Something bothering me

Like okay - i have been contemplating as to the extent of how true nyonika's speech was
Especially the bit where she said your sexuality is something "that you are born with, its not a choice"
Personally, i feel you are not born knowing if you are going to like a boy or a girl or even both. Its something that gradually changes with your environment slowly leading to a life choice - its something you choose as you grow older.

I think they need to address the sensitivity of cabir's choice - his mums reaction is justified but blaming his friends is no reason 😕 and they keep saying he was born with it - errr no i dont feel so but i cant see the link between it so thats why i rant - apologies (still not seen todays episode)

Not really..u cannot choose to be straight...if a person is gay...he cant change...he wl always have that sexual inclination...and u can even say u gradually find out u that r gay or no..!!!

Oh god why does people think that homosexual people choses to be gay?? No they dont chose it they are born with it. As they grow up they realize that they dont like the oppiste sex. Its not a choice it they have, its simple biology.

r u for real my dear. U r born with this. It's part of u. U don't choose to be straight or gay.

Errr, i find this to be a very controversial topic. Everyone has different opinions regarding this. I personally believe you are not born with it.

One will be able to know his sexual inclination/preferences only as he grows up by his choice of company.Gays are more comfortable with Guys than girls and hang out with them.

Someone is born just as homosexual, pansexual or demisexual as all of the straight people here can claim to be born heterosexual.As simple as that...
You are straight? Can you imagine yourself changing it because apparently it is your choice ...
Contrary to whatever idiotic beliefs people have, a child growing up with gay or lesbian parents won't end up being like them because he thinks this is what is right ... Just like a child being born to straight parents ...
You will finds kids as young as in 2nd 3rd great knowing they like same sex people...
Sexuality is always there, you just end up discovering it later ... I was born with a good singing voice... had no practice ... it was only when I started singing that I realized that I have a good voice...
Also, these are all just labels.Some people refuse to tag their sexuality as this or that.It just is.

Oh myyy gawddd i no where near trying to come across narrow minded but it was simply my take on the speech and my viewt - but there is a possiblity - when kids as young as 3 years old are supposedly attracted to a specifoc gender wouldn't mean that they are going to continue to do so - little kids are taught to he able to loveeveryone - i jist think growing up you begin to differentiate
And no my religion plays no part in this as its what i thought just from
Seeing the episode - mann i didnt mean to create such a ruckus! or even offend or hurt anyone - i was just trying to say that there may not be a gene that determines your sexual orientation - and that sexuality is something that is an environmental influenced factor. I am not the brainiest or the brightedt but my intent was not to come across narrow minded so i apologise for that :/

There's a reason why "sexual preference" changed to "sexual orientation" , it's because developing something after your born would mean you had a conscience decision to make but homosexuality isn't like that. Studies have shown that homosexuality depends on your genes. Which means indeed "you're born with it".

Originally posted by: outbs

no I understand... I didn't mean to come across as rude, but this mentality is like the main issue with gay-lesbian topics today... And it just infuriates me to see that people are so insensitive and end up saying stupid things like "sexual orientation is a choice". You don't need to apologize, I just hope you don't say this to any homosexual you may come across--that being gay was due to their environment and their own choice.

"here may not be a gene that determines your sexual orientation - and that sexuality is something that is an environmental influenced factor. I"

Again the entire basis of your argument is a bit weak... because It's long been acknowledged that such core personality traits/ways of being do have genetic AS WELL as environmental roots. There are numerous articles posted online, feel free to search... I'll provide one for you: http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2007/11/071107170741.htm

Now even if it's not ENTIRELY genetics (which even I agreed to this), it's not 100% environment either. There is mutual influence from both.

"specifoc gender wouldn't mean that they are going to continue to do so - little kids are taught to he able to loveeveryone - i jist think growing up you begin to differentiate"

differentiate? b/w what? I don't think you understand that when you are homosexual, it's not just a "phase". like it progressively strengthens and no amount of "correction" (I hate to use this word but that's kind of what you're hinting at) is going to change that... Just like for heterosexuals when you hit puberty, you become attracted to the opposite sex and it continues until adulthood and the rest of your life, it's the same case with homosexual individuals. I'm not talking about love (as in being kind/respectful here) I'm talking about physical attraction, cause of course children are taught to love and respect everyone. But I've never met a small kid that drools over anyone--same or different sex. It's only when you hormonally change during puberty does that happen.

If you incase try to "change" them and seem to be successful, then I can assure you that the individual is merely suppressing his/her true orientation due to social pressure and stigma. That incongruence is what leads many gays to become so frustrated (and even depressed) and that's exactly why we have this problem in India and other ignorant countries. I speak so strongly about this issue because I'm a Psych Major and knowing how we develop (at least some what), all these misconceptions just annoy me. It's ridiculous, it's like telling someone the way that you are, you could have been different, if your environment was different. That's like questioning someone's identity and saying you could be a different person... which is SO WRONG to say