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Dear Sumo,
I am writing this letter to knock some sense into you. I don't think you realise that you have a gem of aa husband by your side and yet you have no clue of what you have been blessed with. You have read his letter and then believed what he said about moving on. He did not ever get to see your magic box, and after your initial rejection, he somewhere still does not feel confident about you.
He loves you to the moon and back. Every time it is about your mom, your family, he softens up like a little baby just to make you comfortable. He does not say a word about you to them.
He instantly knew you were lying and asked you for the truth in private. When he was gone, you assumed he was torturing you out of his ego. You did not even ask him what happened, you had every right. He was being beaten black and blue by the senseless Aditya and you did not even find it necessary to probe.
He respects your self respect with all honesty. He is not a polished buffoon like Aditya so he does everything straight forward. He gave you the papers for PCT directly, he would gift a dress directly and not do round about tricks like Aditya.
You know his relationship with his mum. Why hurt him where it hurts the most. Please don't be so insensitive that you snatch his food at the end of the long day. You could have really made his favorite karela and taken a step towards him. He respects your love for your parents and went all out to protect your house.
Take a deep breath and think of what he told Aditya. It is his last sub conscious effort to not lose you. He indirectly may have hurt you, I agree but all he wanted was his love. Think Think, talk it out with him. Keep it private, don't insult him in front of everyone.
His tone and actions are wrong but his intentions are not. After Preekar marriage fiasco, he was trying to protect his fathers reputation and wish by asking for a grand marriage. All of a sudden court marriage was to ensure that nothing, no one can take you away from him ever.
He creating a scene and told you rude things in PCT. He humiliated you. I don't support that. I just want to say, Did you ever share the investor idea of Aditya with him. He was in the dark and he was so convinced that his Sumo would never agree to what Aditya has to say. He was wounded, his faith shaken.
Every time, he humiliates you ...you trigger it with some action of yours. He loses control and you know that he will. Is it fair to call him his fathers son ? He left everything behind to settle down in India. It takes time to build something and what's wrong if his father is helping him. We are proud you are self made but don't look down upon others
I agree you did what you did because of your family and his father but he does not know that.
Please take some time, take a walk around the lawn and think of ways of unravelling your husband, be his pillar and watch the diamond emerge. Hold him close to your chest for life and you will be the richest person on this planet.
From a hapless Shraman Fan
who sees traces of her brother in Shravan Malhotra.