Gahaur is NOT mean! - Page 2

Originally posted by: return_to_hades

The way Gauhar treated Hanif was definitely not nice on her part. Most people would consider it wrong, unethical and mean of her. However, that in no way makes her a completely mean spirited or horrible person that people make her out to be. Nor does she deserve the harsh criticism.

To put things in perspective, there are three factors that make her behavior seem more amplified than it should be. Women are expected to be congenial, soft and gentle. Women are judged to be abrasive faster than men are. Secondly be it entertainment or business, it is a male dominated world. Women have to work extra hard to succeed. They will lag behind if they are merely on par with ther male counterparts, they have to surpass them. This tends to make ambitious women overtly aggressive. They constantly feel the need to stay on top and be in command and fail to realize that they lose popularity. You will notice that many woman who reaches high positions often get criticism to be mean, ruthless, immoral and be a complete B**ch. Thats not saying the allegations are baseless, its a result of pushing themselves way to hard that they end up shoving people off the way.

The final straw was perhaps Ram Kapoor was ousted. He was way to nice and way to popular to go out to her. Had Ram Kapoor lost out to another contestant, people may not have been so upset. Finally if Gauhar had ousted someone else to the raction would have been milder.

I personally think Gauhar was very disrespectful in the way she treated Hanif. However, it does take to too Tango and while Hanif was a gentleman he was not entirely blameless. He treated Gauhar with kid gloves. Gauhar wanted to be pushed and try radical performances, while Hanif always took it easy - nor was he willing to acknowledge all her abilities. That made Gauhar feel short changed that her choreographer was not giving it all. Its poor communication on both parts.

However, now we will finally get to see Gauhar's mettle. One if she can genuinely put controversies behind and be a better person. Start treating people with more kindness and respect. Two if she can genuinely push herself as much as she claims. Can she truly wow audiences with her abilities.

If she passes the test, her hardwork deserved it. If she fails, it will be her wake up call to make some changes in life and attitude. I will reiterate again though, even if Gauhar does not prove herself - it is no reason to judge her as a terrible human being. She is human and flawed. People may rub the wrong way in one aspect of life and completely take you by surpise by how warm and wonderful they can be as a whole.

Thank you thank you thank you!!!! Someone finally made a topic. She is not mean at all!

Originally posted by: sonam_s

Gauhar is one of my favorites in the competition! However, she should have given Hanif a break and allow him to do his job as a chreographer without butting in. Nobody is perfect but it's the experiences and practise which makes an artiste better. The fact that Hanif has performed in the dance off knowing that it would have caused alot of harm to his leg says ALOT. Gauhar is a fantastic dancer but due to her attitude, she will even find faults with the best chreographer in the show.

Originally posted by: n0sh

Most of the topics in this forum is about Gahaur and that how mean she is. Well, I think that Gahaur is not at all mean.

Just because she changed her choreographer doesnt make her mean or self-centered. She did that for her and Hanif's well being.

She wasnt happy with his choreography, but still she gave him a chance.

Now that Hanif is injured, he is not able to dance for a period of time. Thus he wont be able to make the choreography, or practice. So that would be a loss for Gahaur and Hanif would be in excruciating pain! So it was best for both of them. And Gahaur does care about Hanif as when she was in the dance off and she said that she doesnt want him to be in pain and he doesnt have to do any of those flips and can do his body movement and if in the end she doesnt win the dance off, then she will leave the stage with pride. ( These arent her actual words, im just breaking it down)

Hanif was a sweet heart to be in the dance off with Gahaur and he did his best and still was awesome.👏

Well for Hanif, he did his best while he was in the show and hopefully he will get well soon. About Gahaur,she is a beautiful, fabulous dancer and also seems to be a nice person. I really hope that people stop misreading her and vote for her.😊

Thanks a lot for appreciating this topic. I HAD to make this topic! All that I could see was "Gahaur blah blah " ( negative)

I dont think its some "attitude" prob. Gahaur knows that she is a good dancer, and when she dances you can actually see the excitement on her face. You can see how much fun she has while dancing!=D It is a competition, and she wants to win. She is very ambitious and hardworking and I would love to see her go far in this show and in life.

Originally posted by: n0sh

Thanks a lot for appreciating this topic. I HAD to make this topic! All that I could see was "Gahaur blah blah " ( negative)

I dont think its some "attitude" prob. Gahaur knows that she is a good dancer, and when she dances you can actually see the excitement on her face. You can see how much fun she has while dancing!=D It is a competition, and she wants to win. She is very ambitious and hardworking and I would love to see her go far in this show and in life.