WHY ONLY BLAME NEIL

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Hiphop_R

@Hiphop_R

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Posted: 10 years ago

I have read a few post about last night's episode and wat I have noticed is dat the entire blame is being put on neil. I'm not trying to defend him or his actions but he is not entirely at fault. Somebody even said that he did a prerna here...but prerna only increased misunderstandings whereas neil told ragini dat he has got nothing to do with d pregnancy. Agreed that he was a flirt but ragini has seen him change and if he hadn't changed would ragini stay with him for 4 or god knows how many years.She just couldn't trust him.If there is love there has to be atleast 1 percent trust. Ragini was just assuming things and getting hyper without finding out the truth. Even Karan and Dimpy told her not 2 reach any conclusion without knowing the truth. Agreed Neil should have not hid d truth but when he said have sum faith in me..she just lectured him. I mean common guys if it was the other way round we would have blamed neil for not trusting his wife... sita nahin deengi agnipariksha and all dat crap...so d difference is d man is put at test. Also after rupali died..ragini should have understood the matter is serious and wait for some days to take a decision rather than just dividing the kids...lack of immaturity from both sides. But of course the story would not have moved further. Cumin to ragini...sumtimes I feel she doesn't have any feelings for neil...its only neil who cares and thinks about her.Ragini can stay with her dr aman who very soon will become her real husband and neil get married to nivedita and return to America. Last but not the least hats off to pam and neil for taking care of dat child who does not belong to dem...suhani is such a sweet child...dats my take guys...ur free to disagree

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Jayshree

@Cinderella100

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Posted: 10 years ago

Ragini is relying on the evidence of her own eyes. She saw then together in the hotel. Plus Nachiket is not to be trusted. He lied to Ragini when she called & asked where he was. How can you have faith in a man who puts his ex-girlfriend & her baby above his own wife & children.

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--Anna--

@--Anna--

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Posted: 10 years ago

Maybe because Neil lied?

I dont know who said he pulled a Prerna or whatever. But Neil is at fault here - irrespective of any argument anyone puts across. True. Neil and Ragini stayed together for four years - married and happy. But that was because Neil probably did not have any ex-girlfriend show up. Ragini did want to believe in Neil in her questioning - Neil chose to protect his friend's secret. He prioritize his friends secret over his relationship with Ragini. He chose to take a call on whether he should share information which could affect his relationship with Ragini. Ragini asked him - chose to give him that one second of minute trust by asking whose kid the child was - Neil could have confessed everything - if his relationship mattered to him. Frankly - love is easy - trust, however has to be earned. Neil was a big flirt and an amazing liar - and he had a serious relationship with Roopali (as Ragini saw) before he married Ragini. If he was clean - he should have decided to share it with his better half. He should have informed Ragini that he was going to meet Roopali - and that would have been it. A call comes - he disappears - and then he lies that he is conference room - and we should expect Ragini to trust him? Why? A man who put his family way below that of his friend - that man cannot be trusted.

Also, lets talk about Neil here. Did Neil trust Ragini when she said she did not know about the call? At least Ragini saw Neil with Roopali in a hotel room and then heard him lie to her. But did Neil see Ragini pick up that phone call that Roopali talked about? Why did Neil not give Ragini a chance to defend her stance then. Why did he reach a conclusion?

So why is Neil NOT to be blamed?

Btw, Believe me - if Neil had told Ragini the truth - then Ragini would have cared for Suhani as her own too - and unknowingly she has. Neil did what he had to do to keep his friend's wishes alive. If only he had prioritized his relationships.

