Originally posted by: samin6
Episode 125 and 126 :
The episodes showing the Elizabeth Kubler Ross stages of reaction of a person. It happens whenever someone gets the worst shocks of their life, loses all money, hears is going to die, death of someone close, and the rest continues. Those stages are denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. And there just saw our favorite ARSHI going through those stages. Now of course we know that for Arnav the shock was Khushi's engagement and for Khushi it was Arnav's reaction to her engagement.
Denial : Khushi was definitely in denial mode to her effect on Arnav's reaction to her engagement when she told him she was very happy with her engagement. The same when she asked him- aapko iss se kya faraq padta hain. They were both in denial mode when Arnav was cutting his flowers and Khushi saw him in full action not even paying attention to what he was doing. It appeared as if ARSHI wanted the pain to stop coming by fighting it with denial and pain of seeing Arnav's beautiful garden being destroyed by him. They wanted to deny the shock they just received from each other by focusing on flowers rather then each other's emotions.
Anger : This probably was the one shown most in Arnav. After hearing Khushi's engagement he goes outside and starts cutting all the trees which are very close to him. He lashes out at Khushi saying, " Main kuch bhi karoon- tumhe kya faraq padta hain- No matter what I do what difference does it make to you?" The same anger was evident when he went and announced his engagement the very next day and compares as engagement nothing more then a ring exchange. We know that in anger his dimag stops working- no wonder he said, " He could not understand the words of his family, and when he had made decision of engagement there is no value of dates" etc etc.
The anger in Khushi was more subtle and in Khushi style was shown by excerpation. It was evident when she looked the other way when La was tending Arnav's wounds and again after Arnav told him, " Jiss din meri engagement hoyi tum mujhe wish karna bhul geyi aur aap tomhari engagement huyi to- Congratulations Khushi Kumari Gupta." That anger was evident in her eyes and sent daggers to his back- because she had let the engagement happen to her because he had told her- " Mere liye tumhari or uss baat ki Koyi matlab nehi." She was extremely angry and would have probably bursted when he said" Sab to tumhare engagement se bahut Khush hain lekin tum, tumhe dekh ke to lag raha hain ke tumhe abhi abhi pata chala ke larka amir nehi hain." After all when Khushi is extremely angry with Arnav only does she stop speaking like she did after giving resignation with Arnav, with Devi Mayya after marriage and of course with Shyam and again with Arnav after he was cross with her for Aarav. And we Arshi lovers know Khushi makes Jilebis only when she is very upset.
Bargaining: When Arnav said- ' Tell your fiance not to give you such cheap things because cheap things break easily. He probably wanted her to understand that with this line was hope that if she tells her after she told him " cost does not matter" he could make her understand by telling," You should, Aisa na ho ke jise tumne rais samajh ke phasaya- iss bracelet ke tarha sasta ho (Because a cheap thing can break as easily as this bracelet." With this line he probably was hoping her fianc was a poor person with whom her relationship was going to break easily. Khushi was also probably bargaining with her fate when she told Payal," She was happier when she did not know the reality of the world."
Depression :As Anjali said- When she saw her speaking to her fiancee- she was disturbed,.Arnav was depressed because he could not fathom-" Jiss se pyaar nehi karti- jiske saath reh nehi sakti- uske saath kaise bitayegi(How can we live with someone with no love and with whom can not think of living with the rest of the life). They were both engaged and people who are depressed do not find pleasure in things most people would. There Lavanya was discussing their honeymoon next to Arnav and Shyam had just gifted Khushi a token, and instead of feeling happy Arnav was thinking about Khushi getting engaged and Khushi was thinking about Arnav's reaction to her engagement. In contrary to being happy they were so sad that both La and Shyam left. Khushi was going on her first date with her fianc and she was not happy. The Raizadas were happy for Khushi but Arnav could not even give the nonchalant attitude of being happy for her. We know Khushi could hide her broken heart by speaking a lot as she did on Diwali and when even Anjali could see she was not happy- of course Arnav had too. This was the Khushi who lived in dreamland and when that Khushi says to Payal-" I was silly in believing those fairy stories because in the real world the prince of my dreams is an angry person." That was a red signal warning showing Khushi was depressed because for Khushi marriage was to a prince and the most important thing in life and there she was not even thinking of anyone other then ASR as prince and deriving no pleasure even in her marriage attire with her own sister and mom.
Both were depressed and had to just share that when Arnav said ' Itna yaqeen hain to na khush kyun lag rehi ho ( If you are so confident then why are you so unhappy) and Khushi retorted , " Hamare baat choriyepapr aap ka bank balance to bahut achcha hain to aap itna na khush kyun hain, ye baat hamse nehi apne aapse puchna chahiye ke aap itna nakhush kyun hain."
Acceptance : The ARSHI style acceptance of the shocking news was heartbreaking and subtle. Arnav accepted Khushi was engaged when he saw her getting agitated wanting to speak with her fianc , with whom she was getting embarrassed speaking in front of him. It was evident when he told La- "Not everything can be seen in the eyes. You can not see but am very happy with the engagement."It was evident when he refused to let Khushi tend to his cut hand or even touch it. At that point probably Khushi's acceptance of Arnav's reaction to her engagement was visible. Especially when for the first time she initiated to take hold of his hand. At that moment she also understood that whatever Arnav felt for her was real and he was highly disturbed by her engagement. This was the same Arnav who had not stopped Khushi from cleaning the milk from his face in front of a whole restaurant of unknown people. This was the same Arnav who had not said a word when she had hug him in a hospital, and this was the same Arnav who had come to her for sugar and taken Jilebis from her hand rather than let his own sister worry.
ARSHI probably really thought they had just learned they were dying- or else why would Khushi want to reassure Arnav that she was happy and why would Arnav want to hasten his marriage to exactly the next date and postpone even his very important teleconference in the drop of a pin.
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