Originally posted by: deefy89
i disagree and as it has been more than a few occasions where he has called her stupid, useless, good for nothing etc... and in my opinion that is verbal abuse...
As far as i remember he meant that seriously on few occations,
-----> After marriage
-----> the time she accused him of conspiring by attempting to burn Antra's pic
-----> Diya making
-----> After card party
-----> Restaurant fiasco
& after the Raddi wala incident he promised he would never say "Tumse na ho payega" & he kept his words till now.
Since he has seen her broken writing chits, he has been extra careful.
regardless of his character he seems to have forgot that she is only 20 years of age and is still learning about life, not every 20 yo has things ''figured out''.
We have to remember AJ was never a friendly guy to start with & is not used to seeing mistakes around him.
perhaps you and i differ on how an adult should handle the ''mistakes'' of someone much younger. i appreciate what the theme is and i understand it however over 100 episodes on i just expect both her character and the household situation to have improved. i dont think it is just aj who verbally abuses her but the dil also mainly durga. im also aware that the show is titled along her being a good for nothing however i had hoped as the character progresses that would change and she would have actually surprised them all and the story would take new turns, eg saru trying to take over the house and business... it just seems a bit monotonous to me where someones out to get guddan, she miracuously gets out of it, only for someone else to be out to get her (alternating between her DIL and parv). so far most of her ''good for nothing'' mistakes have actually been others trying to make her look bad. as far as im aware AJ accepted her ''as his wife'' from the very start, albeit a bit grudgingly.
But now he seems to be accepting her more willingly though he himself hasn't realized it yet. Before it was just for the sake of world & now he seems to take a lot of time to answer this whenever Dadi questions him.
im afraid i do not see this ''long way'' that you seem to have seen their relationship come so far..
Example:- Before Christmas Party Guddu regretted as she put AJ's picture in her family collage by mistake but during reception party, she reminded her sister, that AJ is her "Jiju" & she shouldn't hesitate in front of him
The 1st day after wedding, he warned her not to touch any of his stuff & burned all she touched & now he allows her to have her way in whatever she demands, shaving him, working in his kitchen, giving her his laptop even after she deleted his important presentation, wearing her gifted pink shirt,etc.
take most recently for eg. aj in an attempt to get her to stay invented a story about money just to do so which has now made durga harp on every episode about the money, when he could in my eyes have provided actual support to her in front of the DIL.
I feel he did that to somehow save himself too, as knowing Durga, she would have again asked him the same questions that she did before i.e. Why are you stopping her if you don't accept her as your wife ? If you don't accept her as your wife, then how can she be our saas ?
& at the moment he hasn't accepted this to himself that somewhere he has started to accept Guddu as his wife so he couldn't have voiced it strongly.
i personally dont feel she is treated well in that house except by dadi and if she has to go through all that to develop as a character all i can say is poor girl
yes while she isn't treated well in Jindal Bhavaan, & this is also true, she wasn't treated well in her Father's house too as there she was facing the same from Kaushalya, & her sister was useless & Father newsless.
Here atleast Dadi knows about her Pain & AJ is always there to help her & guide her whenever she is in need.