Sai and Virat's relationship, just started to sail or is sinking?
Sorry about such a long post guys, I have included many significant encounters and incidents in their life and just given my understanding below. I have started with their feelings from the latest episode but the intent is to address a lot of questions we all have from their marriage proposal till today. It is totally not possible to stick to just one episode, so have covered many aspects of their life and their journey.
I just couldn't stop writing about how symbolic the heart wrenching and dirty fight was.
Tum nahi jaogi kyunki mein keha raha hoon from yesterday's episode. Expecting that she will oblige to him, trust him and his judgement to not meet a professor who has called her alone for lunch. It was a husband and an ACP speaking who is aware of many crimes.
Madam just walked out telling I am getting late.
The run and standing on front of her was telling kaha tha na maine, tum nahi jaogi.
Her asking to give way and him asking to not act stubborn thak theek tha. But the minute she said hatiye mujhe jaana hai, he was trying to read her eyes, he didn't see it as stubbornness, he watched that the indifference towards him was back in her, he noticed how she was again getting disconnected aur bas haath pakad liya.
Takes me back to the scene when he last held her hand when she had fever. Haath chodne ke liye nahi pakda hai and her reply, mera haath pakadne ka aapka koi haq nahi hai.
This time he didn't say your safety is my responsibility but instead he was telling her ki use haq hai, na sirf haath pakadne ki par uss Sai) par haq hai. Hence the next dialogue with full liberty "apne" kamre mein jao.
The entire time all that he did was haq jathaana and her fight asking him to leave her hand and her saying she will go was like asking him aap ho kaun, I don't need your permission to step out. It was like her asking him why are you trying to show liberty on me when you love someone else.
He knew where this was coming from, it was from her misunderstanding that he and Pakhi love each other and that she considers herself to be a deal waali biwi on whom you cannot take any liberty.
He was concerned about her as soon as she said she was the only one called for lunch, got protective but now got hurt with her indifference. He couldn’t see her moving away from him again. It was nothing to do with her stubbornness, he could see her getting detached from him. His hurt, the pain, restlessness, insecurity and the feeling of getting ignored to this extent made him do things which he would never imagine of. His so called best friend saying kisi bhi ladki ke saath nahi kar sakthey ho, haan that’s true but now in front of her is the husband who wants to be acknowledged by his wife as husband.
Guess who told his best friend that it is our niji maamla. All the while in their bedroom he has never said it once and he says it here which was not even their private space but was a living room. Par woh kar hi kya saktha hai, he was trying to convey an important message to his wife who was upset with him and who didn’t trust him and he was like who cares where we are and you stay out of it.
Bewajaah ki zid – yeh zidd nahi dard hai
It was not told because she was being stubborn that she would go. The previous day her ignoring him while he was serving tea was ok and he kept trying and understood she is upset so let her go. But the day he was planning to sort out things between them, had a surprise planned for her she was not only telling him she was going out but was also indirectly asking him to mind his business. (Subtly)
He is a person who doesn’t speak much or express but registers whatever is said. His head was reeling with many things that she had said the other night and the most important thing “ummeed karti hoon ki mere personal matter mein koi taang nahi adaye”. How can he not be reminded of that? He was planning something to reassure her about their relationship and to convey that she has misunderstood him but to him it was like he is not being given a chance and she is walking out of what they had built in the last few encounters even before giving him a chance to explain.
How was he supposed to handle this rapid change from packing things in the same suitcase to don’t interfere in my personal matter.
Trip cancellation, how did it affect the both?
He was able to react normally after the trip got cancelled like how anyone would, he was disappointed that it got cancelled for both him and for her too. Can it be said for her? Poor girl, under normal circumstances anyone would have got disappointed that the trip got cancelled but she was in pain for some other reason.
She was brought back to reality by the person Pakhi) who thinks herself to be his world and that she (Sai) was only his responsibility who was clinging to them and not letting them go alone.
