Young Sumo absolutely knew his mom left. He told her, and she said, if she left, she left, what am I supposed to do. This after she had said loudly that she doesn't feel hearing another one of his complaining about his parents' fight.
Sumo definitely knows what happened, and that his mother indeed left. Because she's been friends with Pushkar all these years, goes to their house, etc. And the family is a rich well-known family. It's most likely known to everyone the wife left the family. So yeah, she would and should know that Shravan's mother indeed left that day and that was what he was so upset about.
Sumo was wrong then, but what really is the problem is her lack of true apology and acknowledgement of it to Shravan. You know there are stories of people who have been bullied in life getting Facebook messages from their bullies now that they've grown, up apologizing-- like really heartfelt apologies.
What does Sumo do? It's one thing if she doesn't want to write message to him and wants to do it face to face. But she writes a letter with a smiley face. Okay, that's fine too. But then she is aware clearly that he is upset. She saw him feigning ignorance of her, but then sees how much he clearly remembers everything when he came to her house.
(Here she also did something which shows how still childish she is a bit with this. She removed a chess piece. Maybe she did think if he lost he wouldn't be back since her grandfather would be happy with the win. But still, what she did was insert herself into what was between Shravan and her grandfather, and kind of even dishonor/sully the sportsmanship that existed between the two men.)
So she realizes when she clearly sees how aloof he is with her. She says sorry. He brushes it off, but she is too immature to realize the obvious. How is it not clear to anyone that he clearly is bothered by it, as can be seen by his coldness to her? So she hits back with her defense mechanism. And says the thing which probably speaks truth to the matter of how she views it. Sure she said it to cover herself up, but she clearly neither then nor now had grasped exactly how big it was. So big that she SEES right in front of her how he behaves with her. Still she says what she does.
A mature person would not have said what she did, but would have realized it still was an issue.
Then comes her quickness to lash out at him over the Mata ki Chowki incident. But okay, that can be passed over. Though that is the straw that broke the camel's back for him. It was after that he decided to do what he did.
So Shravan does what he does. Which was wrong. And she absolutely is right for being aloof and angry at him. But here's the thing. Even today in the Holi episode, when she settles everything and says 'hisab barabar'---a MATURE person would have acknowledged and apologized for her actions 10 years ago, and for slighting him and not taking into account his feelings at present. So even with her being angry and balancing accounts with him, even with her not forgetting and forgiving his actions--if she were truly to be done with a good and clean conscience, it should be with her acknowledging her wrong actions as well.
I guess it's Hisab Barabar for her because he hasn't apologized for his actions, so why should she really do so. If we go by that thought, yes, score is even. But she has no moral high ground over him for as long as she refuses to acknowledge and apologize. Yes, he did worse to her-- he plotted and planned it for specifically for that reaction (that too he does it at the age of 26-27 when HE should know better). And he needs to apologize. But that doesn't absolve her from her need to truly acknowledge and apologize either.
But I do think the way narrative sees it, it is of the opinion that since Sumo has changed, has been waiting for him all this time so she could apologize, that is her justification. And that Shravan is in the wrong (which is true), needs to apologize (which is true) and see her as she is today and realize what she has gone through (also true).
Everything the narrative is implying in terms of Shravan I absolutely agree with. But regarding Sumo, Nah! She does need to GIVE him that explanation of why she didn't contact him for 10 years, but rather was waiting for him. And she also needs to ACKNOWLEDGE that even if she had good intentions in mind and wanted to apologize, how she wanted to do it and how she went about it were faulty.
Edited by KhatamKahani - 9 years ago
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