute or atleast she could have reveal truth to her inlaws right. but no she dont want her parents truth to come out. so she chose easy way again. see only the rules,values apply to outsiders not her family. saying i wont get engaged with that costly ring is a difft thing. making the truth known atleast to her inlaws and being transparent is difft thing. why she cant make it clear and take a stand when it comes to her parents. this is the thing is more irritating sab gyan bahar valo ke loye. khud ke ghar ke log kuch bhi kar sakte hain.
sorry for diverting from the topic. but her character contradicts herself in many places.

Changing in love of your spouse and changing yourself to get a spouse Who loves your changed version are two very different things... and meera will change in love of vivaan!!

Sorry yaar... i really respect what you are trying to point out but i strongly believe in this quote

Koi pyar kare toh tumse kare, tum jaise ho waise kare ... koi tumko badal ke pyar kare, toh woh pyar nahi woh sauda kare ... aur saheba, pyar mein sauda nahi hota
😛


You are right, her love for her family (especially dolly here)is her weakness... dolly goes overboard and that makes meera take a back step , in every serial you will find a weak link of male or female protagonist are their mother father or dadi n sister etc...Same is here...😆

And thank god she mocks these clown gals ,hope she put some sense and self respect in them...

I think the show is about the conditioning of girls to believe that they have to be a certain way to 'achieve' a perfect groom. When we are in the 21st century and talk of shedding age-old regressive ideas, society at large still panders to the notion of "marriage or nothing" for girls- but under the garb of modernity. By grooming and transforming yourself to be a bride, you are indulging in patriarchy while letting your own self fade away for a prospective groom- which is not 'modern' thinking by any means.

Originally posted by: muktha_cute

okay she is not interested to learn anything new and want everyone to accept her as she is. fine lets suppose after marriage if her husband wants her to cook some other cuisine or special dish . what would be her reply no i wont accept me as im. even she would do the same for her children. what is wrong in learning new things which could be helpful in future. what is wrong to get updated and try to adapt with time.

@bold: IMO, the husband should cook it himself. A wife isn't obligated to cook as per the husband's demands.

Coming to Meera... she isn't wrong for not wanting to change her habits. She is wrong for not openly saying all this Sumer. She is wrong for not taking a strong stand about all this in front of Sumer. Instead of showing attitude to Vivaan, she should show some to Sumer and clarify her stance once and for all.