Real life is not Maine Pyaar Kiya!

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Posted: 10 years ago
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I'm so sick of this Sam blame game...

In reality, within a ratio of 1:3 maybe only 1 set of friends become lovers, the rest have lives of their own

Stop expecting Sam to realize her love for Neil, just because he is in love with her, you can't make someone love you back, if they just don't feel it on their side.

And right now Sam has made it perfectly clear that all Neil will ever be to her is her best friend. It should be accepted.

The only way to agree that a guy and girl can't be friends is because...

...There is always that 1 who expects more than friendship at that 1st introduction but settles for friendship the minute they are friend-zoned.

I have numerous amounts of guy friends, and a few good guy friends and then a bestie, now should I fall in love with all of them just because maybe 1 or all decide they have feelings 4 me no nah, thats a decision they have taken all on their own

Sam is herself, and Neil loves her for herself, but that doesn't mean that Sam HAS to love him back

TV is not reality, is our life really like Maine Pyaar Kiya? Sorry but TV continuously showing us that a guy and girl can't be just friends only sets 1 up for heartache

Neil says he has to go or die. He will give Sam's hand in Arjun's hand and go away empty handed.

But that boy is crying on his own strength, this is what I don't get, if Sam doesn't feel it, you can't force her to see it either

The only people in this story that's selfish is Nandhini and Arjun

Radhika, Sam and Neil are not selfish, you can't even blame Sam for being selfish, she is not a mind reader, so unless Neil has the guts 2 tell her and be dirt honest, no holds barred, all jokes aside, the full truth and she still wants him to be her friend and watch her marry Arjun then that's the day I will call Sam selfish

If Neil has the guts to stop Sam, then I will accept

If Neil truly loves Sam, he should take a stand and declare his love,

but

Neil steps back, lovers fight for their love, not cry like babies, it's not real love.

It's either Neil steps up this time and declare his love than I know its going the NeSam way, otherwise am not buying it

And her friend is not giving her any hints of Devdas nah, only WE the audience can see his pain, he did tell his mother not to cry, else Sam will doubt, so he is really good at covering his feelings in front of her

He himself hasn't realized exactly, that he needs to be the one to tell the truth at least before walking away, to give her the chance to give him a yes or no, does she even want to be with him, he needs to ask, she has a right to know, and he deserves to know, not just walk away without even trying, and Neil is not trying, he's just crying

And obviously Sam can't read his pain, she is getting engaged to the man of her dreams, she is in her own happy world,

This is the 2nd time Neil has made a joke of something that he should be telling the truth about the last time he lied about his feelings when she chose Arjun, this time again he lies and covers with his joke.

So Neil either step up or ship out, this is not Sam's fault!

Anyone who is trying to live life off television shows and trying to relate to them is setting themselves up for a major heartbreak.

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Posted: 10 years ago
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You are correct in many ways.. But you didn't understand what love is.. Love is not possessing someone. It's letting go free them and make them do what they want and enjoy seeing themt happy...this is true love.. And this is Neil ''s love
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: sindu_gurti

You are correct in many ways.. But you didn't understand what love is.. Love is not possessing someone. It's letting go free them and make them do what they want and enjoy seeing themt happy...this is true love.. And this is Neil ''s love


dont knock what I know or dont😉

yes that is equally true, let it go, if it comes back its yours,

but again, Neil needs to own it 1st nah, take the chance and reveal his feelings,

walk away only if he gives it his best shot, and not short change his feelings,

rather try and fail than fail to try

other wise he will always wonder if there was a chance
Edited by arishma108 - 10 years ago
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Arishma one cant love back every person who loves them
if the person who loved u is crying then its not ur fault at all
neil is been with sam for 20years he knows very clearly how to hide his feelings
he never cried infront of Sam
only viewers can see his tears..he is in so much pain...that wont make selfish
whatever i just want Neil to confess his feelings before moving on
its not a crime to love ur BF
Had sam been selfish she would have went n proposed to arjun rather going to neil
Edited by arshita235 - 10 years ago
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Posted: 10 years ago
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great post!! agree with u completely
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Bang On Post 👏.I Completely Agree With You.
Neil Should Be A Man N Go Straight To Sam .Tell Her What He Truly Feels For Her .Without Thinking About What Sam Would Say .
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Neil did confess to Sam remember and things became awkward between them and then they both talked it out , that's when Neil decided to not ruin his friendship esp when Sam was ready to sacrifice her love for him.
He even tried lying that he was cranky hence he said " i love you" but Sam saw through his lies.

Now his situation is completely different, he needs to be the best friend that sam expects him to be and cannot be selfish.

Lastly, every love story is not Maine pyar kiya types but maine pyar kiya types between friends does happen in real life. some friends do fall in love and get married




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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: tina59

Neil did confess to Sam remember and things became awkward between them and then they both talked it out , that's when Neil decided to not ruin his friendship esp when Sam was ready to sacrifice her love for him.

He even tried lying that he was cranky hence he said " i love you" but Sam saw through his lies.

Now his situation is completely different, he needs to be the best friend that sam expects him to be and cannot be selfish.

Lastly, every love story is not Maine pyar kiya types but maine pyar kiya types between friends does happen in real life. some friends do fall in love and get married






Yes, if you re -read the post I made, you would notice that I did acknowledge his confession the 1st time round.

Again, it's all his decision, she is not forcing him to make these choices, it's like this right, I can give you a gun and tell you go ahead, blow your brains out, but you still gotta make that choice of pulling the trigger nah (not intended to be harsh I was watching Deer Hunter😊)

Again, let me reiterate, please re-read the post, I even acknowledge that😊 yes, 1 out of 3 friends perhaps turn into lovers...

But if every girl and boy goes through life expecting their best friend to love them and then marry them, especially in the year 2015, where we can choose who to love irrespective of it being returned or not, there's gonna be a lot of expectations and despair from people in this world.

Would YOU marry your best friend if they declared love for you?

For ME: If I didn't feel it all this time, I'm not going to force myself and feel it and also in the process ruin a perfectly good relationship over a "could it work?" you don't ponder over a question like that, love happens or it doesn't?

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Posted: 10 years ago
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Sorry to ask a dumb question...What happened in Maine Pyaar Kiya? Haven't watched the movie 😕😆
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I completely agree with you on the point that Sam is not as fault. Even if she was aware of Neil's feelings, she is not obliged to love him back. Here, she doesn't know at all. And Neil is hiding his feelings. So she can't be expected to realize that being close to Neil is hurting him. She is just being with her friend. And so blaming Sam makes no sense.

But I do not agree about Neil. I think he is behaving as anybody in this situation would. When he first realised his feelings, he told Sam right away. It made things awkward and Sam was the one who asked for her friend back. Neil complied and made light of his feelings purely to spare Sam any discomfort. He is continuing to do so now. If he tells Sam his feelings now, when he knows she is in love with someone else, there friendship will never be the same. There will be awkwardness and uncomfortable silences and what not. Sam will feel guilty and sad for no fault of hers. And Neil can't stand that. He can't simply confess, not having regard to the consequences. Because whats at stake here is something important to him. Sam should not be deprived of her friend simply because he fell in love with her. It's not Sam's fault that Neil loves her. So ho can he take away that friend from her right now?

And as far as his going away is concerned, it's a decision made when Neil is at his lowest. Even if he does go, I don't think his plan is to stay away forever, regardless of what he says now. Being away for some time will help him in preserving this friendship that he has with Sam. It will give him time to settle and be normal with Sam again. Of course, the story will not show this as Samaira and Neil are a couple but in real life, this is what would have happened in such a situation.
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