Damage done was done, though he fought till the end with his best friend.
Sai as a woman could see and understand Pakhi, from where the anger was coming, she could understand her pain, her feeling deceived by Virat because he had asked Sai to join them. She even told that aapka bartav Pakhi didi ko dhokha dene jaisa hai. Words were hers but it was her understanding of how Pakhi felt that day. She had so much courage to tell it out loud when she herself was in pain because she is his wife and it should be her who should be upset.
All the blush, happiness, budding emotions were crumpled by the reality of someone else claiming her husband to be theirs. Terms and conditions of her marriage was only confirming her assumptions. To her it was not the trip that got cancelled, it was the broken relationship (milne se pehle mili judaai). The realisation that it is a deal waali shaadi.
She did what she was good at, staying away from him, pushing him away if he is trying to get close, behave with him like she is only his zimmedari and not his wife. It is a torture when you want to maintain distance with someone and that someone keeps trying to break the wall and enter your private space and is not letting you move away. Even more torturous when that is what she wants and in a way liking the attention but cannot have such expectations and doesn’t think should enjoy this attention due to terms and conditions and also because there is jeethi jaathi reminder of the reality (which she is thinking to be the reality and is not true sadly).
No longer want to analyse what I feel
How beautiful was the scene and her true emotions came to light. After the confrontation with Virat sir, she felt very lonely and dejected that people misunderstand her, thinks her to be egoistic and arrogant but what bothered her the most was that even he couldn’t understand her (Virat sir aur koi nahi toh aap hi mujhe samajh paathey).
And the next minute her guards were up when she was talking to Mohit saying I am alone, mera unse rishtha hi kya hai, I did it for aai, I don’t want to talk about it. It was as if she doesn’t want to dwell on what she feels for him. Last time after she applied Alta and Aai told her it is love, she atleast questioned herself though she scolded herself to be thinking that way about Virat sir. But now she doesn’t want to ponder on anything, trying hard to not get carried away or get influenced by anyone.
Agar ghee seedhi ungli se na nikle toh?
Aur dard de do, inflict pain due to pain
Sai – I will go, don’t you understand you cannot interfere in my personal matters anymore
Wonderful acting by Neil “Aaj yeh wahi karegi jo main, main (emphasising to her that he is her husband) kahoonga. He was possessed.
Guess who was taken aback, was more shocked than Sai, Pakhi didi. All that she could see was a possessed Virat who was acting like a husband and not as if she was his zimmedari. She was immediately able to see what she always calls him "Sai ka pati".
It was not a disapproval when one woman feels for another that he is going to this length of getting the main doors closed or locking in the room but was for this new discovery "Sai's Virat".
Sai – are you kidding me? If I can save your job, can also tarnish your image and snatch it by revealing how abusive you are being right now. Grave mistake Virat sir.
Just loved the reply to his question, mujhe dhamki de rahi ho “nahi sach ka saamna kara rahi hoon".
Virat didn’t get offended when he asked her that, it looked like he was asking her are you sure you would do that to me? Will you be able to do that me?
Thank god, his trust that she won’t do anything like that was ascertained by her showing him what he is doing. It was like her telling, I know you don’t know what you are doing, something that you would never do but is still doing and hence I am trying to wake you up.
It didn’t look like Virat was playing a victim card. Mil gayi khushi mere hi parivar walon ke samne mera sar jhukakar was an answer to even his Kaku (seeing this day because of this girl) that it is not Sai who has been wrong but it was his fault and he is ashamed.
His mom was shocked that he is blaming it on Sai when it was him who was at fault but he was shocked at his own actions and it was to tell her, why are you doing this, why cannot you listen to me, why do you want to make a tamasha of the both of us.
Virat’s turn to ask her are you kidding me?
So many bitters words spoken by Virat and her right questions as to if I forced you to get married.
