IKRS Wednesday 30th December 2015 ep 123 My Take.
The concept of marriage between two people goes way beyond a formalized , witnessed signed, sealed and delivered decision between two individuals. In many world communities it is seen as a bond between two families too, namely the grooms and the brides households. This concept sticks out like a sore thumb in this show .There are two families here too, one is a nucleus extended family with both males and females. However the bride's family is marked by the fact that it is minus the presence of a male figure head as all are women , predominately who have lost their husbands .Also they are a composite family unit that is joined together not by blood but by a similarity of circumstances. A marriage ceremony is usually a time when one's faith and localized traditions, rites and rituals are celebrated by both families in the name of the bride and groom.The traditional values and rituals are also celebrated to create harmony between two differing families. This episode is a celebration of defined rituals that elevate particular faith and traditional values handed down from generations to generation. However it is a common feature in families too, to fall prey to minor unpleasantness between each other due to the mammoth task of organising ,planning and executing a major event like a wedding!
So the city of Benaras heaves away in the flow of Viplav and Dhani nuptials .The groom arranges that his best man Raj and Pankhaj give a hand at decorating the Ashram for the godh bharai ceremony.. seeing that there aren't men around at the Ashram. Dhani shows her gratitude and offers them tea. Typical teasing of a sister in law takes place from Raj's side who..wishes Dhani to rest before the ritual ceremony at hand.. After Viplav's friend go to decorate another area of the Ashram , Dhani muses, such was the blessing of having friends.. and she thinks of Suvarna, where was she? hope she is coming and Dhani phones her friend to check..She insists that Suvarna has to come for the ceremony.. Dhani says she misses her tremendously , but how could Suvarna tell Dhani that her husband had already put her off from participating in any of her rituals by taunting her.. No suvrna has to be quiet.. These were personal matters between a husband and wife ..to be kept private, not to be mentioned to friends either.. Yes I'll try Dhani is the best answer she could give Dhani . But Dhani shows concern by her friends answer...she wishes all is well with her friend.. Why did she suddenly hang up? Does Dhani consider forgiving Tripurari? It would make her friend happy..
Tilak ceremony is underway , with a gleeful smile Viplav receives the tiny tilak on his forehead from his mother in law and with mischief in his eyes he asks Dulari, are you happy? she says yes and he teases her, then why not put a bigger tikka on my forehead and with a small laugh.. she obliges him.. and lovingly performs his arti.. as Viplav smiles ,Dashrant and Kanak look miserable at the whole spectacle. According to the ritual Dulari holds a garland strewn with paper money according to her affordability. Kanak like a harridan coarsely stops her and taunts, what was she doing? is that all that she can afford , what would people say if they saw Viplav in a lowest value garland , his and his family's respectability will be questioned. Hence to put Dulari and the rest of the widows down she offers her another garland for Viplav's neck ten times more worth more in value than the poor widows. Viplav always expects some show down from his mother and can clearly see that once again his mother jumps into the fighting ring inviting a direct confrontation with Dhani's family. with godly wisdom he waits..till his mother forces Dulari to take the expensive garland.. but he takes his mother's garland from Dulari's helpless hands and then offers it to the pandit with the words.. this is your offering.. and looks up to Dulari.. put your garland upon me! she does most embarrassed. Dashrant and Kanak watch distastefully in absolute silence. They want one thing of Viplav but he their child thwarts all their evil ways! and Sita puts a garland around his neck too. Viplav's face beams with all the love and blessings he receives from his new family..but there were some matters he wishes to make know to all present .. one was most important which he stands from his place ,and goes and stands beside his mother and asks his dadaji what is the traditional ceremony called? he was told it's called bhiratsha..it means the girl's mother has given consent of her daughter's marriage, and considered you as a groom, then he as from today cannot marry any other girl.. Viplav asks so dada ji this goes to show that Dhani's family is part of our family?.. and he gives his mother a sided look to consider what the tradition speaks of ! funnily enough he puts Dashrant in a situation where he has to repeat what Viplav had said.. yes dhan's family is connected to their family.. and the next thing too, he wants to show all is about the love he has for his mother, despite her out of order behaviour he puts his arm around her and says, she knows how much he loves her.. but the garland they brought is strew by their love which cannot be bought ,and her happiness is his happiness .. basically Viplav says , that the widows garland was an act of pure love and blessings from them.. they bought it from the little they have.. it cannot be valued in price.. and such a love is priceless!
Dulari and Inderani return to the Ashram and are delighted to see their Ashram bedecked by flower posies .. Dhani tells them it's the labour of love of Raj and pankhj and they leave rather.. with a mysterious twinkle as if they were up to something.. Inderani asks about Suvarna,Dhani says, she said she would come.. and the women leave to make arrangements for the godh bharia.. a symbolic tradition done in two stages once before marriage invoking fertilityfor the couple..the women from the grooms family come bearing gifts of jewellery .. the women perform arti for the bride ..and place gifts on her lap. the bride to be dresses ,but without jewellery that is put on her from the boys's side.. the second godh bhari is like a baby shower when the woman is twenty eight weeks pregnant...
