Unpopular opinion

I already made a post about how I don't like this show.

I might get a lot of hate here and many may report this but I feel Khushi should have run away after 6 months contract marriage leaving both Gupta's and Raizadas alone. She deserved a better life. Just to apeace the audience , they clung her to a pathetic abuser that too in 2012 when so much was going about women safety and consent.

Khushi should have realised that :

1. Respect , trust, understanding and space are very important in relationships.

2. What she has is not love but mere Stockholm Syndrome.

3. Romanticizing abuse is NOT OK.

4. Forced marriages are illegal in India.

5. Neither by the Hindu tradition nor by the constitutional provisions , they both were husband wife in any terms.

6. A particular state high court already stated that these religious marital rituals are just a display for worldly affirmation . It is only when an adult man and an adult woman who with their rightful consent consummate with each other are considered to be married. CONSENT IS VERY IMPORTANT.

Khushi could have chosen self respect as that is more important than love but when has ITV respected the viewpoints of real women.

This show should be called out for its toxicity . ASR is not what women should find romantic.... I extremely loathe this character . I know it's fiction but the female fan following of this show disturbs me that how we have accepted the normalised abuse of an innocent woman by a shameless man.

There is nothing wrong with your opinion here. I totally respect it. Infact there have been stories here where I have liked the characters, majorly Arnav's, more than I liked in the actual show.

You are right. ITV still doesnt respect a real woman's choices. What we have been taught for centuries is, its a woman's responsibility to make a house into a home and a heaven ultimately. It doesnt matter if she has faced trauma in her childhood too. Only men are allowed to become bitter and dominating, chauvinists and its a woman's duty to bring him to the right path with being all righteous, loving and giving and sacrificial. It shouldn't be a wife's responsibility. But that is the reality of our country.

I too, used to abhor the way Arnav's character was shaped initially and it only was Khushi's story for me but then when his redemption happened it also became a story of love finding a way.

So I told myself, isnt that what we are taught.. Burai se nafrat karo, bura karne waale se nahin. Thats what our judicial system aims at, redemption of criminals, bringing them to the right path.

Khushi could have run away from him after six months, and she tried. But Arnav brought her back by winning her over somewhat with his love, and they did get married again with consent. That was redemption too.

Arnav's character was so wrong and totally flawed but he was never portrayed as vile and evil as Shyam's. So there definitely was hope.

And maybe its because of our archaic thought process, but women like to think they are responsible for a man's redemption, imagine themselves in that heroine's place who brought about such huge positive change in the hero. 😉

And I definitely dont think the female fan following was for the character as much as it was for the actor 😃 sometimes totally negative characters become more popular than heroes just because of the actors who pulled them off.

I only watched a few episodes of the show and never finished it.

It seems to be a recurring pattern in the shows. The rich abusive guy thinks money is everything and he is so powerful. The poor people are pathetic and deserve nothing. Women are either vile scheming creatures or self sacrificing idiots. Truth has to be covered up because someone will be hurt. In order to protect one person's delusions, many have to be hurt. Common sense? What is that?

Originally posted by: imshveta

And I definitely dont think the female fan following was for the character as much as it was for the actor 😃 sometimes totally negative characters become more popular than heroes just because of the actors who pulled them off.

Jennifer winget as Maya is the biggest example of what you said. I mean she was doing some serious criminal sh*t over there. Majority Female population is definitely due to Barun sobti’s face over here.

I would also like to point out one thing that the makers never shied away from the fact that Arnav was a grey character. They wanted much more darker character so that they can build up the character arc and that was the whole show. In fact star plus interfered after the initial dori breaking scene aired because it was too much for them to take. Makers had to interfere. Unfortunately by the time ASR became a decent man, the actor left and the show shut down.

I absolutely respect your opinion of not liking the show. Purpose of my comment was to express that showing a glaringly and obviously wrong man can change, was the whole premise of it.

In fact if you were part of the forum, you would have known that majority consensus here was that he was let off very easy for the kind of things he did. So nobody is blindly romanticising the whole thing. People are aware.