I have read all the discussions above and it's quite interesting that such kind of discussion is actually leading to intense and deep conversations in regard to the show of course. But then psychology plays it game and I am bound to write just so to make my point clear.
"Every human being, with no exception, for the mere fact to be it, is worthy of unconditional respect of everybody else; he deserves to esteem himself and to be esteemed."
"Our ego is your conscious mind, the part of your identity that you consider your "self." If you say someone has "a big ego," then you are saying he is too full of himself."
Here is the difference and the way you draw the thin line between self respect and ego.
Self respect or even ego cannot be classified as good or bad but both of them are the need of your body. Psychologically saying it's correlated and the most interesting part is with high self esteem comes the little amount of ego a person's posess.
For instance let's take our leads in example.
Shravan ten years back was a geek. A total nerd who was smitten in love with his best friend who failed to even acknowledge his presence in school. At times she would say she is embarrassed of him and that his image is what should be maintained more than her friendship with Shravan. The rather interesting part here is that even though Shravan disliked this very fact he lived with it and he did not have any problem with the way Suman behaved with him while in high school.
Now this is exactly what he wants Suman to do.He wants Karma to bite her ass and wants her to live with this ego of his if not forever for some time.But little does he realise that she is still the Sumo at heart.
But things happened which I believe is Suman even though she did not want had to embarrass Shravan because of the letter and in a fit of rage, hurt and betrayal Shravan left for London. While in London his self respect and the embarrassment is what changed him. Ironically Suman being the very reason for the change in his behavior and whatever that took place in London.
Here in India Suman has regretted each day but along with that she has established herself in her own small way. Please note she has also changed herself and let down her ego and became the girl Shravan wanted for his forgiveness. However for the long years of ego in high school her narcissist self does come out because she takes her phone and pretends to be busy. We could fairly say Suman's ego comes out in installments and Shravan is just carrying it as a mask on his face.
The two things common between them in this phase is that they have changed for the other and of course stalk each other.
Now when back Suman excitedly reaches his house only to find Shravan mentioning "He does not remember her."This is the ego speaking. It's the version of Shravan created in his mind that yes I have achieved something and now I am beyond her and apparently "moved on".
This hits the ego of Suman and for her, self respect she walks away and barges out. Her tears speak for her and well Shravan did notice in the part and looked at her going; an act of his ego.
"Possessing little self-regard can lead people to become depressed, to fall short of their potential, or to tolerate abusive situations and relationships."
"Too much self-love, on the other hand, results in an off-putting sense of entitlement and an inability to learn from failures."
The above things do not suit our leads completely but more or less defines the change that has taken place in both of them in this decade. In sociology and psychology, self-esteem reflects a person's overall subjective emotional evaluation of his or her own worth. It is a judgment of oneself as well as an attitude toward the self.
The thing is not the fight between the leads for the ego is the main theme of the story. The war is still between the other's self respects. Shravan is still in the past of what happened ten years ago which has hurt him deeply and scarred his self respect. The scars have scared him and the memories haunt and that is why he is shown to be tough just to show her that "yes Suman I have moved on."
He has lied to the whole world but his actions just show that he is still that nerd, geek and smitten in love with Suman and here is where ego just rightly fits in. He fails to admit this. It's his illusion created in his mind.
Same with Suman. She has lived the past ten years in the hope to get his forgiveness. She has let down her ego to get back that friendship with him and boom in the first meeting party where he says "I don't remember her."First attack on her, self respect and further more now in the party it is going to be exactly the same way .And this is going to hurt her, self respect too but she is the "Sumo". She will show him that she has lived ten years without him and will live more.
Therefore are all pretence and a facade they are going to play with. Rightly as Gia and Gurleen said they are going to fight the battles of "moving on" from each other but with the hope to have their partners by their side.
Uff that was one long ranting which made absolute no sense but yayie its a holiday for me right away and that too three long days.I hope I could make justice to it and relate rightly.
Edited by loquacious_me - 9 years ago
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