Originally posted by: vibraj
Well-said Seetha👏! I also know of some communities where from day 1, they are judging the bride, how well she is mixing with her husband's relatives, how she is in the kitchen etc., when all this can be faked, people are so stupid, they need to give time to the bride to settle and most importantly, the focus should be if she is a good human being, then kitchen, getting along with everyone etc. falls in place!
Vibha ..is it necessary to test a person in such a way to accept her in to their home ?Most women have undergone this phase or yet to experience this novel feeling of being a newly married. An insight into the emotions that flow like currents in the mind of the -"girl turned woman", . Fear, apprehension, nervousness and pressure of living up to people's expectations, understanding her husband and others exhibit the normalcy of such feelings !!! Also the fact that one is no longer the carefree lass , an young girl as she was in her own home...sudden shouldering of responsibilities... adjusting to a new place and people are the common thoughts, running through the newly weded girl's mind !! At the same time, wanting to spend time with her spouse alone... a newly found attraction ,longing , in such a situation ..she has to face all these tests and trails , I consider it as an atrocious cruelty !
Apart from these internal tensions, external pressures exist in the form of relatives ... Uncles, aunts, grandmothers, grandfathers and the whole paraphernalia of family members, tend to scrutinize every action and reaction of the newly wed ! Commenting on her appearance and the lack of knowledge of certain practices, pressurizing her to comply with the age- old traditions such as name changing ,and customs, do not make things any easier for her ever !
It is a sad plight present even in the modern day scenario;which has remain unchanged since time immemorial! Unfortunately,we fail to realize that marriage isn't about the cut throat competition taking place in a corporate world !It isn't about comparing individuals or viewing the new addition as a threat ! It's all about welcoming the new member into their fold and initiating them into their family !A new perspective for people to understand and empathize with brides and make them feel welcome in their unfamiliar surroundings! After all she's a bride in her new home,and is there to stay for life ...so they have to give some support ..some understanding and a warm welcome to her !
Sorry dear ...tempted to say many words as usual !😊
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