What would you do? (Serious Question)

Would you go against your brother, brother-in-law, son, father or male friend if you found out that they had committed marital rape? (Honest answer, please!)

ANSWER from Options given: Yes, No, or Maybe...

I have read many posts saying that they would never tolerate marital rape or condone it in any shape, way or form. But I had this question that I was thinking of in my mind.

See, I think it is very easy to condemn but it is harder to practice. So, I was just wondering. Would you help the law prosecute and support the woman in question by going against a family member (categories mentioned) or friend?

Okay...

I guess many of you do not know how to answer or are maybe confused. So, I will tell you what my answer is. My answer is "maybe." I would honestly like to think that I could go against anyone for justice and my first instinct is to answer "yes." But then, I do not know. Because choosing between right and wrong is seldom about choosing between right or wrong but about having the courage to stand up for what you believe is true and just when going "against the grain" can cost you more than you can afford to lose.

I know what you mean,it is hard to go against what we call in our indian society "Apne" and "Ghar ke chirag and what nots".But now my question is,would we think of who the rapist is if our sister,mother,sister was the victim??

Why do we find it hard to go against men and equally hard to support women?What more can we lose than that woman who just lost her everything!The most beautiful feeling of intimacy has just been violated by none other than her husband!!

The only circumstance that I would think of whether i should or not support the rapist is when he truly loves his wife and is very very very apologetic and tt too sincerely.If the loser was like pranay,i'd send him behind bars with immediate effect

Good question, but to be honest I said maybe, I'd like to think I'd do the right thing and support the raped girl, but I dunno, firstly it'd be a question of if I believe someone I love can do such a low act, if I find that they HAVE done it for sure, then I definately would go against them. But I'd have difficulty accepting they've done such a thing.

Very thought-provoking question. It is something that I have been struggling to explain to myself and many members of this forum for a while now. It's all very well for us to say "So-and-so is so selfish/ridiculous/disgusting" etc and preach what they *should* be doing, but the truth is that in real life, there is a fine line between saying and doing, and it is not always as easy as it sounds to cross that line.

Personally, I'd like to believe that I would do the right thing - go against any member of my family if they were guilty, and support anyone who was a victim. But the truth is that I don't really know WHAT I would do 😕 You never know until you've been in that situation yourself. If I was a mother like Shruti, would I support a son like Pranay? Gosh, I don't really know For a mother, nothing matters except her child, no matter what he/she is like. If you are condemning a mother for standing up for and protecting her child against harm...well, you might as well put every mother in jail. It's an entirely different matter that Pranay doesn't deserve a mother's love, but when has that ever stopped a mother loving her child? There is a quote made by Erma Bombeck that is apt for this situation - "A child needs your love most when he deserves it least".

Coming back to my own actions, again, I would like to say that I would always support the right thing, but I can only imagine the kind of courage, guts and confidence in yourself that is needed to go against YOUR ENTIRE family, not to mention a narrow-minded, judgemental world. I am guilty of this too, but I think we all need to realise the enormity of such a decision, and that its not really that black and white a choice. Just see what Parvati herself was going through in yesterday's ep - she knows that getting justice for Mets is a priority. And yet she was faltering, because after all, it can't be easy, even for her, to go against a family she has made her own for so many years, no matter how they've treated her.

Contrary to what we think, there is no "obvious" way in which this should be handled, and putting myself, just for a moment, in someone else's shoes has made me realise just how difficult this really is.

*Edit* Technically, this should have been posted in the sticky provided for the rape track and all its issues, but I want to see what other people think of the questions you have posed, and so will leave it be.

if someone has done wrong then i would definetely go against them no question about

i dont know

i will do maybe 😕