Originally posted by: Wanderlust123
I am a silent member here. I used to watch KHKT and visit this forum regularly when the show was on air. I kinda follow KVG and Dipika offline, usually SIT episodes of KVG and recently I have watched some of DKI’s YouTube videos. She has some cool videos on skincare, hair and other remedies etc.
Anyway today I wanted to say something about her recent videos. First I was like jane do, but then I wanted to vent out so I will 😆
I watched Dipika and Shoiab’s videos where Dipika’s dad visited them. Her dad seems like a nice, cool, funny man. It was really refreshing to see him in her videos unlike her in-laws we see all the time. What this made me realize was Dipika actually comes from a progressive family, both of her parents seem very understanding.
DKI and her husband both many times in their videos have preached about how Shoaib’s family is so understanding blah blah blah, but from what I have watched I have actually thought the opposite. First of all, if they were so understanding, they would have accepted Dipika without her changing her religion. I know it was her choice and she wasn’t forced into it, but if Shoaib’s family were fine with her religion, she would have never converted. I don't want to be judgemental, this just boggles my mind. I mean let’s say hypothetically if tomorrow Shoaib’s sister Saba falls in love with a Hindu guy and if the guy’s family expect her to change her religion, would shoaib and his family be okay with that? No right so it’s just hypocritical of them to expect that from Dipika. How does Dipika preach so much about Shoaib, her in-laws being open minded, understanding etc when they made her change her religion (again yes eventually it was her choice but then that was the only choice she had to get married to Shoaib). It’s just crazy. Shoaib and his family aren’t the only ones to blame, but also Dipika because she agreed to it. I mean if a marriage itself starts with a condition, how is that marriage ever going to be of equals? Yes it was certain that she would always have to comprise.
Not only that, after getting married it seems Dipika literally adjusted so much for Shoaib and his family, from changing herself, her dressing style, to her nature and personality to fit Shoaib’s and his family’s life. I have seen many Hindu Indian female celebrity get married to a Muslim guy but have never seen this amount of compromise from the girl’s side.
People in Yt comments and Twitter keep praising Dipika for being a good DIL, and so understanding, but they don’t realize this is not always a commendable thing. Being a good DIL and an understanding human being is one thing, but loosing yourself and your identity, your personality, compromising so much for someone else, even if that person is your husband is another thing, it’s actually pretty sad. I think her, Shoaib and even Saba’s YT videos have made me realize more and more that Dipika has compromised a lot to fit into Shoaib’s life... from these videos, I am not seeing Shoaib or her in-laws being understanding as she claims, but more so how much she has let herself loose in all this 🤷🏻♀️. I would not praise her for that, that’s not necessarily a good quality. You should never compromise so much for your partner that you loose your own identity. Another thing I realized is that maybe Dipika does all this for Shoaib and her in-laws because she is overcompensating for her previous failed marriage. I wish she would understand that usmein koi kami nahi hai because she’s a divorcee and Shoaib is not some “saint” guy because he accepted her despite her being a divorcee. More than the in-laws, the onus lies on Shoaib to be understanding and support his partner and on Dipika to not compromise so much to fit in and be accepted.A partner is supposed to uplift you, help you with your growth and be able to provide you a perspective that helps you be a better version of yourself. Sorry to say so bluntly but sadly, I don’t see this in Dipika and Shoaib’s relationship 🤷🏻♀️. Some celebrities seem to have actually grown after getting married and one that comes to mind is Divyanka, who after marrying Vivek actually seems like such a happy person. Just a comparison of two different couples I was thinking of, not necessarily comparing DT and DK individually, but the relationship.
P.S. Sorry for the rant. If I did offend some people, I apologize, it’s not my intention. I just had a lot to say after watching those videos so I did.
P.P.S. I still think DK is a great person. I do wish her all the best for her career... hope she comes back with a character as beautiful as Sonakshi Rastogi or even better. Also best wishes for her YT channel. I really like her remedies, and skincare type of videos 😊.
For the first time on this forum, have I actually agreed to every word of a post!😆
Dipika is a good actress but her personal life simply puzzles me to another level. Yes, she most certainly is overcompensating for her previous failed marriage but she has to realise that it's not how you go about for a happy married life. Usually in such relations, the guy's family think they've done an ehsaan on the girl who's a divorcee. I simply hate his family so much. They are using her, if I may say so. But ab kya ho sakta hai.. Hope she's happy in that household :)
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