Love, Fear, Courage...Sunday Musings!

"It isn't love, if it does not hurt"-Nandini

She knows this very well, she understands that to experience true love, you will have to experience moments of pain, because with love , you leave yourself vulnerable to the other person. People who love you, hurt you not because they want to but because they are human beings. Human beings make mistakes, mistakes that hurt especially if a loved person does it, because you give them the power to do so. But that is love, because you surrender yourself in love and you hope that by surrendering the happiness you experience is more than the pain you have to bear.

Fear, the fear of being hurt, the fear that the pain is almost too much to bear, the fear that no matter how much happiness you get, that the moments of pain overwhelm the happiness.

We do not want to get hurt, so we shield ourselves from it, we put up walls as a defense mechanism, Some people come into your lives and are able to take down those walls, but sometimes in life, your life is spent and no one has come to help take down those walls you have put up.

Courage, the very word's roots are from the French word "coeur" meaning heart, love and courage are inter-connected. Without the courage to take that " leap of faith", to "free-fall", we might never experience love.

And copy/pasting what I wrote in the AT.

I see it all stemming from the premise that Manik is afraid of the emotion called "love"' because love not only brings happiness, it also brings pain and if you look back to his childhood, Manik's love for Noyonika has only brought him pain. Hence the reluctance to accept his emotion, reluctance to accept love. And when he finally finds the courage to word and embrace "love". he gets pain. Hence why he asks for absolute trust, in doing so, he is trying to negate that he will ever experience pain because of love. But Manik's journey will be to understand that love brings happiness as well as pain, if he truly wants to enjoy the happiness of love, he must experience the moments of pain too. Also kind of explains why he and Alya stuck it together for so long, she never questioned status quo, the control he wanted over his emotions, she allowed him that, with Nandini, the control isnt there, because he loves her, and with love comes pain.

The pain in love that he fears and guards against by demanding unconditional trust...instead of being Courageous and ready to feel the pain that sometimes comes with it...

By doing this he is tilting the responsibility of the relationship heavier on Nandhini...

He absolutely cant bear her making any mistake...but she is human after all...not fair to her...

But Nandhini accepts Pain as something that is a price she pays for the Joy that love brings...She is courageous like that...and most of the time bears the burden he keeps on her willingly...

Manik's seeks these absolutes to protect himself from the pain and disappointment he suffered during childhood. It's still there when he talks to Noyonika , he hardly hides his disappointment , anger and there is sadness too. When he is finding this courage to accept his love he needs her assurance that she is going to stay , that this feeling of love will be there- he wants to hold it with absolute trust which is impossible to establish in real life . I think he will learn that pain, disappointments are part of life , they make love beautiful by giving it more depth , more awareness and brings so much perspective. So manik will have to embrace the pain of his past and let it go , to allow the love they share grow further.

once again very nicely done Adhi...

Soo ...coming to ur post ..absolutly his fear for love was changed by nandini but then again wat he gt again pain ..so it obvious for him to be angry ..this many years he had himself from rest of the world..even vth fab5 ..but vn nandini came to his life he showed her his vulnerable side ...she was special in all sense..so he showed her his fears ..he was simply manik in front of her ..so i dont find any fault in him expressing his anger ..he is ready to show his love like he is showing his anger ..it means his love is more stronger ..he doesnt hide himself from him ..and i love it ..it proves his genuinity ...

Adhi i donno vthr my words have any sense ..wrote it after watching rida's vm ...i am emotional ..she is reason for tht ..😆 ..and dont think she made new vm its old one 100epi celebrtn vm ..😆

Rida dont forget ur promise ..this time i am gonna bug u for the vm..😉