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Hello people...Hope you all are having a great sunday. Well I dont know what prompted me to make this post but just a few days back while watching the re-runs I was thinking that how the forum made a hue and cry when during the wedding track Sumo disapproved of Aditya's closeness. Many said that Sumo is misleading Aditya and sadly even I felt that she was doing wrong with Aditya. I feel so sorry at my own self for thinking that. Really was Sumo so wrong when she told Aditya that she wasnt comfortable in getting intimate with him before marriage? Or she was uncomfortable in saying I love you? Or even if she had hidden feelings for someone else or she had an ex (not exactly) she wanted to move on from? Did all this make her any wrong for Aditya? And now I can strongly say NO! It never did. How in the world Aditya's stupid expectations made her at fault?
In our country we have been born and brought up in an arranged marriage setup. Even Aditya and Suman were having an arranged marriage where there was attraction just from one side. And most of the girls are not comfortable with getting intimate in an arranged marriage setup before taking the plunge for not just emotional reasons but safety reasons too. And here I am talking about modern girls like us. Yes we exist! Even the court of law can blame a partner of not being able to satisfy the other's sexual needs "post marriage"? Then how does Sumo denying Aditya an ILU or a kiss made her any wrong for him? She had earlier only told to him that she will take time to get there as all this is new to her. And it was the jerk who didn't have enough sensitivity or sensibility to understand that she was just nursing a bad past. And in case he didnt want a girl with baggage, he like a spineless man he wad always been could have opted out of the alliance. But he went a step ahead and proved how he was so much more disgusting than we all knew. It's heart-wrenching some even went to the level of justifying Aditya's act against Sumo's apathy or Shravan's lie. Which is why Namik was appalled and made it to twitter saying "Nothing can justify assault"...I understood his anger then only but the impact, I realized off late.
And in all this the only conclusion I could draw was that Aditya was a jerk of the highest levels. He not only eyed Sumo's modesty but continuously invaded her personal space too because as a typical MCP he thought that being her fiance he owned her...even her feelings and choices 🤢 I feel sad someone even compared Shravan's act to that of Aditya because what Shravan did was nothing but a weak moment. The weak moment of a betrayed and trodden down son. It was unfortunate that in his junoon he didn't realize that his own best friend came in the line of fire. The pain of losing his mom and love together in one go made him go insane. And though he too was terribly wrong but nowhere comparable to the heinous act done by Aditya.
As for Sumo, I believe if she ever wronged anyone by saying YES to Aditya, It was Shravan 😭 So many times she herself confessed that she knew Shravan loved her. Even when Shravan used to be Jealous of Aditya during PreeKar wedding track she would internally know why he is acting that way and still when he took up a fight with her, all she could do was pity herself for not knowing his "true feelings" and believing he hates her? LIke really woman? Not even once she tried to know what went wrong with a guy who till the last day was consoling her and saying he would stand tall by her side forever. She believed his words at face value and dissed all his love she herself had felt always (even read his letter). She didn't even think what he will do alone when she will be gone despite she had all the idea how Ramnath would destroy his life. And this wrong of Sumo really made her too eligible for if not an equal but a very strong apology from Shravan. To our misfortune, that never happened 💔
But all I can say is in that whole fiasco if there was anyone who was the real anti-hero...It was Aditya. ShraMan were both flawed and perfectly so for each other. Only they had the ability to rinse off each other's flaws and forgive each other too. Only they had that much love to make up for the wrongs they did to each other. And amidst all this, Aditya's angle was a mare mirage to our society's chauvinism.
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