Sai's aaba’s promise from Virat
I was also wondering what he was saying about mazboor kiya tha dialogue, watched the old episode and found that Kamal sir did force Virat to promise to take care of Sai. I wasn’t sure why Virat hesitated when Kamal Joshi asked him to give him a promise. Kamal sir kept requesting for him to give him a promise that he will take care of Sai.
Makes me wonder - a new revelation
Was the hesitation because he couldn’t understand what Kamal sir was expecting out of this promise, going by today’s revelation it looks like he understood that he probably is asking him to marry Sai way before the villagers suggested him to marry Sai.
Why did she think he is lying?
Sai was shocked, as per her it was the villagers who forced him to take this decision and hence said he was lying and asked him not to bring her Aaba in between these talks.
Then his classic dialogue of mein kya mara ja raha tha tumse shaadi karne ke liye. These words came from his current state of mind, he is dying to be with her, live his life with her and so in his defense these words immediately came to his mouth. If I am not wrong we have now got to know he thinks her to be sundar susheel and sanskaari 😂😂. Thank god there was no tameez word, otherwise I wouldn’t have been able to think this way.
Between you and my Dad - what did she mean?
Even if I agree my Dad did that, it was between you and my Dad. What she said was not wrt to them getting married. It was to tell him that if he married her for the promise he gave to her Dad, it was between you and him, you could have refused or you married to respect the promise you gave him, why should I think it to be a ehsaan on me, I never asked you to marry me. It was only to tell I didn't ask for any ehsaan, it wasn't to tell I need not have got married to you because you promised my Aaba.
Safety is the first priority
Even after exchange of a lot of bitter words and dhamki, all that he was concerned about was her safety. Aai explains why it is important to tell them where and why is she going and he jumps in saying, see this is what I want, your safety so give me an answer. She was not just helpless that she can’t share the information but now, she was like you were trying to show your power on me, there is no way I am going to tell you.
Promise to aaba to Shaadi ka vachan
Donon ko keemat chukani padegi
There was a time when he told Sai that I won’t be able to keep up the promise I gave to your Dad when she refused to divulge where she was going while going to meet the DIG. Today he didn’t say anything like that but instead said baari keemat chukani padegi, he reiterated the words he spoke the night they fought “akeli reh jaogi, chahe phir koi bhi deewar thodke us paar nahi aa payenge". He is worried and warning her that if this continues their relationship will break, not that he is going to but either of them might snap and break it even before they realise it. She was like I will be gone if you repeat this behavior.
Neil’s expressions conveys a lot of unsaid words, they don’t have to waste time to add another dialogue.
Am I reading too much into it? 😂😂
Omi adding fuel to the fire; “bewakoof ko uski galti samjhayi jaa sakti hai, ghamandi ko nahi”
Virat shaking his head – how many times have I told you ki parivaar waale tumse gussa rehthe hain, naraaz rehthey hain, bada bhawal khada ho jayega, don’t give them a chance to point fingers at you. But now see what you have done, what all are they calling you ghamandi and what not.
Shadi hi samjhautha
Why did she agree and was he convinced with his own idea?
It did disturb her in the past, the moment he told her the terms and conditions. She didn’t know how to react.
She agreed to get married to him only because her well wishers wanted it and forced her to and she couldn’t say no to them. Usha mausi made it even personal and it would look as if she wasn’t listening to her only because she is actually not her mom. So she was forced to take this decision but not before trying one last thing. Mausi will get hurt if I say no, so why not ask him to backoff. That is exactly what she did, asked him to run away, show his power on them but somehow backoff.
He was like if it all comes to my decision, I am not getting married because others are forcing me, I promised your Dad and I cannot run away from my responsibility. Then her reminding about Pakhi and only then he remembers to tell her that he can only take her responsibility.
What do I do after learning the T&C of the shaadi?
