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Kesar hit the nail on the head in this episode. I absolutely loved every word.
There are times where your shouting at the screen, encouraging unspoken words to be projected throughout yet I found myself speechless by Kesar's argument, he said more than what I expected.
I really loved his side of the story today, finally relieving himself of that burden he has carried around for ten years...
If you knew I was a 12 year old and I didn't understand the meaning of marriage, why didn't you say it when the deeyarvattu was happening? he asks his mother through his tears.
Looking back now, it really is an ordeal for a child to go through something like that, of course none of the relatives at the time realised the turn in events but regardless what happened, happened and no one spoke against it.
He's not a child anymore either, no one has a right to free him of the bond without his opinion, (call me biased of course I don't want that bond to break) but it is true, he may have been twelve..but that was ten years ago.
I read in one of Lennie's posts about Kesar's perception of the rasm excluding the fact he loves Gulaal and I completely agree with it now that I've seen the episode. For a twelve year old, your understanding of a situation is the biggest truth to you at the time, especially when it has been perceived through another's eyes...a truth which someone else, someone older places in your mind and your trust allows you to believe it with your eyesclosed...taking a leap of faith, standing at the edge of a cliff.
He cries out, that decision of putting on Vasant's shoes happily on my feet has now become chains holding me in place...his innocence shattered as soon as he understands the importance of his decision, when he realises the consequences of what he has agreed to.
If Gulaal feels she's following Vasant's footsteps, then Kesar is no less. I can imagine Vasant standing true to his word and his little brother stands firm in his decision...doing exactly what I'd expect Vasant to do.
Kesar's not saying that he can't marry Talli because he of his love for Gulaal since she's his wife. He argues his duty towards her as her husband, he highlights the sanctity of the bond that exists between them due to the deeyarvattu which prevents him from being disloyal and marrying someone else. As a twelve year old, he had already understood his responsibility towards Gulaal and ten years later, with that unchanged belief, it's the same responsibility what prevents him from taking that last phera with Talli...
Changing a belief of ten years isn't easy and he plainly refuses.
I do feel for Talli though, it really isn't her fault...and we all know Gulaal, as she sees Talli runs off she's still convinced she will do the "right thing" and ensure the deeyarvattu is declared unenforceable. The motivation behind this remains anon to me; her love for Vasant? her effort to always do the opposite to what Kesar wants? Her maternal instinct towards Talli? Another social norm? An effort to prove her chastity...?
It started with him stating unequivocally that his thoughts would not change regardless of whether the panchayat argued in Gulaal's favour. The first round of applause he got from me. A pet hate is when during these confrontations, one side always buttons up...and fails to argue the whole side of their story. Kesuda made me proud today! That was hit number one. I'm so glad he stood his ground...even Gulaal was speechless.
Hit number 2-The fact that Gulaal kept the vatsavitri's vrat and then told him to marry Talli had me applauding him again. It is true...the phrase "marriage is not a game" is highlighted here, you keep a fast for your husband in the public eye and then refuse to acknowledge the relationship when he wants you to accept it? This is a one way zone Gulaal!
Then the question, "someone please tell me, what is the relationship between me and Gulaal??"
No one said a word.
Awesome.
(Neil's dialogue delivery is applausible, I'm so fond of him as an actor! It is terrific, he leaves me in awe every single episode)
Sorry, went on a little rant there...I simply loved that first part of the episode, my fingers were itching to write something! :)
xo
There are times where your shouting at the screen, encouraging unspoken words to be projected throughout yet I found myself speechless by Kesar's argument, he said more than what I expected.
I really loved his side of the story today, finally relieving himself of that burden he has carried around for ten years...
If you knew I was a 12 year old and I didn't understand the meaning of marriage, why didn't you say it when the deeyarvattu was happening? he asks his mother through his tears.
Looking back now, it really is an ordeal for a child to go through something like that, of course none of the relatives at the time realised the turn in events but regardless what happened, happened and no one spoke against it.
He's not a child anymore either, no one has a right to free him of the bond without his opinion, (call me biased of course I don't want that bond to break) but it is true, he may have been twelve..but that was ten years ago.
I read in one of Lennie's posts about Kesar's perception of the rasm excluding the fact he loves Gulaal and I completely agree with it now that I've seen the episode. For a twelve year old, your understanding of a situation is the biggest truth to you at the time, especially when it has been perceived through another's eyes...a truth which someone else, someone older places in your mind and your trust allows you to believe it with your eyesclosed...taking a leap of faith, standing at the edge of a cliff.
He cries out, that decision of putting on Vasant's shoes happily on my feet has now become chains holding me in place...his innocence shattered as soon as he understands the importance of his decision, when he realises the consequences of what he has agreed to.
If Gulaal feels she's following Vasant's footsteps, then Kesar is no less. I can imagine Vasant standing true to his word and his little brother stands firm in his decision...doing exactly what I'd expect Vasant to do.
Kesar's not saying that he can't marry Talli because he of his love for Gulaal since she's his wife. He argues his duty towards her as her husband, he highlights the sanctity of the bond that exists between them due to the deeyarvattu which prevents him from being disloyal and marrying someone else. As a twelve year old, he had already understood his responsibility towards Gulaal and ten years later, with that unchanged belief, it's the same responsibility what prevents him from taking that last phera with Talli...
Changing a belief of ten years isn't easy and he plainly refuses.
I do feel for Talli though, it really isn't her fault...and we all know Gulaal, as she sees Talli runs off she's still convinced she will do the "right thing" and ensure the deeyarvattu is declared unenforceable. The motivation behind this remains anon to me; her love for Vasant? her effort to always do the opposite to what Kesar wants? Her maternal instinct towards Talli? Another social norm? An effort to prove her chastity...?
It started with him stating unequivocally that his thoughts would not change regardless of whether the panchayat argued in Gulaal's favour. The first round of applause he got from me. A pet hate is when during these confrontations, one side always buttons up...and fails to argue the whole side of their story. Kesuda made me proud today! That was hit number one. I'm so glad he stood his ground...even Gulaal was speechless.
Hit number 2-The fact that Gulaal kept the vatsavitri's vrat and then told him to marry Talli had me applauding him again. It is true...the phrase "marriage is not a game" is highlighted here, you keep a fast for your husband in the public eye and then refuse to acknowledge the relationship when he wants you to accept it? This is a one way zone Gulaal!
Then the question, "someone please tell me, what is the relationship between me and Gulaal??"
No one said a word.
Awesome.
(Neil's dialogue delivery is applausible, I'm so fond of him as an actor! It is terrific, he leaves me in awe every single episode)
Sorry, went on a little rant there...I simply loved that first part of the episode, my fingers were itching to write something! :)
xo
Mannat Har Khushi Paane Ki
