Everyday i love Sai more and have more disgust for Virat..
I love everything Sai says to pulkit. Wisdom beyond her years. Its a fine line between being mature, wise and being sacrificial, fake mahaanta, false sense of self righteousness..virat always loses his sense in this matter but Sai has been kept firmly in control. She is not hiding her grief or denying her sadness at losing Virat. She is Not hiding her hurt. She has openly acknowledged her pain displaying her vulnerability. And she has taken a stand for herself. Not allowed herself to be a doormat. But at the same time she is cognizant of not crossing the lines of decency and insaaniyat in the process of taking a stand. She tells herself and others to not forget everything else Virat is based on his one mistake. She is the one most hurt, most affected by this all but she has chosen the most mature way of dealing with it. She does not pretend to not care but she hasn't let her emotions cloud her judgement or weaken her resolve. She still acknowledges Virats contribution in her life, cherishes the good memories. She rues the loss of their connection , the fact that he didn't trust her, he hid things from her but then the girl was always served a confused and complicated relationship. She never knew her status. Kabhi biwi, kabhi dost, kabhi zimmedari... I love how Sai speaks about the fact that it was not about him finding love outside or Shruti....it was about his priorities- the fact that her self respect was compromised. She had extremely reasonable expectations as a wife which he didn't meet. Repeatedly picked others over her
so no matter what he felt/didnt feel, did/didnt do- Sai only looked for truth and reassurance and clarification of her status in his life. But he couldn't give her that so she walked away with her respect and dignity intact. She walked away in such a dignified way- there was no baddua, no name calling . This is where she stands apart from a vaahiyat vulture like pp who instead of showing class showed her crass behavior.
Samrats anger is justified. he feels such a strong bond with Sai that hes her brother first. But its also utterly useless if he doesn't see through pp's facades. If he loves Sai as his own then why only Virat be subjected to his anger-pp should too..pp has wronged Sai many a time too..didnt even let the girl grieve peacefully.. so how come there's no disgust towards her. No breaking relationship there.
Virat has a surprised look when Sam says Sai told everyone to give him a chance and not blame him for falling in love. But yet again he does not dwell on the purity of Sai's emotions for him. Only someone who truly loves you will wish you the best even when they are hurt by you.
Instead Virat allows PP to touch him, comfort him. He was fully buying into her fake sympathy, crying in front of her, agreeing with her saying stuff against Sai by nodding along ...and even allowed her to touch his shoulder, hold his hand way longer than necessary..
Infact as she spews her nonsense you see virats expression harden a little but he still doesn't immediately leave her hand or slap it away until finally she crosses all limits of decency talking about herself in his life, and how she would have trusted him and she never got a chance . She says I have the right to know more than anyone else about Shruti because I was in your life first- before Sai. Thats finally what got Virat to tell her to shut up. Until then he allowed her to say crap, hold his hand.... clearly he loves the attention. Such a hypocritical man.
Pp is such a frickin joke. I wish he had firmly reminded her that she shouldn't have the audacity to talk- she blocked his number over not recognizing her voice, she has repeatedly crossed all limits of decency and not long ago she was deliberately adding ghee in fire, provoking everyone against him , asking him about his affair.....his eventual "get out" request to pp as usual was exceedingly polite. Hadh of spinelessness.
We see Sai in the meanwhile putting her full focus on her career. Wanting to learn/observe ss much as possible. That part is surprisingly accurate....enthu cutlet med students often tag along with consultants, residents to observe things from a distance and participate in whatever they are allowed to do. As a student everything - big and small is still new and the students are like a sponge waiting to soak in all that they can..i remember skipping lunch as a student or coming early/leaving a little late to see one extra patient and practice my history taking skills or examination skills or during my surgery rotations hang out and hope that a kind senior would offer to let me fo a suture. I was even excited about doing what grosses people out like doing a rectal exam or a vaginal exam.
Its incredibly sweet of her to think of how the "patient" must be feeling as she is going through this "complicated" medical situation. Often as medical students there is more empathy.....real life and work sometimes toughens us up too much that we lose sight of the person behind the ailments. I know I have been guilty of it. Sometimes its for the good. Objectivity is important. And ultimately if you are good at your job in terms of your skills, people will excuse your aloofness. But medicine is both an art and a science. There is always a place for the doctor who is not only skilled but takes an extra few seconds to just be a human. It gets really hard to do when you get busier n busier in practice and have responsibilities. Its also practised. The empathy a doctor shows a patient has a certain decorum. Its not the same as treating your patients as your own family or friends because they never will be and never should be. Making sure your empathy is not cold and formal but at the same time not overly familiar and unprofessional is a practised interaction. The more students spend time doing and watching such interactions- the better they get. Breaking bad news, asking personal questions or counseling them on complicated things or sensitive matters like fir example- sex , or giving information to patients in a manner that they are being made to feel empowered and like partners in the decision making but not overwhelming them with TMI....all these things are the daily life of a doctor..
Anyway i apologize for the complete tangent i went on....
Coming back to the story, I didn't like that when Sai prays to bappa she talks about farz etc and makers keep cutting to virats face as if to suggest that everything Sai is praying for is what virat did. Theres no comparison. Virat betrayed his farz for the sake of this woman. So He certainly didn't place his farz over everything. He placed a Naxalite criminal over his duty as a police officer.
The only decent dialogue from virat is that as he is driving to hospital at least he is still thinking of getting Shruti situated post her surgery and then telling Sai and hopefully bringing Sai back home because i had a feeling they may go so far in this self proclaimed mahaan virat narrative that they will show him give up and not want to tell Sai anything because he thinks she doesn't "deserve" his explanations. He is very much capable of shamelessly switching to that mode too....
But for now atleast if you dig like 5000 meters beneath his garbage pile of self victimization there's perhaps a teeny bit of acknowledgement at least that he has erred by hiding things from Sai and destroying her self respect..
I hope they dont lose that also in the upcoming episodes 😢
Virat needs to acknowledge his mistakes. It should not all be made into Sai's guilt, pachtava and Sai-bashing by makers eventually.
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