Vividha's choice

A couple of days ago there was a post asking that if something happens to Atharv, what should Vividha do? Many members stated that she should/would chose to dedicate her life to his memories.

Katori.

That's why there is a concept of second marriages after a spouse dies.I know there are still certain parts of society who still have this regressive thinking that a girl should not be allowed to live or dream of a better future if her husband dies. I remember Ishq ka Rang serial highlighted that aspect..

I wouldn't say people shouldn't move on, of course they can, it's their life, their choice.

I certainly would not recommend staying in their beloved memories forever, especially when they are so young and have a whole life ahead of them. They do have to move on in life and there is certainly nothing wrong in falling in love a second time or marrying a second time.

We said vividha has promised atharva that she will live a full life with or without him. So she will . No one is asking vividha to stay alone.

of course...Every single person has right to be happy and to move on with their life.
and keeping his/her loved ones in their memory and remembering them not sin but dedicating their entire life for them when they are not around...is foolishness.

My answer to her post,

"It's always Vividha's choice.Even Atharv wanted her to move on with life if something happened to him.It's Vividha who said she wouldn't let another person,not even death to come between them.

Atharv's death would be the biggest blow in her life.She'll have to recover from it eventually.

Personally,I'll suggest her to take a break from everything...I don't want the Kashyaps or Vashists to influence her thinking...The decision should be hers...and hers only...Her life is upside down because Kailash made a decision for her

She should live her life away from them,to sort out her thoughts ...a month or two...Move in with a friend who could support her or go to a new city or trying a job as an accountant,...or continue her studies...Try to understand what she wants in life...and then decide..."

When you you live your life,you meet different people.if she finds someone who she could accept in her life...and if the other person also feels the same way,She could get married...But if she feels she cannot accept anybody in her life then she has the right to do so.

True empowerment is doing what one wants to do...May it be getting married again or living with one's memories...It's her choice...

Originally posted by: Get-Lost

If people talk about women empowerment in this serial then they should realise that by bounding Vividha to Athrav's memories as they say, is regressive mentality. If you say that Vividha should have a say in deciding if she wants to have sex or not then she should also have a say in deciding if she wants live with memories or not. That's why this place is full hypocrites..they say one thing in one post and then completely negate in their other post.

I believe you didn't read the post mentioned by the TM.

Originally posted by: leavesandwaves

In case, Atharv is no more or he simply disappears, do you think Vividha will lead a married life with Ravish and have his kids?

Or do you think she will not. Like a true lover, she will remain a virgin and dedicate her life to something in the name of Atharv? Like one A did after her husband's death.

What do you want her to do?

If I am in her shoes, I will go for the second option. Because in life one can only love once with all heart, No compromises.

Basically there are two questions in the same post.

If you have watched the show during the Phase 1,you would know how much importance was given to their Vachans.The 6 th vachan by which Atharv wanted her to move on if something bad happens to him.Vividha refused for it and promised that she'll never let anyone not even death come between them.

What will she do and What do you want her to do are two seperate questions?

I went through the entire thread.People answered that she WILL not (not SHOULD)be able to give Atharv's place.Or some including the TM said what they will do if they are in her place...So it's basically one's choice.

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/jane-na-dil-se-door/4770697/what-do-you-want-her-to-do-in-case

I am pasting the link here so people are not judged based on assumptions.