Changing priorities. - Page 3

Originally posted by: Firebolt

It hurt her certainly that her feelings were disregarded and Manik chose for her. I think any GF, or at least I would, certainly want to be top priority and want my BF to consider my feelings to be of utmost importance.

But during break up Manik and Nandini's relationship was still very young so I think Manik's decision though not right was justified from his POV.

I don't think manik has to choose between Fab5 and Nandini but he certainly has to manage and clearly define how much they mean to him.

Originally posted by: -mehr-

"Do you always expect to be unconditionally top priority for your BF/husband? Why/why not?"

Interesting post and question.. but before I give my perceptive on your question you must answer what is unconditional? To me is a state of mind in which you are willing to allow well-being into your experience, no matter what! The word unconditional is selfish in the best sense of the world, because your own well-being becomes your top priority!

The only unconditional love i know is what parents feel for their children, the rest is just perception.

Now coming to Manik, Nandini and Fab5, do they really have unconditional love, with out any fear, doubt, or conditions...

Originally posted by: BoxedIn

Bolt. Posting here.

*rubs eyes*

Are IF and Twitter collaborating now?

No?

Okay.

Wow.

Good question though. Hmm.

I personally think priority lists are overrated. You react according to the situations life throws at you, rather than twisting the situation to suit your pre-decided reaction. If you stubbornly prioritise something always, you're bound to get hurt when life throws a googly at you and you feel bound by your promise, no matter how unhappy it makes you.

It's strange how Fab5 and Nandini seem to have a saas-bahu relationship in the show, courtesy Manik's eternal dilemma. But you're right. Friendship and love can co-exist together in a person's life, if only all parties involved are willing to compromise and find a balance. And this is exactly what they are all learning at the moment, slooowwwly.

Originally posted by: Firebolt

I'm glad you picked up on that. I put it in quite purposefully. I meant exactly what I said. Doesn't matter if your right or wrong but someone to take your side always.

That brings us to more profound question should love be unconditional at all. Is that even healthy.

When you use the word unconditional, it empowers you to create what you want from the inside out, while conditional requires change from the outside in. Being said that, you should perceive what you seek and if unconditional is what you seek, you should be willing to go with out any boundaries.. which is not possible and is not healthy!

But just at face value is it so wrong to expect my husband to love me despite my wrong choices?

It is wrong to expect unconditional cause no one is perfect, just like the word perfect it self is a perception and not reality.

To accept someone's faults and still love them doesn't make them unconditional love, it actually make them more conditional, cause somewhere you are to be blame for the same wrong choice made to choose that person in the first place.. it's call life!

Originally posted by: nneeiill

nice post...

ur question is like the ones which i will skip in an exam...cant answer right away..😆..but will surely think about it.😛

Originally posted by: Firebolt

😆

And it's also the question that carries the highest marks 😆

Originally posted by: -mehr-

When you use the word unconditional, it empowers you to create what you want from the inside out, while conditional requires change from the outside in. Being said that, you should perceive what you seek and if unconditional is what you seek, you should be willing to go with out any boundaries.. which is not possible and is not healthy!

Wanting the unconditional becomes a "condition" of sorts , it changes the outside and inside in a lot of ways. If I use Manik as an example, he demands this unconditional because to him it means surety of constant , which is his condition for his friendships and relationships , this could become unhealthy because it restricts his world to that one constant .

It is wrong to expect unconditional cause no one is perfect, just like the word perfect it self is a perception and not reality.

Everything is a perception , tough to define reality 😆