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Posted: 12 years ago
#81
thanks for this post... if you wouldn't have made it I would have... Seriously sometimes IF amazes me... they can figure something bad in everything!

Anyways, awesome analysis... totally agree...

They are both right in their places... and your title says it all... both care... Khushi hugged him back, and Arnav stopped when Khushi asked him to... we all know what ASR is capable of... he could've forced her... he didn't... she could've pushed him away she didn't...

They've both grown up with their beliefs and underlying insecurities...

ASR has lost loved ones... he's insecure with that... remember, he asks Anji Di "aap mujhe maa ki tarah chod ke to nahi chale jaaoge na???" that is the insecure boy beneath that arrogant man... he can't let Khushi go... he loves her... and he depends on her... emotionally, i mean... he's started sharing his past, his problems with her... do we know ASR to do that??? so, of course he's changed for his love... but in his own way... and we don't need anymore changes because as you said... he won't be ASR anymore...

For him, rituals have never mattered... feelings have... is it such a wrong notion to hold...?? that feelings are more important than rituals... he has accepted her as a wife... giving her all the rights of one... she's legally married... the society have accepted the relationship... its not that he's keeping her insecure from any angle... so, why blame him?? they are not in a live-in... they are a married couple for everyone INCLUDING ASR... so for him all the rituals hold no meaning... for him its just a show... and if Khushi had asked him for a remarriage he would have obliged... will he ever deny Khushi anything??? but at that moment he just wanted to express his love and make Khushi his in everyway to eliminate all the insecurities... and i haven't yet figured dadi into the equation... remember her??? Arnav knows her well! come on! he gets his gene pool from that woman... so, he knows, if anything happens she would try to separate them... which he is against... she is rubbing his past on him... which he is wanting to let go... do we need anymore proof that is is primal in its most basic respect... so, yeah... she is a threat... and a bigger one than our snake because she has power and authority over this family...

Coming to khushi, she is a girl - small town Indian girl... do you require anymore explanation??? she has grown up with the beliefs that for a girl marriage and husbnad matter the most... Now, don't go about saying she should've then respected Arnav's decision... why? don't you want her taking her stand??? and, anyways... I said marriage and husband... and there can be no husband without a proper marriage, can there??? what Arhi had wasn't marriage... forget the rasms and pheres... even when he made her wear Sindoor and mangalsutra, it wasn't with any of their consent... Arnav was forced by circumstances and Khushi was forced by Arnav... nothing pious about that, was there??

Another point, the kind of man Arnav is "Pal mein shaitan pal mein rajkumar" with such mysteries revolving around his actions... the girl is bound to be insecure... she can never predict him... and this aspect frighten's her at a level... what if one day Arnav decides that he's had enough, he doesn't want Khushi in his life... we know that'll never happen... but does Khushi??? he'll say we didn't even have a proper marriage... and now i don't want you... what will khushi do?? she'd have no refuge... because thats what her beliefs are going to say... you didn't have any proper marriage... and then she'll feel like a used s**t... is this what we want?? hell, no! comeon uptil now Arnav had just said "I Love You" once in a life threatening situation... At that time for Khushi how'd it translated?? Arnavji is in danger... why??? because the girl couldn't believe that the man who tortured her at so many levels... accused her of being characterless and cheap said "I love you"... insecurities... she didn't know Arnav's intentions then... if Arnav had asked her at that time or even brought his Di into the equation and said You'll have to marry me because of Di... his husband is lusting on you... would Khushi have refused?? no again! but he didn't... and hence the insecurity... and for her every cute romantic moment they shared was some dream she was living... she herself said "whenever i start to forget about you, you remind me of your inhuman ways"... so she is scared of that... until when he finally said in the heat of the moment that he does love her ofcourse... and the more Khushi starts to believe in those words... the more reality will set in...

So, both are right... both care for the other... but both are failing to figure the other person's insecurities... that happens in any relationship... so there's no need to bash anyone... both characters take their own ground... and that is the reason we love them! whats Arhi without their fights???
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Posted: 12 years ago
#82
👏👏Lovely post and agree with you completely. It's the differences in Arhi and their characters (flaws included) that make this show so addictive. ASR and Khushi have grown so much since the first epi but their core has remained intact - people can moan and groan and complain about them but we all come back for more!!! 👏
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: boreddamsel


Though we are not shown it, I'm sure deep down Arnav is feeling guilty for causing pain to Khushi.. and for not giving her the love she deserved.. I think that's why now he just wants her to know how much he loves her! That's why he has been doing everything he can to let her know that he wants her.. I mean sometimes saying I love you is not enough.. sometimes you don't know how much a person loves you until you do it, I guess.. then you know that you are theirs! And yes, Arnav like you, we are also desperate for you both to get together.. it's been more than a year.. and I'm frustrated honestly! Not even a kiss yaar.. what is this??

Totally agree! Thats ASR's way to prove to her that she is indedd his wife... and that he loves her...


