is khushi's behaviour justified??? - Page 7

Originally posted by: ..Manal..

I never said that what Arnav did was justified. Using the contract marriage as her chains. I found that a character blooper, because Arnav has developed considerably over the past several weeks and he's reached a point where he wouldn't return to his ASR ways.

But as for him blaming Khushi, I do understand it. Considering the situation. First of all, he had reached his sister last minute, stopping her from gutting herself [and considering their bond as brother-sister, Arnav is extremely sensitive and vulnerable when it comes to her]. Then he comes home and has another emotional scene with his sister in her room where she all but BEGGED him to bring Shyam back and fix her life -- which he had to REFUSE her. Imagine how difficult that must've been for him. Seeing her so broken and bruised -- knowing that he was the one who threw Shyam out and knowing that he won't ever bring him back into his home.

Basically, there was a lot of self-blame and self-hatred here.

Then Mamiji tells him that Khushi spoke to Anjali BEFORE Anjali decided to head to the hospital and get the abortion. Now, Arnav didn't suspect Khushi of telling her to do that, but on top of the emotional turmoil inside of him already, this was the last drop. His frustration and desperation bubbled over. If she'd been ASKED by elders not to go to Anjali, not to talk to her, then WHY did she disobey? Because Khushi always does what she deems right, in the end.

What Arnav said to her was unfair only because he was entirely blaming her for it all -- whereas Shyam was to blame for pursuing Khushi, etc. And Arnav was to blame for not speaking up about Shyam's affair when he first found out. Same goes for Khushi. It was all of their choices combined that put Anjali in her current distress. They should all be taking responsibility for it.

But all I'm saying is that I can understand Arnav's outburst just then -- because it was a human reaction. The self-blame, anger, pain, worry, all of these emotions bubbled over and he needed to blame the source, which is Khushi -- because Khushi is the one who Shyam wanted.

However, Arnav DID realize his mistake and DID return to apologize to her. He asked her not to leave. But she got stubborn, as per usual, and a bit inconsiderate considering the situation. I cannot stand it when CVs make women do the mahaan self-sacrificing act. I don't buy it. Khushi has matured a little over the past few weeks, but giving the cold shoulder is just childish. That's my POV.

If anything, Arnav and Khushi should've learned by now that not communicating about their thoughts/feelings is what creates MUs between them and distances them further.

Originally posted by: ..Manal..

Ely I agree They should learn COMMUNICATING !! But That goes for Arnav ! as im shocked ! kidnapping didn't hit him n Yet he did same mistake again !

so this track should help arnav to change Fully ! n tht is what khushi is trying to say Cuz all she Want is to SMILE n be LOVED !! n she is trying to let Arnav know tht MONEY can not BUY LOVE !

I agree and disagree that Khushi's actions are justified.

Agree because Arnav has hurt her ALOT in the past. More times than we can count. He deserves some punishment for what he has done.

My point of disagreement in this issue, is the way Khushi is enacting this punishment. The so called "cold punishment" is not befitting the Khushi I know and love. Khushi is a fiery character, that is angry, stubborn but forgives easily.

What Khushi is creating with her coldness is a cold war. Where is the anger the passion that I expect? I want Khushi to yell and scream at Arnav , to tell him off for all the times he has hurt her, not just walk away from his attempts to please her.

I want her to confront the issue at hand, not go through some roundabout method to get him to repent. Her problem is the contract marriage, the things he said to her by the pool etc, then why is she masking it under the cover of you can't say Happy Bday to me. Because that's what Khushi is essentially doing, she want's Arnav to do something he has never done for anyone before, so that she knows she holds significance in his life. When he finally does she does not really accept it, showing there is a much more greater issue at hand.

I just want Khushi and Arnav to have it out and actually talk about their problems. Before they would just go back to acting normal without solving them and now Khushi is using cold war tactics to manipulate Arnav. Her behaviour would be justifiable if it was for some of the bigger issues ( forced marriage, physical abuse, emotional abuse) , since it's not it's less justifiable. I want the old Khushi back.

Originally posted by: Elysia

Well said you have hit the nail on the head. When are they going to stop their cat and mouse games. When ASR actually bothers to apologize or repent, Khushi throws it back in his face. I thought after the kidnapping track we would see an improvement , actually confronting the issues at hand. But no much more insignificant issues are getting precendence !

Originally posted by: psychopinks

I don't think she's mistaking his actions or anything like that, like with todays scene when she's also got tears in her eyes as he walks away after wishing her, you can see it hurts her as much as it's hurting him. And I do think it's justified, if she keeps on forgiving his harsh words and actions he will never learn, he will keep on repeating the same mistakes and she will always end up getting hurt by the man she loves. So it's good that she's giving him the cold shoulder. And as well as that she doesn't know that he repeated the whole contract thing only because he couldn't let her go. I do really love this track though, but no matter what I say whenever I see Arnav failing miserably at making her happy my heart breaks for him but he needs a dose of his own medicine 😛.

Originally posted by: Harshitha

this is the 2nd post im seeing on the same context

this means give one puppy look & thats it u'll get melted instantly

even if that person lashes at u the very next second

wow!! great amazing

we talk about khushi's self respect - yada yada