She wasn’t sure of it but then also thought that she anyway never wanted to get married but is now forced to get married and if for him the marriage actually doesn’t mean marriage, it is good in a way. She will get married as per her well wisher's wishes and though married she can live as if she never got married. Stupid (/childish) as it sounds, just like she said yeh toh mera naam hai when she saw Sai Joshi in the pen gifted by him.
Also if she had refused to marry him after he laid out the conditions it would mean that she wants the marriage.
Sai said I never wanted to get married in first place, only wanted to live with Aaba.
He says, I have promised your Dad, you need to accept this marriage.
She is still not convinced. Her doubts about Pakhi being more than a friend to him gets surfaced and she asks him directly.
He then lays out the T&C
How is one supposed to react to this. If she says I can’t accept your T&C would mean she wants this marriage, it obviously will raise questions in him. Or just like how he asked now in the present mein kya tumse shaadi karne ke liye mara ja raha tha, he can be made to think that she wants to marry him.
None of what he could imply if she refused to marry after he laid out the T&C are true, she truly did not want to get married and wasn’t dying to marry him.
She wanted to convey the same to him everytime that he used to remind her of the T&C.
Anyone who was put in that situation would say mein bhi aaki patni bankar nahi reh sakthi.
Her getting affected or acting in defense was natural and understood. He was the one who laid these T&C, then why did her replies affect him? As per him, he can’t give place to anyone in his heart, if that is entirely true, why has he always got annoyed when she asked him to take a u turn or when she said she will leave once she becomes a doctor (which was also something he had offered without thinking anything).
Neither did he realise what all this means and if he will be able to adhere to the compromise, nor did she realise. Both got into the mess in equal measures. It is easier for him to move beyond any T&C as if it never exists and start working on their marriage since it was not her who laid the T&C and for her it is difficult because he put those conditions and also there is a reminder living in the same house of why he did that in first place.
He finds it so difficult even when she reminds of the deal, how difficult would it be for her when this was the condition he had laid out before getting married. Even while taking pheras, it was him who told her, maine toh waada de diya par tum mujhse koi umeed mat rakhna. Any girl with self respect who wants to maintain her dignity would only reply, mujhe ummeed rakhni bhi nahi hai, i will leave once I become doctor since you want to fulfill your responsibility.
Burden of responsibility
But now both don’t want this. His Aai once told while feeding him that she understands his position because he had to take up such a big responsibility all of a sudden and he also has to hear everyone’s taana. Shouldn’t he be extending the same understanding towards her, he does it to some extent but not always.
She has moved to a new place with all new faces, who are extremely wierd and unreasonable. She is expected to fulfill her responsibilities as a bahu but won't be considered a bahu. If life ka tajurba hone ke baad bhi, this responsibility is too much for him to take, how is a girl who just lost her Dad and entered in this CN jungle feel? In chote chote kandon pe yeh saari expectations kyun?
Jungli mulgi toh yeh log hain, Sonali was right they don't have allergy how can she have, because she has come from her village to a jungle and hence these jungli people don't have any allergy to Alta 😂😂🤭.
Donon paksh ki baat jaane bagair; faisla suna diya, kayi baar though he is in the occupation of law enforcement . Her issues are not limited to a deal shaadi or a jeethi jaathi ex or not (she is still not aware) of her husband, issues are with those people too who try to dominate weak ones.
Ghar ki buri aadat
We observe certain things and ensure we don’t do the same mistake. She has noticed how Aai or Shivani Bua and now even Mohit are jus run over by these bullies because they just take it.
A few quotes that talks about oppression
There is one famous saying that tells that the person who tolerates injustice is at more fault than the person who is the reason for the injustice.
"Each time a man stands up for an ideal, or acts to improve the lot of others, or strikes out against injustice, he sends forth a tiny ripple of hope, and crossing each other from a million different centers of energy and daring those ripples build a current which can sweep down the mightiest walls of oppression and resistance."
"People get used to anything. The less you think about your oppression, the more your tolerance for it grows. After a while, people just think oppression is the normal state of things. But to become free, you have to be acutely aware of being a slave."
