Would Pakhi tolerate this?

Originally posted by: Anvi2009

As much as I hate talking about Patraleka, the thing is she keeps on telling Sai to be quiet and not talk in front of elders to maintain the peace in the household. Sai should just tell her back that if these people talked this way with you, would you tolerate it?

I just had to make a post on this, because this did occur to me before, but after reading Anvi's comment in previous topic it occurred to me that would pakhi response be if sai asked pakhi in front of all, that what would she do if she was being treated and talked to by all the family the way sai has been treated since the day of her grahpravesh?

What would pakhi say if sai pointed out to her that when she merely taunted pakhi over intruding into sai-virat's room and matters all the time, pakhi had taken this as an insult and decided to leave the house, then how would pakhi have tolerated it if the family everyday launched themselves at her with their colourful languages that they usually give to sai?

Truth is, both sai and pakhi are not the type of girls who can take insults lying down, the difference is in the approach. Sai is confrontational and not afraid in standing up for herself, whilst pakhi simply would not be able to take the heat and just run away from the situation back to her parents house.

Sai confronts the insults heads on, whilst pakhi just resorts to playing victim card and running and hiding. Even saturday episode when virat correctly pointed out that she can't just blame sai for all the family problems, what did pakhi do? She showed him the hand and walked away. 😆 Because the girl knew she had no way to respond to the truth. When the girl runs away from confronting and admitting the truth, how will she stand her ground and confront family elders if having to face daily abuse the way sai is?

So sai should question pakhi in front of all that pakhi always taunts her and calls her badtameez for answering back to the family when the family insults and taunts her, but would pakhi take her own advice of not talking back to elders and take their insults silently and say or do nothing back if it was pakhi who was at the receiving end of the family elder's daily insults, taunts and humiliation?

This is the golden question that may shut this so-called ideal bahu's mouth. She will only be ideal bahu up until the point that she is not the target of the family's insults.

Sammy you bring up a great point.

It is so easy to criticize a person and give them advice in situations when you are not in the same situation.

Pakhi if for a moment would have stopped and activated her mature brain to see Sai's perspective she would not be stopping so low and degrading her younger sister in law.

There is a saying in Kutchi that I remember "Aavu mani ke chhya, muju koi ke to main royi piya" ( main jo chaahoon kah sakata hoon, lekin agar koee mujhase kuchh kahata hai to main rota hoon) that applies to Pakhi didi perfectly.

Virat needs to introspect the situation. And Sai dear please ask this question to Pakhi didi about what and how would she react to the situation if she were to be on the receiving end. Make sure to this in the zillat arena so family does not miss out.

Sammy, replying here in this thread only because of you, a few words in a high tone Pakhi is ready to leave with her suitcase without informing....or saying bye to anyone is enough to describe this woman. i already feel tired with this show...

A group of people are here to accuse a girl of 18 yrs old it was not enough that Virat joined the wagon....

Hey in a few days the makers will watch the show alone overconfident they are???

Originally posted by: Tali_99

Sammy you bring up a great point.

It is so easy to criticize a person and give them advice in situations when you are not in the same situation.

Pakhi if for a moment would have stopped and activated her mature brain to see Sai's perspective she would not be stopping so low and degrading her younger sister in law.

There is a saying in Kutchi that I remember "Aavu mani ke chhya, muju koi ke to main royi piya" ( main jo chaahoon kah sakata hoon, lekin agar koee mujhase kuchh kahata hai to main rota hoon) that applies to Pakhi didi perfectly.

Virat needs to introspect the situation. And Sai dear please ask this question to Pakhi didi about what and how would she react to the situation if she were to be on the receiving end. Make sure to this in the zillat arena so family does not miss out.

@Bold- This reminds me of the time I once said "you can give shit but can't take it" to this girl who bullied me in class and barked back at me when I told her to F off out of the class if she's so bored with the class curriculum that she needs to talk to me for entertainment.

Originally posted by: ALUJNA21

Sammy, replying here in this thread only because of you, a few words in a high tone Pakhi is ready to leave with her suitcase without informing....or saying bye to anyone is enough to describe this woman. i already feel tired with this show...

A group of people are here to accuse a girl of 18 yrs old it was not enough that Virat joined the wagon....

Hey in a few days the makers will watch the show alone overconfident they are???

Yes dear. Ideal bahu pattar lekha will be best bahu for chavans who doesn't answer back and stays quiet only till she is not the one who is target of their abuse.... the moment they make her the target she will cry foul and be out of the door back to her maayka because she doesn't have the guts to deal with abuse in the strong-headed way sai does and because this pattar lekha is all about respecting elders at face value only where she will listen to their orders but not have guts to call them out on their behaviour. What is the point in respecting elders if elders take advantage of their position to only abuse those younger than them and refuse to even admit that they are being abusive unjustifiably?

Hey, u guys remember,....

She already tried to leave house on 1week after her wedding because Ashwini is taunting her....and she also answered back to Ashwini .... I guess for her Ashwini is not elder😁😁

Originally posted by: Saichintalli

Hey, u guys remember,....

She already tried to leave house on 1week after her wedding because Ashwini is taunting her....and she also answered back to Ashwini .... I guess for her Ashwini is not elder😁😁

And she left also after Sai showed her the mirror. The night when Virat got Sai back to his room.

LIke many of you guys pointed out, both Sai and Pakhi wont take anything against their self respect. But the way both understand Virat is different. The trust factor.

During the wedding rituals, Sai kept saying, I am not hurt, you have hurt someone because you hold a vaada with them. Go talk to them. The other event of sharing the bed, she fully trusts him. Pakhi, outright told that Virat cheated her and proved to be like any other male, she didnt ask for the vaada, but he did it. Other times, Sai had made the talepeth or some dish I forgot, but our didi was busy serving bread and butter to Virat. Her expectation and possessiveness with Virat is illogical. I doubt he would have had a peaceful life with her. She would always had been in doubt and no trust.

Pakhi is a very weak character tbh. She either runs away or comply when others are against her (not going to her parents house, leaving the job for the family, even now there is no mention about whether she is actually looking for a job).

As pointed out above, she tends to run away, escape a lot of times, and that is when someone is trying to show her the mirror - Sai reminding her that she is married to Samrat and Virat telling her that she can't blame Sai for everything.

But she is also like that student who'd remind the teacher about the homework that the teacher had forgotten about. She likes to stay in the good books of people because it serves her ego. And so, i'm inclined to believe that she'd either manipulate things in her favour by sugar coating her words sos that it never gets to the extent it got for Sai. This is sonething can't do because she is too frank and on your face types or there is the option of running away anyway.

Originally posted by: Saichintalli

Hey, u guys remember,....

She already tried to leave house on 1week after her wedding because Ashwini is taunting her....and she also answered back to Ashwini .... I guess for her Ashwini is not elder😁😁

Yep lol.... and the things ashwini said to her were very very tame and sugar-coated and they were not even actual insults. This pakhi is just weak.