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Hiphop_R

@Hiphop_R

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Posted: 10 years ago

Agreed 2 all your points...and u mentioned dat ragini gave him a minute to say d truth and within a minute all her trust is broken..how come. I agree neil should have vented out the truth... but takin decisions at the spur of the moment doesnt make sense.Also roopali suddenly comes to india and when neil and she have never been in touch..how cum ragini just believed dat she is pregnant with his child...just with dat one meetin in the hotel room..dats it...im only sayin dat how can u make decisions so quickly and hastily

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--Anna--

@--Anna--

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Posted: 10 years ago

Originally posted by: Hiphop_R
Agreed 2 all your points...and u mentioned dat ragini gave him a minute to say d truth and within a minute all her trust is broken..how come. I agree neil should have vented out the truth... but takin decisions at the spur of the moment doesnt make sense.Also roopali suddenly comes to india and when neil and she have never been in touch..how cum ragini just believed dat she is pregnant with his child...just with dat one meetin in the hotel room..dats it...im only sayin dat how can u make decisions so quickly and hastily

Trust is as fragile as a thread. She asked - he did not reply. Trust breaks. There had to be a decision made. I am married. I expect my husband to tell me everything - irrespective of what happens. It is not a decision. It is all about priority and Neil's priority were not in the right place. Moreover, Neil lied to Ragini before Ragini even questioned him - he said they were in a conference room. How can anyone trust Neil after that - is beyond me. If Neil could lie about him being in a conference room - if Neil could not confide about Roopali in the first instance - and knowing how Neil is a spontaneous liar - why will a woman not reach a conclusion? Btw, with all the lying Neil did, how will Ragini believe that Roopali and Neil have not been in touch and why should she? Its not like he has been honest.

Let me tell you something about trust. Once a person knows that they have been lied too - you start questioning everything that they have said to you. It does not take hours - it takes seconds. And Neil continued to do so. Ragini has a good enough reason to not trust a man who lies to her straight in the face. Ragini did not take a decision in the spur of a moment - he did. He asked her to leave and go to her mom's. How is that fair? Neil is being blamed because he did wrong.

Also, why dont you tell me - why did Neil not trust Ragini and reach a decision hastily about Ragini not telling him about Roopali's call? Why did he not listen to Ragini then? Like I said before, Ragini had seen Neil and Roopali together - she still is in a much reasonable position to judge Neil. But Neil did not see Ragini receive a call. He believed Roopali over Ragini - what proof did he have? Why did he make the 'decision' of judging Ragini so hastily (as you put it)?

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Subha

@shubz1

Dazzler

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Posted: 10 years ago

Neil cannot expect a bit of faith in this instance. The situation had to do with Roopali, his ex-girlfriend, a baby and Ragini witnessed them together.

In fact Ragini came in the open with her issue. She expressed her plight in clear terms. All Neil had to do was explain the situation.

A very simple question is - does Neil not trust his wife that she could keep a secret for him - ,and he expects to bring Suhaani in their life and expect Ragini to accept it on faith?

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_innocent_

@_innocent_

Achiever

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Posted: 10 years ago

You do not sacrifice your marriage and the happiness of your children based on an idiotic promise: like do not tell anyone am pregnant!. He was at fault for doing that. Ragini too has faults, do not think am blaming one person only but the way things happened, it was Neil's doing as first his promise got the better of him and second his ego got bruised from her impulsive behavior of not trusting him. But even then he could have told her the truth especially after Rupali's death as there was nothing holding him back but he elected against that decision.

As a woman myself, I found Ragini leaving him totally justified. The way it was done in terms of the children was wrong from both side and there I do not take anyone' side.

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Dimdim

@Dimdim

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Posted: 10 years ago

Originally posted by: _innocent_
You do not sacrifice your marriage and the happiness of your children based on an idiotic promise: like do not tell anyone am pregnant!. He was at fault for doing that. Ragini too has faults, do not think am blaming one person only but the way things happened, it was Neil's doing as first his promise got the better of him and second his ego got bruised from her impulsive behavior of not trusting him. But even then he could have told her the truth especially after Rupali's death as there was nothing holding him back but he elected against that decision.

As a woman myself, I found Ragini leaving him totally justified. The way it was done in terms of the children was wrong from both side and there I do not take anyone' side.

@ Bold. Agreed and well said.

The whole situation happened only because Neil decide to KEEP a SECRET and LIED to RAGINI his legally wedded wife and mother of his 4 children. There is no place for lies/ deceit in a relationship...not only Husband wife for that matter in any relationshi

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