"Because to take away a man's freedom of choice, even his freedom to make the wrong choice, is to manipulate him as though he were a puppet and not a person."
Ofcourse one has to choose their battles wisely and that is where Sai is failing miserably.
Aap kaun hothey hain meri samajdhaari ke baare mein baat karne waale. Was very rude and he doesn't deserve these. She claiming her aaba only gave her responsibility, correcting her is not a responsibility? Sai lacks to understand these and have to be respectful all the time.
It is partially right because he waivers a lot, not consistent or I would say doesn’t treat everyone equally. If how getting a rose for all was important and to keep everyone happy, reprimanding all equally is also important (leaving out elders since that is what is our culture and he has been taught, we respect that).
Erupting like a volcano on one and acting all understanding and just acting stern with another when the other also makes the same degree of mistake. Yeh kahaan ka nyaay hai which is why she is riled up.
Why this soft corner?
Kya aap unki galti ko sahi tehrayenge because his reactions to Pakhi's badtameezi is not the same as the reaction he gives to Sai. It only implies one thing or confirms her assumption , he has got soft corner for Pakhi didi, daba hua feelings get surfaced time and again and his moral values are not letting him accept the truth and hence the accusation hiding behind the name of friendship.
It is not true though, is her assumption.
Totally uncalled for revelation
Kaku was right just in this one thing, I can tolerate your badtameezi not your dirty accusations. Though it was really dirty, would have been okay only if it had been true.
This accusation is applicable on Sonali or Karishma since they are aware of it and Sonali shamelessly asked Pakhi as why she didn’t extend her stay, should enjoy her life. Would she have let her husband go with his ex if he had any? All she wanted to do was to inflict pain in both Pakhi and Sai knowing very well what is going on in their life.
There was absolutely no necessity to use words like khilauna, it could be perceived in anyway even though she meant something else. It came out to be a dirty thing because it was used in the context of trip.
Kaisa trip hai yeh
Let’s first rewind to the trip fiasco.
Pakhi – tum dono ka yeh kaisa trip hai
Virat was shocked beyond words, embarassed and also worried if Sai gets wrong idea about his intentions so he immediately looked at Sai to see if she misunderstood him after what Pakhi spoke.
Then the next question about honeymoon
This riled up Sai, kya bakwaas hai, they were very far from any of these and it would look like a bakwaas to her, ismen honeymoon kahaan se aa gaya.
The next natural question “aap mere pati ke saath kaise trip pe ja rahe ho"
One has to hear it in context and also understand it from a wife’s pov who is now accused of being an opportunist to have agreed to join two friends in their trip, one being her husband.
Her question means if you call our trip honeymoon, what kind of trip do you plan to have with my husband that I as a wife cannot join and that you are making such a big issue out of it. This is exactly what it means when she asked that. Aap mere pati ke saath kaise trip pe ja rahe ho jismein mein aap donon ke saath nahi chal sakthi? Yeh kaisa trip hai jismein mere saath aane se aapko ithna gussa aur takleef ho raha hai?
Hypocrisy at the max
Her questions looks unethical but a friend raising objections to a wife joining is understandable? The trip which was organized by Kaku and hence Sai as impulsive as she is jumped the gun and got it all wrong and blamed a wrong person.
Virat didn't deserve it
“Kichad me patthar maroge to iske chhiten aap par bhi padenge” Sai didn’t have to do it, Sai pe pad gaya. Not just the family members but even fans hate Sai's accusation especially on Virat. She could have thought about his reputation and how insulting it is for him.
As Pakhi rightly said it is an insult to Virat. Virat doesn’t deserve it especially when he is so loyal to her (deal waali biwi as per her). Baat karne ka saleekha, she has to work on that and it is true bohot baari keemat chukani padegi (though it is applicable to.both “aapko bhi").
If in the trip fiasco, Sai became mahaan, after this Pakhi became a victim though she is not.
