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Just my thoughts on grief, especially loss of a child.
At one time, it used to be incomprehensible to me. I just couldn't fathom how a parent, who's experienced in real life, his or her worst nightmare, can ever get back to 'normal', or at-least pick up pieces of his or her shattered world and 'try' to get back to normal.
But it happens. Due to the nature of my occupation, I've not only seen death and grief at close quarters, but recovery and healing as well.. Not all, but most parents pass through the various stages of grief to finally arrive at acceptance...and some semblance of peace. Yes, a part of them changes irrevocably, and an aching void remains in their heart, forever, but in most cases, their spirit finds it within itself, the strength to pull itself out of the darkness. Towards hope and life.
Grieving is a personal process that has no time limit, and it varies from person to person in it's nature, intensity and length, but generally speaking, normal grieving process with it's five stages (Denial and Isolation, Anger, Bargain, Depression and Acceptance) lasts for about 1-2 years.
When Arnav first met Khushi, he was towards the end of the Depression stage( which he'd reached about a year after Aarav's death)...and Khushi(and love) coming in his life is helping him out of this stage to finally reach acceptance.
Lavanya, unfortunately, is still at stage two...'Anger', because she is simultaneously battling with many other psychological issues.
May God make this healing process easier for all such parents..
By writing about this topic, my intention was not to trivialize it in any way, I'm sorry if it's coming across as such..
Just my thoughts on grief, especially loss of a child.
At one time, it used to be incomprehensible to me. I just couldn't fathom how a parent, who's experienced in real life, his or her worst nightmare, can ever get back to 'normal', or at-least pick up pieces of his or her shattered world and 'try' to get back to normal.
But it happens. Due to the nature of my occupation, I've not only seen death and grief at close quarters, but recovery and healing as well.. Not all, but most parents pass through the various stages of grief to finally arrive at acceptance...and some semblance of peace. Yes, a part of them changes irrevocably, and an aching void remains in their heart, forever, but in most cases, their spirit finds it within itself, the strength to pull itself out of the darkness. Towards hope and life.
Grieving is a personal process that has no time limit, and it varies from person to person in it's nature, intensity and length, but generally speaking, normal grieving process with it's five stages (Denial and Isolation, Anger, Bargain, Depression and Acceptance) lasts for about 1-2 years.
When Arnav first met Khushi, he was towards the end of the Depression stage( which he'd reached about a year after Aarav's death)...and Khushi(and love) coming in his life is helping him out of this stage to finally reach acceptance.
Lavanya, unfortunately, is still at stage two...'Anger', because she is simultaneously battling with many other psychological issues.
May God make this healing process easier for all such parents..
By writing about this topic, my intention was not to trivialize it in any way, I'm sorry if it's coming across as such..
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