Pankaj's family is one thing. Actually, they (his mom & dad) didn't get to 'choose' even Jyoti - Pankaj just picked her, and told them about her, but he had already made the decision.
In this case, Uday's mom - known as choti-ma (cm) - is not necessarily a controlling variable - I doubt she can really stop Uday from doing anything - but she can queer the pitch for the brides later - right now, she's a mixed bag w/ Jyoti. The other night, she was full of praise for Devika when the latter visited, but later, when Uday was day-dreaming about her, she cautioned him against 'rushing' into things. Yet she herself, after seeing Sudha return her credit card at the bazar, and later after meeting her at the wedding, seems to be very impressed w/ her, and it's taken just 2 meetings. Talk about rushing. (Incidentally, read the
synopsis thread to get a full idea of what's going on).
Hence, the above suggestion. Since cm is Ms Know-It-All, let her meet both these gals at length (to an extent, she already has) once Uday develops a fondness for Sudha as well, and let her then agonize over this. Although I think she'll prefer Sudha for the reasons I mention above.