Sach ka saath - does it mean to reveal it this way?
Yes many feel, she is better off without him, but she likes him and has started to feel for him and would only like to live with him. If that is what she wants, she also has to mend her ways. Being truthful and blunt is okay to some extent bit not outrightly brutal and especially when that is not even true.
She can clearly understand what Pakhi feels, trying to impress Virat and putting her down and showing her in a bad light and that has been happening for so long that it exploded this way this time. Virat had been silent when Pakhi insulted her especially when she came to their room questioning their marriage, if he got anything out of this marriage, how she is not at all worthy of him and him remaining silent to these didn’t help. It only added more spices to the khichdi which was getting cooked in her head about these two.
She knows he is loyal and that is why told him that he is suppressing his feelings for her.
Khilona? An object? Is he the subject or an object.
The subject is the person or thing doing something. The object is having something done to it.
Virat is not the subject, he isn’t doing anything, he is being used, is played by all these manipulative people.
Why would one not have such doubts (not all would) looking at how unfair they act, one is chaheethi bahu and others are naalayak.
They are actually using her friendship with Virat to separate them by plotting against them and the subjects (Virat and Sai) are unaware of it.
Pakhi go check why Virat hasn’t come down yet on the day of her results. Aai suggested Sai to go and Bhavani objected and sent Pakhi? Who does that? What kind of an impression does that leave in one’s mind?
Everyone (Virat said it himself) knows that she is the one who gives him food.
Having said all these, I am not happy with how it turned out to be. Virat was embarrassed and was very hurt and highly disappointed with Sai after all this. Her target was Pakhi and Kaku but it only hit Virat since he was the khilona she was talking about.
Though she meant that he is always granted permission to give emotional support to Pakhi and vice versa. Pakhi shows her rights on Virat with no hesitation and no objection by members of the family to support or check on Virat whenever they have a fight or when he is upset. Sai knows Pakhi gets pleasure out of these and belittles Sai saying what has she done for you. Pakhi without any words convey to Sai that see, you are useless, he will only look for my support when he needs one and only I understand him well. Her smirk, sadistic pleasure, does this not mean she is somehow pleased by the fact that no one will stop me from talking or doing anything for Virat?
Well, no justification for what she spoke but I have tried to see why would she even think such a word in first place.
Victim card served on a platter
After all her malicious words and actions, she has a business class ticket in the ship of friendship and will now be seen as a victim. If only Sai chose right words and exposed (wouldn’t have hurt Virat). Though exposing them was not necessary, not atleast for now.
One part of me says she is served in a silver platter but there is another part of me which also felt it was insulting to Pakhi too the way the word khiloa was used. I do agree that she likes Virat, doesn’t want Sai to be in his life but is he a khilauna to her? She just wants him to have a good impression of her and cannot accept him giving the position he once planned to give her to someone else. Looks like Pakhi understood the khilona to be something else, something dirty.
Yes, ofcourse it was a blatant lie, that they were just friends and met only on the day of Haldi and all. What about all the phone calls she made to Virat or him to her? And didn't they confess on the day of Haldi? Sai was aware of her calls a few times or just once, i don’t remember.
Sai was shocked that she is lying right on her face. Sai knows what she thinks of Virat sir. Logon ki samajh toh Virat ko bhi nahi hai. It is as if his first impression is the only or impression till the end. He does get shocked to see her behavior towards Sai but what she thinks about him is beyond his comprehension.
Dosti shabd ka mazaak banakey rakh diya?
Safed jhooth bolne se woh sach nahi ban jaatha.
Agar Kaku ek dost ko madad karne ke liye bhej rahi hai toh kya galti ki hai, phir ek patni apne pati ke saath chalthi hai toh kya galthi hai?
Fire is set now, how they put it out depends on their own actions. One has to own up to their actions whoever it is.
We should wait and watch how their relationship moves forward after all this revelation and insults.
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