Only thing I somewhat agree in this is BK has always been like this... To ye kuch shocking nahi tha.
Probably if V had thought of marriage or had been part of those discussions, he would have known that BK would not like a working professional bahu. And he might have agreed too, if he had never met Sai.
And they might have found him a girl just like Pakhi... who is educated but is okay to stay at home.
But this didnt happen. Destiny played its card. V was forced to marry and that too to a girl like Sai who is very career oriented... so this conflict was bound to happen one day or another. It was always simmering when Sai went to college and they kept on asking her to participate in poojas and rituals.
Itna toxic aur itna cringeworthy karne ki jarurat nahi thi... but then thats ghum 👎🏼