Times have changed courtesy of the phone. Dhani is in her elements , the blissful complacency of her wedding underway , quite simply fills her with a naughty boldness and who should she ring at night? a lounging Viplav who tells her pompously, Dhani how come she doesn't know that meeting each other ,talking to each other before marriage is not considered decent between the bride and groom?? ,ohhh really? she replies since when has he started believing in traditions? and he replies ,ever since he fell in love with her.. and Dhani smiles dreamily.. as he carries on being a tease wants to know.. did she ring him to find out about the weather report? or is she missing him? and she goes.. no nothing of the sort she just wanted to know if things were well at his side? and he replies, really you liar! she giggles, as he carries, look he can hear it in her voice that she is missing him badly.. any way good she phoned he wanted to tell her he's sent a dress for her to wear at the godh bharai ceremony and he sincerely hopes she'll like it , and Dhani shyly replies, if he has bought it then she'll surely like it .. and he swirls in his swivel chair and comes to the point! after going around in circles, one more thing! as far as he can recall she hasn't said I love you to him..he spins around again and warns her ,till she doesn't say she loves him ,he won't get married.. Dhani smiles shyly,.and recalls his I love you episode and says oh she know that I .. and he recalls and he laughs hysterically .. and he waits patiently and Dhani looks around if it was safe ,and he grumbles on the other side.. now she''d better stop looking around ! and hurry up and say the words and she giggles nervously and says.. she feels shy.. but she'll try.. and she checks again no one's about and..says.. I eee.. and he asks , is she expressing love? or asking him to get grocery.? say it with a bit more loveee.. and she hisses.. back she can't say it with love! why doesn't he say it how??? and goes he replie, she wants him to say it again? and she says yes.. and he says ookkkaye.. hold on.. and he huffs and puffs and musters up all his courage yet again for the daunting ordeal ..while she waits, Dhani quickly puts the receiver off the hook as she spots Dulari coming and runs to the water pitcher.. Dulari obviously asks her why the phone is off the hook? Viplav rubs his palms flexes his neck as he is going off to the wars! and gears up to speak . puts the phone to his ear and begins... Dulari mumbles a wedding is taking place here.. and she moves to the phone and put it to her ear.. and he shoots.. I love you.. straight into Dulari's ear and she screams, buchiwa ji and Viplav writhes and squirms in shock! his goes phone goes flying off!.. and dulari repeats puzzled lub you..dhani what is lubu lub u?and Dhani beats her brow..since it was her idea to ask him , Dulari says ,bachwa ji speak louder she can't hear him very well.. helooo she calls and Viplav goes kkk.k and she screams speak louder ,but frustrated viplav cuts the phone and Dulari irritated tells Dhani off is stead ,is she going to empty the pot of water in herself go to sleep and Viplav most peeved at her cusses her picture in his roo,m .. wicked girl! biting her nails she can't even say I love you.. and Dhani in the Ashram looks down at the phone and says clear as a whistle I love you Viplav! he senses it.. and she covers her face with her palms shyly.. the scene to me like the tilak bit.. is to create a warmth between Viplav and Dulari ,seeing that things had turned scour between them considerably..
Kanak is a woman scorned by her son on account of that witch Dhani..kanak prays before Kala maa to give her strength to fight all odds that allow Dhani to become the daughter in law of her house.. a lamb is slaughtered for Kala maa on behalf of Kanak.. she takes the lambs head with her.. to me the lamb is symbolic of Dhani herself.. young innocent but blackened with the stigma of widow hood.. Kanak feels scorned.. and it's her son who has shamed her broken the rules of society .. as the lamb is slaughterd.. it's juglar squirts blood at Kanak's face..
Dhani's godh bahrai begins all give her gifts and Kanak gives her the gift of the lambs head.. in doing so she mocks , and makes fun of the piety and strict code of practice the widows follow.. as they cannot have any animal dead flesh in their Ashram.. the skull is thrown on the floor by a frightened Dhani and blood splattered on the floor,it's what Kanak wanted to defile their home! .. horrified Dhani runs off in a fright ! Inderani challenges Kanak ,how can she being maha pandit's dil behave like so ? it's a sin to bring such a thing in the widows Ashram ! and Kanak says to them .its not a sin.. and what about having a godh bahari ceremony in a widows home is that not a sin? when they decided to accept Viplav then also have to accept the traditions of marriage the tirpathai's follow too..to them these traditions are auspicious.. if they don't accept their marriage traditions! Then they shouldn't have put forward their daughter! for her son their daughter! gruesome scene was intended too intimidate Dhani .. the widows suspected foul play from Kanak...
Liked today's episode.. it has a wedding feel.. the Ram's skull .. still trying to figure out how Dhani will cook.. meat?? Dhani was cute , in the phone scene.. Viplav can do many things in a stride except say the three words to certain love torn Viplav fever sufferers !on the forum..
Hamlet53 31.12. 15
Precap: kanak demand Dhani will have to cook the mesat of the lambs shkull and feed us other wise this marriage cannot take place! dshrant as usual comes in as the feigned good cop..
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