Akash might have chickened out about kids.. but bachchu has already done it with his wife!! 😳

True... but they still lack any spark in their relationship... Arhi are a hell lot better😛

Fuzzy, you are right.. Khushi is the only person who cheers him up now.. One side there is Dadi, on the other side is his Di.. both are driving him crazy.. Di is now alright.. but soon when she brings back Shyam, she will drive him crazy alright! Today also he was upset initially and seeing Khushi with the box made him smile.. he needs her in his life.. aww..

yes! he needs her! let me speak a liitle melodramatically - Khushi is Arnav's sun... brings cheer and brighteness that his life lacked until now...

and now who wants Arnav to change.. 😡 I lift up my invisible dagger and stands up on a high rock.. demanding.. yes.. who wants my Arnie baby to change.. is there anyone who dares challenge me to a fight?? 😡 😆 I dont want him to change.. he is perfect the way he is.. he loves her.. earlier when he brought up the contract and also threatened to throw her family out, I was upset yes, but he did that 'coz that was the only way Khushi would take him seriously.. when he begged her stay, she didn't listen.. so Arnav is perfect..

I'm totally with you! we'll both fight with those who wants Arnav to change...😛 and sure, he tends to upset us... he's did that in the past... but because he was desperate to keep Khushi close... or he was looking out for his Di... the man has his reasons... though at times because of half baked information... but don't we love him with all his flaws????😳

On the other hand, Khushi is right too.. yes, you should not consummate until you have completed the marriage.. I agree to all that.. I stand by it too.. my friends in the US have a live-in relationship..I mean I understand being in love and all that.. but still if you believe that you cannot consummate until after marriage, you will never enjoy it and you will always think it was wrong.. and you will feel guilty later.. but my problem with Khushi is not that..

its my belief too... and i don't want their SR taking place before the grand re marriage... let Khushi surrender herself to him the way she knows...

You never ever ever turn away when a guy tries to kiss you.. if I were Arnav I would have not bothered to kiss her ever again.. I would have told her, fine if you dont want me coming to you.. then I'm never coming to you.. it's such a mood-kill.. it makes you feel like the other person doesn't want you... I can't even imagine how I will react if my bf turned away when I tried to kiss him.. I will be devastated.. now there is nothing wrong with kissing someone before marriage right.. or is that a crime too in Khushi's eyes??? Seriously which century is she living in??? Now that is my problem with Khushi.. when I wrote that lesbian OS story yesterday.. I was serious.. sometimes I do wonder the way she behaves, if she behaved like that in the real world, I would guess she is a lesbian..

Arnav is already insecure with his loved ones... read my post... I've explained... and when Khushi does that... come on! he is only trying to show her that he does love her... why do people keep forgetting that he is a man of actions and not words...??? he wanted to make love to his wife... is it wrong?? no... not really... and in that case when Khushi turns away... you are right... it kills your mood and make you feel like that person doesn't want you... I'm not blaming Khushi... she has very primitive beliefs where marriage is concerned... that's how she was brought up...


as for opposites attract.. yes.. its better if they are opposites.. only then life will be interesting.. if both are the same. .then you have nothing to change.. and it will be boring.. a relationship blossoms when you both start as poles apart.. and before you know it.. you start blending in.. you pick up other person's traits.. and then you slowly become one.. aaha.. aaha.. now that's love guru's love philosophy.. 😆 we have seen that in them already.. Khushi has picked up Arnav's anger and Arnav has picked up Khushi's naughtiness! aww.. these two are adorable 😳

I like it! and i totally agree... now where will be the fun if both are similar and understand each other perfectly??? look where that landed payash!😆


Fuzzy great post... much much needed one!

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Posted: 12 years ago
#84
Wow wow wow fuzzy simply brilliant post.. No no superb post👏 👏 👏
Am also not understanding why many ppl are bashing arnav...
Ur post made me happy and brought a smile 😃
I completely loved the episode... Loved arnav and khushi...
He confessed his love yaar... Am so happy
Waiting for today's episode.. Thank u so much fuzz for the post🤗
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: lazylad8

😉 Amazing analysis...you have a great mind to think it all. I guess you eat, sleep and dream Arshi too.

🤣 ubet hahahahhahhaha totally nuts...🤪
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: Rayka

Fazila, I like your post but I don't know what to say. I know that if Khushi gets married then the Contract goes under the carpet and nobody will know what really transpired. Some say that it is not required for Arnav to talk about the contract because both of them love each other and want to be with each other. Some others like myself want Khushi to have her self-respect and for others to begin to respect her by Arnav telling everyone the truth.

While today for the first time after so many months I felt that by Khushi refusing to go ahead, her character has been restored - her beliefs more than anything. Arnav's character has not swayed much but today it made me remember La and him.

Dont worry dear... no matter what everyone wants or doesnt... now ASR will give her whatever she wants...😳
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: westindian

Very nice, well balanced post. I agree, I like both of their characters and I won't change them as they are today. He has changed a lot but the CVs have not messed with his core characteristics and that's what makes the show worth watching.

yep!!!!!!!!!!😊
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: chavvi16

haila you are so right they both are so different from each other and have different priorities in life but together they can be perfect
cant say more than this i dont want either of them to change now that you mention it but i hope they will be with each other forever that all we want
cheers for pm

How can we change someone cause we want it...😉
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Lovely post!
Completely agree with u!!
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Posted: 12 years ago
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I agree ASR charector can not become very sweet and gentle out of the blue and he is a man with lot os flaws and he kept his charector intact yesterday by yelling and ordering his wife to go change and come near him. He also stopped when khushi said no and shouted at her(very ASR like) that's fine.
I want khushi to be like original khushi who is also equally stubborn and righteous and will not surrender to hot passionet but insulting hubby who loves her very much but doesn't respect her!!

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